I think my little sister is a compulsive liar...

@cynddvs (2950)
United States
July 19, 2007 6:38am CST
I am always catching my sister lying about something. And she is a hypochondriac so it seems like something is always wrong with her. She is visiting from Florida right now for the summer. She goes between staying with her dad, me and my grandparents. Last night she was going to stay with me. She knows anytime she comes over here that we don't really do that much at night. Well last night she got bored and decided she wanted to go back to her dads. That's all fine and good but her dad lives 45 minutes away from me and she couldn't get ahold of him because he was at a funeral last night. So about 9pm last night she comes out of the bathroom and tells me she found some lice in her hair and that she needs to go home now. She knows that I wouldn't want her staying her with lice since I don't want to get it and I sure don't want my daughter to get it. We got ahold of her dad and he agreed to meet us at 9:30. Luckily I got ahold of my grandparents and they took her to her dad so I wouldn't have to wake my daughter up and get her out. I just don't understand why my sister lies so much. She lies so much about being sick that when she actually does get sick we don't know if we should believe her. I don't know if she does this for attention or what. I've tried to talk to her about it and she just shrugs me off. She is 13 so sometimes it's like talking to a brick wall. What should I do to get her to realize that all this lying isn't good for her and will get her into serious trouble one day?
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@sissy15 (7751)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Hi, I know what you mean, I have a sister who constantly lies, she's 3 months older than me, and she is still in her sophmore year of High School or so she says, I can't believe anything she says. She would skip school a lot, my dad called the cops to make her go, and even then she would still skip. She is 20 years old and with a guy who is in his mid to late 40's, and he takes money from her mom, and her. We've tried to talk to her, but she wont listen, unlike your sister though she is now an adult. The only thing I would suggest you do is just keep trying to talk with her, and reason with her, tell her what will happen if she continues down this path, and if you have to take more drastic action. I don't know the complete situation, but with my sister we have tried getting the cops to make her go to school, and she did go to school for like a month straight, but it was short lived. Hopefully this helps, I know it's not great advice, but I do have an idea of what you're going through.
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Luckily she hasn't been skipping school. She tried that at a very young age and got in huge trouble for it and hasn't tried it since then. There have been several times when she has been acting out that mom has threatened the cops on her. That may be what it comes down to if she continues down this path.
@sissy15 (7751)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Well, I hope things get better for all involved, and things don't come down to that.
• United States
20 Jul 07
Until I read that she was 13 years old, I was thinking she might have some real issues. But, teens live in a world of their own and make up the rules as they go along. I hope that doesn't sound mean. She's just being a kid, I guess. And, I can imagine she doesn't even stop to think of the trouble she is causing for you when she tells little lies. Perhaps she is just saying some of these things, (like the part about the lice) to force you into doing things her way now instead of later. My toddler is always doing that to me. Like earlier today she got done with her mini-bag of Doritos and asked for some more. Well, that would mean that my husband would have to go down to the mini-mart to get them. But, he was not available at the time. So, I told her she'd need to wait a couple minutes. And, then wouldn't you know it, she started doing the average toddler routine where she runs around pulling stuff out of closets and harrassing the cats and just doing all sorts of things. And, for what purpose you might ask? Because I didn't get her another bag of Doritos when she wanted it. She always does that when we don't comply with her wishes immediately. Of course she got her bag of Dorito's! But, much later than she wanted. I suppose a three year old, very much like a 13 year old doesn't understand that sometimes adults can't just get up and do things ASAP on their schedule. Sometimes we have schedules of our own. Look, if your sister is staying in your house on a regular basis,then you might have to start treating her like your own kid and putting her in time-out or taking away her priveledges when she breaks the house rules (i.e. no lies,) Please don't think I'm trying to be mean by saying that. I'm sure you want to be on best of terms with your baby sister. But your daughter is getting to an age where she will start to mimic the behavior of everyone around her. I can only say that, because my own daughter is at that stage. And, she is only three years old. She mimics everything and everybody, so I am always careful whom I allow her to be around. She even picks up things from movies and TV, so we have to be ultra careful about that too. My best wishes for you and your family. I hope everything turns out well.
