Is the parent to be blamed when their children gets hurt?

Philippines
July 20, 2007 9:46pm CST
My husband told me yesterday while he was at the mall, that a little girl had a terrible accident while on the escalator. Her parent was with her then. But somehow, she might have poked her finger or played with the steps of the escalator, while it was moving, and gotten her finger cut off!!! There was so much blood and i just could imagine the little girl's terror and pain. When my husband told me about this, my first question was, what was her parent doing then? It wouldn't happen if her parent was more alert and observant. When accidents like these happen to children, parents are automatically the first to be blamed. But as a parent to a playful 4 yr old, it's really a challenge to be always watchful and alert on whatever he is doing. He runs so fast and i'm always afraid that he might get hurt. But when a parent is with her child, especially in public places, being inattentive and careless are a big no-no!!
4 responses
• United States
22 Jul 07
it depends on how the child gets hurt. Some hurts are unavoidable even when the parent is 2 inches away. But some are clearly the parents fault. its a case by case thing.
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• Philippines
22 Jul 07
I guess you're right. Accidents still do happen even if the parents are still protective and watchful. There are just some things that can't be avoided.
@ivyoon (673)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I always hate hearing stories like this. As a mother of two, I've always been over-protective of my children because you always hear stories like the unfortunate one you just shared. While it is impossible to have your eyes on your children 100% of the time, I think in a case such as this, the accident could have been prevented, however, I don't know all the circumstances of the event. If the little girl was very young, I don't think it was a good idea to have her on an escalator to begin with, but if she was an older child, she should have been told about the dangers of the escalator before she was allowed to ride with her parent. I always make sure my children are aware of dangers before they are allowed to take part in anything. Part of being a parent, unfortunately, is to try to perceive all the possible dangers of something before accidents happen. Much of this is common sense, but sadly, most parents are in such a hurry these days and are so busy with the fast pace of life, that they often don't see the dangers to their children before it is too late. I do not necessarily blame the parent of this little girl, but I do hope that her parents will be more protective of her in the future (as I'm sure they will) and teach her about the dangers of things. Sadly, they had to learn this lesson the hard way. Also, accidents do happen, and it is completely impossible to prevent them all... but we've got to try.
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
You know, sometimes my father tells me that I'm getting a little too paranoid when it comes to my son. Yes, I know, even if I fix my eyes on him every second, the danger of having minor accidents can still happen. But still, it's a mother's basic instinct to protect her young. I just don't understand some parents who seems so unaware of the dangers. My heart goes out to that little girl.
• United States
21 Jul 07
first of all, youch! i hope that little girl's okay!! i believe that parents are to be blamed when younger kids get hurt. i agree that they need to be alert when with their child and observant to what they are doing. however, i personally think, say 13 years old and onward, the parent doesnt need to be as aware of what their child is doing, because i believe most kids are old and mature enough to think of the consequences of doing something hurtful.
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• Philippines
21 Jul 07
i agree with you that parents should always be alert and careful and watchful if their kids are still under the age of 13. I have a niece who is 7 yrs old already but her mom still keeps a very watchful eye on her. You never know what to expect especially when you're outside the house.
@dafnie (382)
• United States
21 Jul 07
wow that is really sad. i know what you mean but knowing that they were on an escalator it probably happened really quickly. u know how little kids are. u could just look away for 2 seconds and their gone! since they were on an escalator the parent probably felt it was safe enough to not stand there and stare at the child, cuz it's an enclosed staircase type of thingy where the child is right there with u! feel bad for her, i hope they can stitch it or something.
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• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Yes, it's truly sad for that girl. From what my husband said, he doesnt think the finger can be restored.