What type of cheating constitutes breaking up?

July 22, 2007 6:47am CST
I am interested to know what people's views are on the types of cheating that would lead to a definite break-up. To me cheating is wrong, even small things such as flirting/being suggestive on line or through text messages I count as cheating, but of course I don't think breaking up with your partner is the answer for those things. But at what point do you, for example sleeping with another person, an affair or less than that? It's be interesting to know if males and females have different views on this also, thanks.
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• United States
22 Jul 07
As a female, I'd break up with my boyfriend if he did anything more than flirt, such as holding hands or a kiss on the cheek because that's definitely a sign of affection and if he's questioning our own relationship for this other person, then I don't think it'd be worth it to stay with him. If he did any more than that, I'd probably never talk to him again. But I'd expect that he'd break up with me if I did those things with some other guy.
22 Jul 07
That's an interesting point of view, but I think I could allow one small mistake. My boyfriend and I have each kissed someone else and it's tough to accept on both parts, but I am glad we didn't break up as we wouldn't be where we are today. Thanks for your response :)
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I dont see flirting as being cheating..I flirt all the time...online and off...To me cheating is when you or your other hook up with someone else behind your partners back...Flirting though is IMO very natural, fun and believe it or not its actually good for you!
22 Jul 07
Yeah it probably is! Especially if they flirt back, it's very flattering :) Seeing as my boyfriend is not a flirter I think if he did flirt it would mean something, so I would think it was disrespectful. But on my part it is meaningless, when you want it to lead somewhere that's when it is bad.
@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I'ma lot likeyou. I wouldn't breakup with my boyfriend for flirting, however I do see it as a form of cheating, and it woudl need to stop. But even a kiss is enough to make me break up with him, because it is not ok if my boyfriend kisses another girl!
22 Jul 07
Yes, I think it is kind of disrespectful towards your partner if you flirt, especially if they are not the flirting type. It is definitely not okay to kiss another girl, but after being together 2 years I'm not sure I would break up because of a kiss, but it all depends on the situation. If it's a girl you know etc it is more hurtful. Thanks for your response :)
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
22 Jul 07
some people are just natural born flirts. that is no reason to break up with the person. It is the non-flirt that suddenly begins to flirt with one particular person behind your back that you have to be cautious of. in the end it doesn't matter much what the other person does or does not do...if i feel bad about the relationship then I won't be staying long.
22 Jul 07
I agree your point of view. The reason I view flirting in my partner as a bad thing is exactly what you said, he doesn't flirt at all, I'm not sure he knows how to ^_^ So I guess if he did it could indicate there's something wrong.