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Well it's been almost 2 weeks now and my sister hasn't been back over here since this incidence. She wants to come over and spend time with my daughter but she knows she gets bored and I won't let her have her way. I think that's why she hasn't been back. But she's going back to Florida next weekend so I want to spend some more time with her. She just has to realize it's going to be my terms.
@thrishka (63)
• United States
20 Jul 07
Tell her that what you've noticed about her attitude or bring her to the doctor or talk to her friends. She might be dealing with things that you don't know. Or set her up into something like through her lying she'll be in trouble. Don't just tell her the consequences of what she's doing; show it. They say that experience is teh best teacher. Good luck. Hope your sister will be fine soon.
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• Malaysia
25 Jul 07
You know what? My sister is also a liar! I thought I am the only one having this problem. She has been lying since she was a kid and now she's already married with 3 kids, still she can't get rid of her lying habit. I know she has been lying all her life, she did it without having a bit of guilt on her face. I think this is because he has been used to it, and it has already been in her blood stream. Actually the lies are only little white lies but who knows if she's already making huge lies? Nobody would know that. I started to realize she was lying all the time when one day my mother phoned her in front of me. My mother asked her what she was doing at that time and she told she was at the counter paying for the food that we supposed to be buying. The truth was that we were not at the counter, we were waiting for the bread man to make our bread, and we haven't pay yet. I asked her, why on earth did she tell lies like that to mother? She didn't answer but just smiled and shrugged, as if it's just a small matter. I didn't want to start an argument, so I kept quiet. After that I started observing her and indeed I caught her lying through her teeth about almost every little thing. I really don't understand why she's doing this. Really, really confused. Yeah, as to your sister I think this has become a habit to her. It is difficult to get out from a bad habit. It has been a ritual to your sister and whatever we do about it, it is hard to change her. As I am having this problem too, I would not know what is the best alternative. But maybe, maybe, if the lying goes worse you can bring her to a psychiatrist and let the psychiatrist deal with her. I think there must be some emotional disturbance inside your sister's soul that made her turn into a lying brat. I am always uncomfortable if my sister talks to my mother. I have become suspicious that she might tell lies about me to my mother. I have once been accused by my mother. Mother told me that I didn't like my sister. What crap was she talking about? I hope you will try moulding her while you still can. When she is fully grown up, it will become more and more difficult to change her attitude. Now that she is just approaching her teenage years, I believe there's still room for improvement. Good luck my friend. Have a nice day.
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• United States
27 Jul 07
Yeah i hear you there! My sister told a few lies on me... and i dont even live with them anymore! I am happily married with 2 children and my sister told my parents that when i talked to her on the phone one day while i was pregnant with my son, i had asked her when is she going to have children. SHE WAS ONLY 16 AT THE TIME!!! WTF would I ask her something like that?! Im the one telling her to keep her legs closed! I hate talking to my sister anymore and half the time when she does call... i just ignore half the stuff she says... and say "yea, uh huh, yeah" through the whole conversation! i refuse to call there anymore because my sister always has the cell phone and when I ask to talk to my father... she says hes asleep. Is she lying or telling the truth? Ill never know! So I just dont call. And they dont call me, prolly something she told them. There was another time she told my dad and step mom that I tried talking her out of joining the military! I personally dont care if she joins... i was just trying to explain to her it wasnt all games and laughs! She doesnt take things seriously... so I am a little afraid for her LIFE when she says she wants to join the military. Last thing i want is to get a phone call saying shes going to be buried somewhere. I may not agree with her and may not like to talk to her because of all the lies she says... but i do still love her! Ugh, baby sisters can be a pain sometimes! LOL.
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Many hypochondriacs actually have themselves convinced that they really do have health problems. This doesn't sound like the case with the lice issue. I think I would have told her that I had some shampoo and would take care of the problem so that she wouldn't have to leave. You will have to put your foot down and stop what she is doing if she is going to continue staying with you. Otherwise she will probably end up in serious trouble, and your daughter may end up following in her footsteps. I have seen this happen before and I know that this is not what you want for either of them.
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