getting married just because
20 Jul 07
both of you have to really talk and ask yourselves if both of you are ready to get married. making your girfriend pregnant is already wrong and plunging into marriage when both of you are not ready will only add more problem. the most important thing is the well being of the coming baby. you cannot correct a mistake with another mistake. but if you're ready to make the commitment go ahead, get married.
20 Jul 07
yeah i think i would love to get married if ever i got pregnant.. =) but it depend on the situation what if.. if both person is minor.. should they get married? for me.. it's not yet the right time to get married if the couple is minor age.. i think its better for them to study first and finish their college then get married.. It's useless to get married if the couple is still minor age.. they don't know yet what to do. =) and how would they earn money if they don't finish their school.. how would they find work.. =) so its really depend on the situation =)
21 Jul 07
My sister got pregnant at a minor age. Parents of both parties decided to marry them off. We helped in raising the baby until such time they could finish their studies and be on their own. I guess it's just a matter of teaching them to be responsible. They have the courage to make a baby, then they should be ready for the consequences of their actions :)
20 Jul 07
In the first place, youve done it together because you love each other, if you love your gf, then she gets pregnant accidentally then we as bf should be responsible enough for our own actions.. even if we both did it willingly, the hardest part would be at the girl coz she will be carrying the baby not the boy.. As the norms imply now adays, even if the girl gets pregnant accidentally, they should get married in a way that image of both families be protected as well as that of the baby.. sometimes its really hard to accept that things should go that way.. some men marry because of responsibility and not for the love for the girl.. But i think its better than leaving the girl and let her take care of the baby on her own or the worst would be that the baby will be aborted which is very very sad coz its already alive.. every living creature has the right to live even if it is still on thw omb of the mother.. lets just remember that things happen for a reason, maybe it did happen because god wanted to test your relationship or simply your not being carefull enough.. I just can't understand why some men go into relationship, get the girl pregnant and leave.. they just can't play that way.. respect dshould always be there.
21 Jul 07
Yes that's true. Some men opt to just marry the girl out of the call for a responsibility, just so to prove they are men enough. It's just nice if their married life would turn out fine. Sometimes, they would blame the child if the relationship turn out bad and there's no way they could get out of it as they believe in the sanctity of marriage. So pathetic!
• United States
26 Jul 07
My boyfriend got me pregnant and despite pressure from both of our families we decided not to get married. Our relationship grew and many things that needed to change did during the course of my pregnancy. When our daughter was three months old we did get married. I think getting married when we found out we were pregnant would have been a mistake and it would have never worked out. Because we waited until our relationship was more stable and we were both willing to make a lifetime commitment, I feel that we can make this work for the long run. For some people it may work to get married but with the divorce rate being so high, I think they should really think about it before jumping into it because of a baby.