Are you an ex Catholic?

@miamilady (4924)
United States
July 22, 2007 9:16am CST
I know serveral people who once considered themselves to be Catholic, but they have left the church. Some have found other churches. Some do not attend church at all. For some, it was due to experiences in religious school, for others, it was simply because personal beliefs and those of the church did not coincide. If you have left the Catholic church. Please share your reason with me. Thanks.
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I was baptized into the catholic church when I was 8ish. Not sure my exact age. However I was raised Baptist. My mom just decided she wanted to try the catholic church so that is where I was baptized. I went to the catholic church some in my teenage years. Just a few years ago I tried to go back. I just got this really cold unwelcome feeling from the church. So I have never gone back. Here recently we have been attending an episcopal church and have been pretty happy there.
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@miamilady (4924)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I have considered going to an episcopal church. What was explained to me was that episcopal is Catholic. Just not the same as the Roman Catholic church. I'm not sure what all the differences are, but I believe one differenc is during mass they do not do holy communion. I'm not sure what the episcopalian stance is on birth control. I think they allow it.
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Episcopals are much more liberal then Catholics. They do allow birth control and they do take communion every week. The Sunday morning services are structured a lot like Catholic services only they don't do the things in Latin like Catholics do. The only problem that a lot of people have with the Episcopal church and why a lot of people have left is there is actually a gay bishop. A lot of people find that very offensive. But the way I view it is as long as my church isn't preaching about sexuality and teaching my daughter those things then I could care less what people do with their free time. But I'm a much more liberal thinker then some people.
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• United States
22 Jul 07
I left the Catholic church because in my experience, they did nothing by the bible. It says we should keep the Sabbath but we (as Catholics) kept Sunday. We should not have any graven images yet we had a ton of photos and carvings of saints and Jesus and crosses everywhere. They had no understanding of the bible, I would ask a question and no one could answer it. No one took bibles to church. No one did the laws commanded by God. I felt like they just wanted my money, but offered no real help to anyone therefore - what was the church for? I'm Christian now (very different from most though) and have all the understanding I looked for and all my questions answered and happy with how much my church follows the bible. The Catholic faith just wasn't for me.
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@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
I have the same opinion as you have. I also never believe in the authenticity of this great church. True, there are billions of faithfuls following the lead of this church. However, even within this church, only a few are really following strictly the dogma of this church. Now, history is telling us that bloodshed reign in this church. This Church is guilty of changing the beliefs taught by Jesus and the early apostles. Instead of holding on to the teachings of the early original Christians, this church adopted the teachings of the pagans all around it and successfully merged the paganistic beliefs into the mainstream religious faith. What a travesty! A church traitoring its own foundations? The pope is never the head of the church. It is Jesus Christ and there is no record wherever that he had relinquished that authority. The Catholic Church is a corrupt and deceived church.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I was indoctrinated as a Catholic. I no longer practice that religion nor any others. I do belive in God. After giving myself the chance to think freely, I no longer believe in some of the Catholic religion beliefs. When you only get one religion, that is all you know. Since many religions fight with one another, and this has happened throughout history, I don't see the point in following them. They create more havoc than peace on earth. So about all I can say is that I believe in God but not religions.
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• Malaysia
22 Jul 07
Hear hear! It's the same with me. I believe in God, but I don't believe in organised religions.
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@rosie_123 (6118)
22 Jul 07
Well I'm not - but my partner is. He was born and brought up in Argentina, where the Catholic Church is very strong, and it was just expected of people to conform. When he reached the age of 18 he went to University in Spain, and the more open and secular lifestyles in Europe made him question a lot of his childhood upbringing. His first marriage ended in divorce, and he then became what I guess you'd call a lapsed Catholic. By the time he moved to London for work (where he met me!), he had become a definate agnostic, and over the years that has hardened to Atheism. As to his reasons - well - he has given up on religion entirely - not specifically the teachings of Catholicism, but he always cites the Catholic Church's stand against birth control as a big reason. He says it can't be right to force people and children to live in poverty with no chance of a better life, rather than practice birth control. He is also against the Church's stand on abortion for women who have been raped, and thinks no woman should be forced to carry a child under those circumstances.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I can understand your husbands point of view on some of the matters. I don't think I'd go as far as being athiest, but I have a hard time with some of the teachings as well. Thanks for sharing.
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@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I've got nothing personally against the Catholic church, in particular--it's just as good or bad as any other human institution. I've left contemporary Christianity all together. I find absolute wisdom in the teachings of the Christ, which organized Christianity seems to overlook, and I find wisdom in the teachings of the Buddha. God is bigger, better, and much more than that which can be confined to any of the world's contemporary religions.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Thanks for your response. I have never studied Buddhaism, but I'm noticing that many here in myLot have.
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• United States
23 Jul 07
It's because Buddhism, in a seemingly contradictory manner is a spirituality that doesn't deal in spirituality--true Buddhism, as espoused by Siddhartha Gautama (Buddha) doesn't concern itself with the afterlife, the prelife, God, Goddesses, gods or goddesses. It teaches us right living, self-control, compassion, and clarity. His ethics are so closed to the Christ's though, and ring with truth--honesty, mercy, self-control, forgiveness, etc. It's strengths are being recognized by many psychologists--a "religion" based on over 2,000 years of understanding the mind has got to have some insight. dr...
