What to do when your husband is bored in your company?
By soleya
@soleya (1100)
Latvia
July 20, 2007 3:41pm CST
I feel that my husband is feeling bored with me. He always finds a better things to do outside the house with his mates. And I stay at home. I can't say that there is nothing for me to do, I love to read books or do something around the house. But I feel that if the situation will be like this all the time, then it is a serious threat to our relationships. What do you think? Maybe I don't need to be worried at all? what should I do?
5 responses
@NewbieHelper (308)
• Canada
20 Jul 07
Have you actually discussed your worries with your husband yet? Maybe you are starting to 'catastrophize' the situation already, and worry about 'worst case scenarios' when you say that what's happening might be a serious threat to your domestic relationship.
Your husband might be stressed about things outside the home and might not want to add any burden to you, so maybe he's just taking himself out of the house a lot. Maybe he is talking with his friends about things that he'd rather not worry you about.
Sometimes guys spend more time with their male friends because they feel that guys understand their stresses. Sometimes this is correct. Guys usually understand guys better than 'wives' understand what males do.
Can you ask your husband to explain how he feels about your differences of activity - before you start worrying that his out-of-the-house time is something to worry about?
Sometimes these things are indications of deeper problems in relationships but very often they are just signs of people coping with life in different ways and trying to keep 'the home' a more trouble-free area.
I hope that, in your case, the latter is occurring.
@smyers52000 (37)
• United States
21 Jul 07
My husband does the same things. I do not know if u have kids or not but he leaves and I have kids all day and all night while he goes out and has fun. Then if I call him he gets mad and says that I am crowding him. Needless to say it only gets worse and now I have filed for divorce.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
I think it's good to trust your husband. However, it would also be good for your relationship if you would come up with some activities together. Maybe not necessarily every single day. Once in a while would be fine. Your husband may be getting too used to going out with friends, but I'm sure you'd like to have some time with him too, don't you? Go ahead and think of something special. Go on a date sometime. Or go with him when every now and then when he goes out with his friends. It's good to know who he likes to hang out with! Be a part of his life, and let him be a part of yours too!
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
20 Jul 07
May be it is just your thinking that he is getting bore in your company,actually I think all guys are same,Sometimes I feel the same too,cause my husband is always watching TV or reading books,or doing any of his hobby,but Its like they want some time off,they feel relax in that way,they want some time alone when they are home not working.I think You should not worry about this,What I did was,I stop caring about such things and I got hobbies for myself too.Now he often asks me if I am getting bore of him.So Do not worry.It is part of relationship so enjoy.
