How to stop swearing in front of your kids?

@tomysole (457)
United States
July 18, 2007 5:31pm CST
I have a problem with using my normal form of speech in front of my kids and saying f*&$ and S*&% among other words. How does one go about changing his/her way of speaking in front of the kids.
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@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Ah, I have this problem sometimes too! My son is almost one year old so my husband and I are really trying to watch our speech! For the most part, we're okay but we noticed we weren't watching carefully enough when we pulled up to my husband's parents house. We pulled our son out and he sees the house and says "oh, s**t!" Haha...perfect timing and we know it was just him testing out his language but it was still funny!
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@tomysole (457)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Funny how they say stuff when least expected! My main problem is swearing when I'm angry and I don't want them to do the same. I have a two year old that loves to repeat everything I say and luckily he hasn't started to swear.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Well, just try to remember that your kids could go out and repeat it to a teacher or a friend and that could cause problems. What about a swear jar? every time you swear put a quarter or a dollar into it. and don't take the money out for anything. after losing a few bucks you might start to remember easier lol
@tomysole (457)
• United States
18 Jul 07
This could be a solution to the problem but then since I'm the parent I would probably just rob the swear jar!
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• Canada
18 Jul 07
Try a different angle. Try RECLAIMING the words!!! Force Under Control of the King The F word might apply to American politics, the way GW Bush is acting. Once when I accidentally said DAMN infront of my grandfather, I justified it by saying that the leg of his chair, on which I stubbed my toe, created a DAM (no N) and I could not put my foot where I thought I wanted to put it. Like the dam blocks the water the chair leg blocked my foot. I do not believe in damnation, nor do we live in a damn nation, so damn is nothing but dam to me. Another one. Being In Total Control of Herself Another word to recolaim! And hell? I don't believe in hell either. Besides a greeting is hello! Why would anyone make a greeting that sounded so much like a swear word? LOL
• United States
18 Jul 07
Your post was quite funny. Thanks for the laugh and I will be borrowing the reclaiming of the B-@-@-C-H word. Nice!! Lol
@sunshinecup (7871)
18 Jul 07
I couldn't so I have taught my girls, they are "mommy words" and yes when we are in public it is nothing for my girls to hear a man say a word and then they cover their mouths and point while shouting "AW! HE SIAD A MOMMY WORD!". So while my solution has allowed me to carry on with my horrible habit, it does seem to have an affect on others and theirs, LOL.
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@tomysole (457)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I can see my boys watching TV and saying "is that a Daddy word?"
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• United States
18 Jul 07
That is also my strategy. It is funny when other adults use swear words around my boys and they cover their mouth in astonishment thinking that they shouldn't have cussed. My boys just completely ignore them. They hear it at home so much they don't even hear it anymore. We try but it is not a priority. We explain that those are adult words and you are not allowed to use them until you are an adult. It works with the older two but the two year old still says Dammit at just the right moments. lol They can't all be good sons.
@smartmom (826)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I used to have a very bad language when growing up, because my father kept swearing in front of us children, and it therefore just seemed natural. As I started college, I began to get embarassed with my own language, and when I became a mother, I knew that I did not want to pass my bad habits along to my son. I simply had to get a lot of self control, but it worked and to this day, my four year old never swears. I just returned from two months at my father's home, and today I realized that I have picked up a few of the bad words again, so I need to start the self control again. I think the most important thing is that you acknowledge that you swear, because only then can you start correcting your own language. Take baby steps and you will reach far.
• New Zealand
18 Jul 07
Try coming up with new words to say in place of the swear words and try to use them all the time. Fudge is a good one or bugger. If you dont mind your children saying bugger. The more you say the different words the easier it becomes to replace the swearing. The same said for swearing most of the time we do it without knowing it.
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
18 Jul 07
Hi, That is a difficult problem to tackle. I used to have the same problem myself. I always really stop to think about what I am going to say when the kids are around now. Swearing is a result of impulsivity, so if you try to get rid of that, the swearing will probably stop. My two cents. cheers,
• New Zealand
18 Jul 07
Try coming new words to say in place of the swear words and try to use them all the time. Fudge is a good one or bugger. If you dont mind your children saying bugger. The more you say the different words the easier it becomes to replace the swearing. The same said for swearing most of the time we do it without knowing it.