Interracial couples facing racism

I have never been in this situation and I am sorry to hear that they do not want to meet you. If they thought that your daughter is beautiful then they are missing out on how beautiful you are. This is truly a sad decision on their part because now they will have to miss out on seeing your daughter. I agree that she should not be allowed to go to any function with them unless you are invited also. This will be something that they will soon regret, but you have to do what is best. What does your husband think of all this? He loves you and that is what matters the most. I am not sure what else to say other than they are the ones that are missing out..

I am white. I have a niece and nephew that are part black. When my sister in law first became pregnant, I recall my mil being so upset and worried that she would not be able to accept this child...after all, what would people say? She is a sweet, very kind lady. I told her I just knew it would not matter to her once the baby arrived. It did not.I guess we live in an area where this is really not an issue. I find it very hard to understand that there is racism still going on in the world. I would have thought that by now we would have all evolved beyond this. I am always shocked when I read stories such as yours. To my knowledge my sis in law and her family never encountered any problems. All I can say is that racism and ignorance walk hand in hand.You are probably best off not knowing these people.

I want to say that it is their loss for not wanting to meet you- You seem like a very nice woman- Racism is a terrible problem- Enjoy your family- love your wonderful husband and your great daughter- I would not stand for letting your daughter go either- If you are not welcome- I would hope that they would not say things in front of her- racist I mean- Good luck to all of you- And I hope that they soon see what they are missing out on- and accept you- now whether you accept them or not is another story-

I dated a British man that was half Yemeni in my very early twenties for about six months, and some of the older members of my extended family made a cutting remark or two about it. Apparently when they were young "only a certain type of girl dated an Arab". I reminded them that it wasn't their generation anymore. I am sorry that some members of your husband's family are closed minded and have not accpeted you. However, such people are unlikely to be worth knowing. I think those who make decisions about others based on skin clour, race or religion miss so many wonderful opportunities to meet and learn from people of different backrounds.

My best friend and her husband are interracial and they have two beautiful children and a loving marriage. I think both of their families had difficulties when they first got together, but I think over time and the birth of their children, everyone is okay. We live in the South, so they did face Southern ignorance too. They keep their heads up and go about their business.:P You don't choose to love someone based on color of their skin. I sincerely hope that one day, people will overcome that more readily than they do now. I agree that your daughter doesn't need to go to family functions that you are not invited too...you are family too afterall. On a side note...my best friend is also mixed. Her mom is black and her dad is white. From what I understand, they faced a lot of critcism back then. My bf is proud to say she's mixed, but her younger sister tends to hold more resentment to whites. She calls herself black, while my bf says she mixed and says it proudly. I dunno. Maybe they just deal differently.:0

I'm kind of going through this. My husband is black and Arab. At the moment he is living in his home country of Mauritania in Africa. So my parents have not met him yet. My parents is having a hard time of accepting this. To the point they refuse to tell anyone outside of our immediate family. So my a few of my grandparents do not know about it. My mom went as far as asking,"Are you sure you want to have kids with him?" I said, "of course we both deserve kids." Then she rebuted, "they will get made fun of in school." That really doesn't happen anymore. Then I told her, "I would just send my kids to Ben Davis. There's everything there." Her response was, "and risk them marrying a Black man?" I couldn't believe it. Then I responded with, "well look who their father is, does that really matter?" She told me, "he is brown not black, that there was difference." How is there a difference. I have told them that I am putting my foot down. I will not go anywhere he is not welcomed. So if they don't want him to be there, then I won't be there. I think that has gotten my family to start accepting him. Maybe your husband needs to set his foot down and tell them that this was his decision and they need to accept you and him together or nothing.

I can understand what you are going through! I think your man must not be on the fence over this-am surprised you are not telling us exactly how your husband feels! Is he okey with this racial antics? I still remember the mathematics of marriage-when I was wedding my wife, the church Minister of the aady told us that in marriage, 1+1=1! In essence, when one man marries one woman, they become one! It is incredible, and completely unacceptable, for your husband to allow the voices of racism to drown him! He needs to be the anti racial activisit here! In my view, this is the time for you, him and Ayanna to stick together! Ayanna should not visit the Grandies and uncles without you and the Dad! Make it clear in your home, that a racial attack on one of you is an attack on all of you! If this comes out loud and clear, am sure there will be a change in attitude! try that!

I feel your pain. I am White and I date Asian guys because, for some odd reason, I love Asian guys, and my family does not like it that I date men out of my race, but what is so wrong with it? Don't we all bleed red.

Sweet heart there is racists in all family whether the color or shape of ones bodies. My brother married a korean lady and had four children by her and my niece dates an african american man that treats her like a queen but when I personally invited them both to our family reunion my distant cousins were talking about them and made my niece upset and when I asked what was wrong she told me. I was so mad I got up and in front of everyone I send that if they could not except my family then go home. You know what happened they appoligized and started to talk to them as they would their own. I just took a stand and told them that even though this mansskin color is not like yours does not mean he does not love everyone here. Then I looked right at the ones that were talking and said look you go to the tanners to reach that color he doesn't have to go any where. But I would make it a point to go and meet the family and let them make their own dissions as they must love your husband and daughter. My father was very racist until my sister - in - law came to our home and when he got to know her he accepted her into our family. She was very nervious at first as you will be but do not give up as they will come around. But please give them the chance to get to know you first. Good luck and hugs

no i haven't been in any type of situation like this but you are right! If you can not be included, neither can she!

Never had the experience but they are the ones missing out, you and your husband love each other and it would not matter if you were green and purple, thats not going to change anything. I am not sure if you should keep your child away from your husbands family because it will indirectly hurt him. You are the bigger person and maybe you don't want to be around these small minded people anyway. Keep the faith and in time I am sure they will make a turnaround.

I've never been in that situation myself, but I've noticed that people are slowing becoming more tolerant to interracial marriages. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I wonder what his reasons are for being racist? I guess I just don't understand it. I mean you can not like certain people, but to hate someone before you've even met them is just ridiculous. I don't think your daughter should be going to any family functions that your not invited to like you said. That's just so messed up.

Well what i can say is that you should stop thinking of them. They can't do anything anymore because your married to him. You are living with your husband not his grandfather so forget him and forget his family what's important is that you and your family is happy.

I have not been in the exact situation. I am a white male and one of my best friends is a black afrikan guy. When I went to school with him together, there were very racist people. I actually don't understand what is the difference between asian, black or white, (I can see the point in hating Jews, though I don't agree with it and I don't have anything against them either) so how can people hate the one with different skin color.