@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I was a Catholic school teacher in N. Miami -- St. Rose of Lima. The gossiping that goes on by the priests and the nuns is horrendous, some of it gleaned by the priests during confession! The 'seal of the confessional' is broken, truly. My friend got an anullment due to her husband beating her up more than once. She came to find out he had been married and anulled before and went on to remarry in the Church! Looked like protection of a wife beater to me. I personally know one of my former students was asked not to come back to the school because her parents didn't/couldn't shell out an additional $3,000 for the stained glass window fund. Looked like extortion, to me. For this and other additional reasons I quit Catholicism and don't miss it.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Sad to hear about the gossip, but I believe it. I believe the reason my father stopped attending Catholic church was because my older siblings attended Catholic school. He worked in the airline industry. The airline that he worked for went on strike. For that period of time, the school would not give him any kind of financial aid. He had to withdraw my siblings from school. I think that was when he broke his ties with the Catholic church. My oldest sister, I believe, left the Catholic church because of her negative experiences while attending Catholic school. My second sister married a man who had been divorced. She was not allowed to be married in the Catholic church. She is now attending a Methodist church with her husband and son.
• United States
23 Jul 07
I was forced by my mother to stay in the Catholic Church until I was 18 (her house, her rules), which of course contributed to me leaving the church. Also, as I got older, I started to question some of its beliefs regarding the roles of women, and the rigid church hierarchy. I have not been to mass in 8 years and my mother still thinks I'm going to hell!
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
24 Jul 07
That's always comforting isn't it? lol My mother said something about my son going to hell because I had not taken him to have his first communion. He heard her say it once, and I knew it scared him. I had to take her aside and asker her if she really believed that. She said she guessed that since he'd been baptised he would be okay... At some point he asked me about that and I told him he was okay. I asked him if he wanted to do his first communtion, he said no. I don't believe in dragging your children to church kicking and screaming.
@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I'm not but my ex is. He said he felt like he had to live up to an image going there every Sunday and certain other days. He never wanted to be there and he was always forced to go. He hated half of the beliefs and thought they were so crazy. That was towards the end when he was able to make his own choices. He said they made him feel like every time he breathed it was a sin.
@rdurusan (624)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
Yes,i was a former catholic believer but as i grow old and question the doctrines of the vatican which are clearly against the bible i give up my faith.Today i have no religion although i believe in God and the bible.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I left the Catholic church as a teenager, then returned to it when I was in my 30s. I am convinced now of two things: (1) the Catholic Church contains the fullness of God's truth; and (2) many people who have left the Church did so (like me) because they received poor religious education from the Church, and this is a very serious problem. Honestly, some malignant people have gotten themselves into positions of power within the Church, and some of the things being taught in the RCC border on New-Age teachings - it needs to stop.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Hi miamilady! I could not say I am an exCatholic because I still consider myself as one. It's just I am not a practicing Catholic. I visit the Church once in awhile but I stop attending masses. Why? Because I lost confidence in most of the priests, most of them don't practice what they preach but of course they are just human who makes mistakes like we do. However, I am more comfortable with just praying on my own in the confines of my room or anytime and anywhere I feel like talking to the One upstairs. That's just what i believe in right now.
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
i am not an ex-catholic but i believe that if you have strong faith in your religion, why convert to another religion? but if you found a church which you think you would be happier, go for it!!! i believe it would be more fulfilling.
@bonn71 (13)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
i'm not. but a cousin of mine was an ex-Catholic because she had a girlfriend who is not a catholic and have to convert to another religion just to be with her. unfortunately, their relationship didn't last long so he has to go back to catholic.
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
i was before an avid catholic here in the philippines where people are considered to be 80% christians. but seven years ago i lost my belief in my religion and become one of the very few atheist in this country.
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Filipino people were known to be devoted to the God, is this true, lets find it out, some of the people were so bright and intelligent, is this true yes, and the effect is, they are questioning the God , am i right ? yes,,,, sad to say that the people nowadays would now become intelligent, according to some survey, and for me it is true, unfortunately, people are desiring to become a rich, and they forget the God, i dont now whats the reason behind. maybe its because of some reason that force them to forget the God but for me its not the reason. It is our own will to forget the God, lets be practical that God is always there, he is responsible for the success that we have been achieved
@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Religion is one of the most important foundations in the history of the human race. Religions build. Religions shared. Religions scattered. Religion had become a two-edged sword both constructive and destructive at the same time. The Catholic Church is one of the oldest Christian faith we have around. It survived for thousands of years under the protection of different rulers who were afraid to contradict the ever-powerful power of this church. I never believe in the authenticity of the catholic church. Why? Because it is never following the Bible. And any Christian church which is not following the Bible could never, never ever be true to its own calling. While the Catholic Church is claiming to have a continuing history from the founding of Jesus of the Church, what they are not telling is the fact that they are just the copycat of the true original. The Catholic church is never the one founded by Jesus. Even the name itself is never the one called by the Bible. There are a lot of reasons why I am no more a Catholic.
• United States
23 Jul 07
I am an Ex-Catholic, and I left the church because my beliefs did not coincide with that of the churches. I believe all religions are based off of mythologies or just newly written mythologies.