When Love gets along with Friendship.....

@JBrulez (663)
Philippines
July 18, 2007 9:40am CST
What will you do if you had a bestfriend and you both have an understanding that your feelings with each other is mutual and just solid friendship... ..Then suddenly you fell inlove with him/her, in a way that you really care for him/her so much and wanting to be his/her lover.. But you know, that if ever you open this thing to him/her it might end up to the last of your friendship.. ..Now, if you are in this position. ..Would you save your realtionship and keep you feelings within yourself and never get the chance to express what you feel inside?? or Would you admit to him/her your true feelings and risk all the years of a great friendship??
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@kimthedane (1000)
• Denmark
18 Jul 07
Most time you would have some sort of feeling if your feelings was shared by your friend. In my opinion you should go for it. You never know what might happen. You got to take the chances if life as they come along. Being affraid for losing your friend i think is just an excuse for your own insecurity. If the friendship is ment to last it will last wether you try or not or if your feelings is mutualy met. Go for it.
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
tnx for sharing your thought my fren.. it would take real courage for anybody to do it. its a gamble but its the only way to have the benefit of the doubt..(:
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• Denmark
19 Jul 07
Yes it sure is a gamble, but the whole life is too. You got to be willing to take your chances to make the most of it. Hope things will work out for you. :D
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
tnx, i apprecitae the advice..(:
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
I say go for it! Who knows, maybe he/she feels the same way. And why should there be an understanding that you will only remain friends? You would be unfair to yourselves for imposing such a limitation. Friendship is a good foundation for a romantic relationship.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
i understand.. but what if he/she treats you as a friend only and thats it.. and what pain would you feel if he/she would say that he/she loves another person and told you that he/she will be glad if you become their bestman on their wedding.. ouch..
@pondlife (468)
18 Jul 07
Ah, this is really touching. It's so important to be a friend first and lover second. It's a real fairy tale when you realise that the person you're destined to spend the rest of your life with was there all along. I first met my wife when I was 14 and it took another 12 years before we finally got together. I'm feeling all warm inside right now just knowing that the love is being spread around the world. :) www.AddAnImage.com
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Wow, im touched by your story.. For sure you are both enjoying the life you are sharing now.. its really a fairy tale, and its worth being shared in order to inspire more people..
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@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
18 Jul 07
It takes 2 to tango. Relationship is mutual. So if I were you I would not be risking or loosing anything by communicating with him/her. Communication is very important here. I do not see the both of you getting anywhere further if you do not express your view and needs here. As you have said it, your feelings are true and I do not see you being rejected unless the other party wants to remain platonic. In anyway you still have him/her as a friend. So do step forward and take courage.
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
I am thinking of taking that risk too.. but im worried that the same relationship that we had before could be jeopardize once he turns me down.. imean there would be a different treatment anymore especially that she knows i have some feelings for her.
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• India
18 Jul 07
Well i think.. if u really have a good friendship where by u just share everything.. each and evrythng, then u truly understand each other well.So incase one of the person develops any love for the other, then i guess he/she should express her/his feelings.Y coz.. if u really have a good frndship , understand each other well then u probably understand the situation well. also u may never know if the other person too had the same feelings for u as well. So express ur feelings directly.. but not indirectly. If ur really good friends then whether he/she accepts ur proposal or not.. both should continue the friendship as carried before.. just a proposal should not affect the beautifulll and good frndship that u have maintained so far..be straight to ur frnd.
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
nice thoughts there bro.. would that be painful for you to be rejected..ouch..
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• United States
19 Jul 07
share your feeling many times good friends fall in love could be they have the same feeling but scared also talk about it thats what friends do
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@tweener (26)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
Hey there.. I think its not a good a idea if you would take a risk and show your affection to your bestfriend.. especially that you have this clear and solid understanding that your just friends and thats it.. what if she turns you down... i think that is painful so suggest just keep your feelings for youself..
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
Tnx for the advice.. I don't know i'm really confused especially that she's showing signs that she may have the same feelings with me, just yesterday she keeps on sending me quotes that are gives deeper meaning other than just friends.. or its just my feeling.. oh im really confused..:(
@senthil2k (1501)
• India
19 Jul 07
This is suppposed to turn out as one of the best relationships in the world. But I should say, I have seen a bad experience on this. My friend married a girl whom was his friend for a very long time. They got into love few years later and decided to got married and got married too. But only then, they found that they are best suited to be friends and NOT life partners. There are many lucky ones too , but there are few unlucky ones like my friend too.. :(
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Oh that's sad to hear.. i wish them the best..anyway tnxx for sharing, its really a sad story..):
@joshboz (1214)
• Australia
19 Jul 07
If I were you i'll gamble and take my chance.. rather than shuting my mouth and get hurt for the rest of my life.. One time pain is better.. and what if she has the same feelings with you.. you will be blessed and the foundation of your love will be as solid as your friendship..
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
you comments are inspiring, you must have an experience to share that is related to this story..tnx for your thoughts my fren.(:
@Zelmarq (12368)
• Cebu City, Philippines
19 Jul 07
Dont wait for the time you will regret for not saying your true feelings to your best friend.Its best that you let her know just how you feel for her and see from there,if she feels something for you then thats a good venue to pamper the friendship and the love you both have for each other.
@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
thats sweet..wonderful toughts my frend..tnx..(:
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
you may got the right love at the wrong time but why not ask God to show the first step in handling into that situation. you'll never know until you try. what if she also feels the same feelings for you. maybe you should show first signs of care more than a care of just being a friend. yes, its really hard to take the risk but if in case you propose but then you felt resistance then do your best to keep the friendship alive. when you propose, do it at the best time, place , mode, and with all your heart.