to be or not to be........ dad

Well for me it would be nice if they will call him dad too...

I encountered a similiar situation when I married my husband. The difference is that my son's birth father was long since out of the picture. So, I didn't really know what to do. Matt(my son)started out knowing my husband as just Chris from our years of friendship. As he got used to our marriage, on a rare occassion he will call him Dad, but otherwise he just calls him Chris. I would let the kids make the final decision once they are old enough. I would talk with them and explain that they have a "DAD", but they are welcome to love their stepdad just as much if not more. And if they want to call him Dad, too, I guess that ok's, but might I suggest that they call him something like Papa and whatever his name is...it sounds silly, but they may want to use a slightly different version for him. That way, their birth father won't get "upset", not that he really has the right to, but I know it always upset Matt's birth father that someone else might be raising his son...but that's a whole other topic. I always told Matt that he could call my husband whatever he wanted to, as long as it was something nice:) Just go slow. Eventually, they'll do what the are comfortable with. Hope that helps! Good Luck and don't worry.

I have a step-father named David (Dave) and a step-mother named Barbara (Barb) and I call them Dave and Barb. I have a Mom and I have a Dad, and I will not call their new spouces Mom and Dad. I would not do that even if one of my parents had passed on, because Barb and Dave are not my parents.

When I was young I called my step dad dad. But as soon as I grow up I now he was roy becoase he was not really a dad at all. I think that no matter what you want the child to call him the child will make up in there minds weathere they are a real dad or not. So its up to your new husband if he really wants to be a good dad the child will see that and see him is a loving dad. Hope this helps