Do you think that a person's child should be taken away because they are too old

United States
July 17, 2007 7:10am CST
Today I heard about a little five year old boy who was taken away from his custodial grandparents and placed in foster care because a court stated they were simply too old to care for him. In my view, I'm not sure how taking a child out of a caring grandparent or parents home would ever be a good thing. No way! It worries me that perhaps courts are opening up the door to discriminate against older parents. Who is to say what is too old? Should we allow courts to decide when we don't get to be parents anymore? Do you think this situation is fair?
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18 responses
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
21 Jul 07
That is disgusting what do they think they are doing why are the taking a child out of a loving Home, no wonder the world is falling apart. How do they justify saying People are to old to look after Kids As long as the Child is happy and well looked after what is the Problem, I think it is getting a bit much how the Courts and Government are able to interfere in Peoples Lifes
@DanaMark (807)
• United States
19 Jul 07
In normal circumstances, parent wouldn't get too old. Grandparents maybe, but not parents. There could be a situation where parents are unable physically to care for their children - disabled by an accident, or whatever. And I've seen grandparents trying to care for children who are hardly capable physically to care for young children. But what should happen to those children is a tough question. I've seem many cases of foster care that were not good. Some people are in it just for the money and don't really care about the children. Others are very loving people who are a great benefit to the children. But I have a hard time with children being taken away from people who love them and given to strangers to be cared for. I'm glad I don't have to make those decisions. I would rather see children being taken in by other relatives who could care for them rather than being put in foster care. But that is not always possible either. There is no good solution in all cases.
@marinarovi (1318)
• Argentina
18 Jul 07
No, of course not! it's not fair for either of them! (parents, and kid, I mean) Besides, are foster homes in your country really that perfect that they are so much better than being with your own family, no matter how old they are? come on! A kid needs his family, even if they're not perfect. If he's not suffering any needs (and that has nothing to do with age) then let him be where he belongs, he'll be a much happier and healthier kid!! Where did this happen? Just curious...
@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
17 Jul 07
I think in this day and age where there has shown to be so much abuse of children i think this child would of been a lot better off being left with the caring grandparent and some other kind of support given to the grandparent so that this child could be continued being cared for by a family member . I think society has to go back and look at the family values why break up a family who loves and cares and place a child in an institution .Nothing can replace a family
• United States
17 Jul 07
Thats not fair, if the grandparents are able to properly care for the child and their health is good, then I dont think the actual age should matter. Its better than strangers in a foster home.
@coffeeshot (3785)
• Australia
17 Jul 07
This is a case where individual analysis on the grandparents had to be done. It is simply too distressing for both the child and the grandparents to take the child away from the home. I hope they had a very good reason for doing so as this sort of thing can really break hearts.
@Shaun72 (15965)
• Palatka, Florida
17 Jul 07
I don't see that as fair at all. I mean age shouldn't matter as long as there mind is in the right condition.
@rdorton (83)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I feel that it is wrong to take a child away from a safe and loving home based on a persons age. I think that the state should offer these grandparents the money that a foster family would recieve for caring for said child. That way the grandparents could hire a nanny for extra help with the boy. That way it wouldn't be so hard on them.
• United States
17 Jul 07
I think in almost any situation, taking the child away from his/her family and putting them in foster care is worse than them staying with the old parents. The only time the court should be able to do this, is if the guardian is incapable of properly raising a child due to physical or mental illness, not because of age.
@krishkorp (427)
• India
17 Jul 07
seriously i dont know which side to take.On the one hand the grandparents themselves need help to go along and if they are placed in foster homes the grandparents will be totally shattered.So there is a need to work out a amicable solution so that the child stays with their grandparents and a care taker is also there who take care of the child's needs. Don't know which side to take.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
17 Jul 07
No this does not seem fair or in the childs best interest at all. I know of many grandparents that are raising their grandchildren. I would like to think there was more than simply their age that brought this decision about.
• United States
17 Jul 07
I completely disagree with this entire case. How can you deny the right to family...to parenting... What kid would grow up better in a foster home than with his or her grandparents? This is absolutely outrageous. I can't believe the courts are standing for this kind of thing.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
17 Jul 07
no way, unless they r neglecting him then i don't think they should take him away, it should be based on how the care is given not how old the people r!
@Gemmygirl1 (2868)
• Australia
17 Jul 07
I think it's a hard one to judge, why? Because even though it's best for a child to be with family - if the guardians however, are too old to properly care for a child of that age then i think it's ok to have them removed from that home. Having said that, i don't think that he should have been put in to foster care, i'm sure there was another family member the boy could have been placed with rather than with a family of strangers. I think for someone to say they're too old they must have a reason & if they were elderly people then sometimes they have enough trouble caring for themselves (with the cost of living etc) without the extra costs involved with raising a young child so it is a very difficult topic. I still believe that foster care wasn't the right option coz there had to be someone else within the family, the boy could have gone to live with but the grandparents must have been incredibly elderly for them to have taken him away in the first place. So no, it's not a fair situation but it's not an easy thing to have to do, i'm sure the child protection agencies (or whatever they are there) have protocol they have to follow which has been made by the government or whoever is responsible. So even if they don't agree with the decision, they still have to follow the rules whether they agree with it or not.
@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
17 Jul 07
Well, I could understand this concept if the grandparents were in their 80's or so. But I am sure that is not the case. I think that this is awful and not a good idea at all. I hope that little boy is going to be ok. It is always more difficult for a child to adapt in a totally new environment than where he could seek refuge from his maternal or paternal grandparents. I do not think that the courts should get involved unless the grandparents could barely look after themsleves. Yes then do something but not while they are under the age of 70 then the grandparents should be given first option on raising that child.
@KissThis (3004)
• United States
17 Jul 07
There are a number of things a person would really need to know before they decide if it is fair or not. There are some elderly people trying to care for young children that aren't able to I am sorry to say. While I am an advocate for keeping children with family I am also one who believes that a child must also be safe while in the family members care. Everyone needs to be judged by the care that they give a child not by their age. There are some elderly people trying to care for children just so that they can remain with the family who can't even really care for themselves. If Social Services places a child in a home like this and the child gets hurt it will be Social Services fault for placing the child in a dangerous situation.
@lecanis (16661)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
17 Jul 07
Not knowing the full information, it's hard to make a judgement on this one. But if the child was getting proper care, then the age of the caretakers shouldn't make any difference! I realize there are many challenges older people face when it comes to raising children, but obviously these grandparents were willing to overcome them! I can understand taking the child away if there was a situation where he was running amok because the grandparents simply couldn't control him, but that doesn't sound like it was the case.
17 Jul 07
I think living with family is always preferable. If they were unable to care for him properly then they should have been given help not have him taken away.