what is the right age to get married

Philippines
July 18, 2007 8:31pm CST
i am 22 by now and have plans of getting married by next year. my officemates' concept of marrying age is about age 30 that's why here in our office, i am the only who has a different concept. Here's my case that's why i decided to get married by next year: last april, my boyfriend migrated to canada. but during his stay here, we were so inseparable that we have been used to being with each other. it was really hard for the both of us being separated for so long. that's why we planned that once he has the opportunity to come back home by next year, we'll get married, process my papers and return to canada with each other. i have no hesitations on doing this because in the first place, i really know that he'll be the one i'll be married to in the future. and i really love my boyfriend so much and i know he loves me. i want to hear your opinions and comments on this guys. thanks!
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26 responses
• Australia
19 Jul 07
I say you are old enough to marry. If you are marrying for the right reasons then go for it girl! If you don't want to be separated by him for so long, act as soon as possible! You two need to get married as soon as possible. I have a sister who is in Canada and was sponsored by her husband. It only took her 5 months to get the visa. Spousal sponsonship is on priority 1 of CIC. Good luck!
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
5 months? that was quite fast! i'm excited!! thanks!
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
Then go for it. What are you waiting for? Your age is already alright. Don't listen to any body's opinion that you are still too young. God has given you the opportunity to be married now. Don't be married so late.
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
i wouldn't wanna miss the bus! lols! thanks!
@truartiss (386)
• United States
19 Jul 07
i think the right age to get married is when your really feel that you are ready. When both of you are mature and sure that you want to be with this person for the rest of your life. I think it's best to live together first before getting married. But that's just something I would do.
• Columbus, Ohio
19 Jul 07
The right age is whenever you are ready. Nobody but you can make such a personal decision. Good luck!
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
yeah right! and i think i'm ready! being the eldest child, i have already been trained by my parents to do chores in preparation for being a wife in the future. it has somehow helped me train myself to be responsible enough.
@ryunix (25)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
Age is a silly thing. Dont get married until your 30 is odd... here i thought peopel were supposed to get married when they were in love :S If you are in love and so is he, i would only suggest one thing before getting marryed, take premarital counseling. You can get that through most churches. You dont need to be religious and the counseling does not need to be religious but it does bring up things that can help a marrage. All the best Elliott
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
i'll take that as an advice! thanks!
• Philippines
14 Aug 07
well, i have responded to the same question for quite a few times already..my opinion is this..i don't really believe that there's a "right" age for marrying..as long as both parties(you and your partner) are emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and spiritually ready then there would be no problem. i guess that concept of "right" age came about because it is during our mid 20s or late 20s that we come to achieve those..for most people most probably so..
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Well i am 28 and getting married monday for the second time. I know doesnt say much for marrying too soon lol but......I wouldnt change anything I needed my first marriage even if it failed I learned alot from it and became a better person. Now I know I am marrying the right man for me and no matter what age you are the only one who knows what is right for you.
@anonymili (3138)
19 Jul 07
At the end of the day no matter what advice anyone gives you, you are going to go ahead and do what you want to do and that sounds like you want to get married soon. Personally I think 22 is too young to get married for a girl or a guy. Then again, I'm an independent person and believe girls and guys should not tie themselves down too young to marriage. If you love each other what is the hurry? Do you think if you don't get married soon you won't love each other in a couple of years? I don't know how long you have been with your boyfriend and if it's because he lives away from you that you miss him and want to be with him. There are certain things you need to consider before taking this huge step such as are you ready to leave your family behind and go to Canada permanently, are you ready to give up all of your existing friends and have to start from scratch in a new country, are you happy to give up your job and potentially not be able to work in Canada or possibly not find a good job that you're happy in once you live there? There are other factors to consider but I have to say that it's not just a case of getting married and are you too young or not but there is the consideration of what a big step you are taking in leaving what is familiar to you and going to live in a completely different continent. No matter what people tell you maybe you need to go visit there for a while, say 4-6 weeks before you decide if you can live out there permanently. I don't agree with your workmates that 30 is the right age to get married, for some people it might even be later than that or earlier than that. It all depends on the maturity of the couple and remembering that love doesn't always conquer all no matter what people say to you :) Good luck!
• China
19 Jul 07
i think you are too young to mamrry. you can do many things before you join in a family. and for you love each other,it is no matter if you get married.
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I think 21 and above 21 is a good age to get married. If you are talking about the first time, I mean. 30 is way too far. Women will have difficulty conceiving and by the time your children grow up, you will be too old to enjoy with your grandchildren. The earlier 20's is what I think is best to get married. I feel you are doing the right thing!! Wish you a very happy married life!!
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
19 Jul 07
If you love your boyfriend and alwyas wanted to be with him, then go ahead and marry him immediately. I should say, the right age for getting married is about 21 for the girl and atleast 27 for the Men. I think you are the right age for the marriage. Ignore the comments of your officemates. Its your life and you happiness is more important than the officemates comments. Marry him and start your life immediately.. My wishes.
@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
Well, there are many different angles to this issue. Some may think that you might want to save up first and concentrate on your career and THEN get married once you are more or less stable. I would thing the irregular hours and the distance can put a toll on any relationship especially if you are married. Dont jump into it for all the wrong reasons. Try to think rationally and if you still think what you are doing is right, then by all means, invite ME to yuour wedding, I love FOOD!:p
@yamskee (827)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
i think age doesnt matter here, as long as the couple to be married are ready and can comply to their responsibilities, then that would be the time where a couple should be married.
• Indonesia
19 Jul 07
I think and I want, if we married young we can see our child grow up, graduate university, married, having kid and other, so if you already find your love what you waiting for ...
@rimsha (806)
• Pakistan
19 Jul 07
22 to 27 yrs is the right age for marriage only for girls boz after 27 years the downfall is started.
• China
19 Jul 07
Married to tell the truth ,I feel like I should breakfast,two people understand much higher chance of breaking up
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Jul 07
I feel that the ripe age for women to get married is between 20 and 25 years. After that you will have problems of conceiving and rearing children . Maybe my conviction is wrong .
@icepop (99)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
age is but a number. we all have different levels of maturity. As long as you think that you are ready to commit yourself, to take care of your husband and your soon-to-be children, then don't let anyone make you think otherwise.
@stmartin (157)
• Macedonia
19 Jul 07
I just wanna tell something. Till I graduate at college, I won't get married, because I won't have any money, how will I tend my family? I won't have any job, without money, it is horrible.
@wmzuls (55)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 07
this is very subjective. the right age to married is..depend on you! ask your self whether you are ready to play a role as a wife, as mother, and as a friend to you husband.