Is he really a Father?
By Brownbeauty
@Brownbeauty (52)
United States
July 21, 2007 11:34am CST
My dad is always making promises that he doesn't keep this was going on sense I was two. I rarely see him more than two times a year and when I do it's for a couple of hours.Now my dad promises that he is going to take me shopping and things like that. If I was still the ten year old little girl that i used to be I would have thought "Oh yeah! My dad isn't going to let me down again" I would have probably believed it. Until now. My dad called a few weeks ago and said that he would be coming over in a few weeks, and he asked how much would it cost to go shopping. I told him that it would be about five thousand ( for clothes,shoes, things I wanted/ needed). He said that outrageous and I lost it I told him how I felt and closed the conversation with Have a nice day and hung up the phone. Was I wrong? Or did I do the right thing?
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4 responses
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Well, you can call him again and tell him that money here is not really an issue...spending qwality time together does not have to be expensive...if he is really going out with you to bond, then you can tell him that money is not really that important anymore...at your age, I guess you would already understand that a dad-daughter relationship is more than just merely shopping around . What do you think?
@nitinnaresh (51)
• India
22 Jul 07
remember
A father is always a father,
what ever he is going to do,will be in ur favour,
regards
nitin naresh
@nana1944 (1365)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Maybe you should have asked what he was willing to spend. It is a hard call not knowing what his financial situation is. Money is not everything and maybe he thought he could make up to you for all the times he hasn't been there for you. But it doesn't work that way. It is so sad for a young lady like you to have a person you should be able to trust to not ever, or very seldom, do what they tell you they will do. I can't say how I would feel because my dad was there for me even though, since he was crippled by arthritis by the time I came along, he never had much money and it was in the 1940's that I was born. If he had to change something he had planned to do for some reason, he would let us kids know and there were 9 of us. There was always a good reaon for the change of plans. For someone who was in the shape he was in, he made enough to always keep our home and food.
As I said I don't know how it feels first hand but I think you did right by telling him how you felt. At least you said "Have a nice day" and not go to Hades. I am proud of you for that. Maybe someday he will see what he has lost by not keeping his promises to you. That is your trust in him that he has lost. You at least cleared the air with him by telling him your feelings.
@rahallahan (52)
• United States
22 Jul 07
unless your father in a millionaire was it right to say it would cost 5,000 to go shopping? Even when my dad has given me shopping sprees in the past, (and he is very rich) I do not use and abuse his generosity by spending alot of money. I think the most I've ever spent in one spree was 800.00 and that was because he insisted. You should have given him to chance to spend what he wanted or could afford to spend on you. Greed is never pretty
