When your marriage is in trouble, what will you do?

Indonesia
July 23, 2007 1:54am CST
Are you going to a qualified marriage consultant for some advice? Are you going to your own parents, grandma/grandpa? Or you'll try to fix it by yourself with your couple? Or you'll communicate to a certain people like your best friends, or maybe to a priest who will keep your problems in secret? Which one you think would be the best for you? God bless your family!
5 responses
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
Ah.. I'm not married. I'll try to put myself in that position then.. That depends on what kind of problem it is, and how serious the problem is. I will spend some time thinking about it myself. I will try to discuss it with my partner, if possible. Somehow, I don't think I will tell other people about the problems. It's hard to trust people not to open their mouth, you know? I might communicate with my parents, though. Somehow, I will try my best not to give them any idea that my marriage is in trouble. When I have to take a decision, I will make sure I've considered all the people that will be affected by my decision and try not being selfish. So that I won't regret the decision I've made. Well.. I do hope that there will be no trouble in my marriage. :D
• Indonesia
23 Jul 07
^_^ I hope so, Princess_ines! But, "good luck, bad luck, who knows?" Hehehe... Have a nice day! (Still looking for partner ya? ^_^)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
Well.. nope. Not looking for partner. Already with someone. But not thinkin bout marriage yet. I'm still university kid anyway. :D:D Long way to go
• Indonesia
24 Jul 07
Sure...! ^_^ You should achieve your graduation first, right? Well, moga-moga sukses! Hehehehe... You're right, it's still far to go, beside you must be so determined to do it. God bless, Princess_ines! All best wishes for you!
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
try to settle whatever the problem between the two of you by yourself. and if both of you feel that you need counselling then go for it. but always do it as a couple.
• Indonesia
24 Jul 07
Thanks Tuffy999. I get your point! A marriage unites a couple, they aren't two any longer, but one! God bless you and family!
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
In marriage there is always ups and downs. And during this low point of my relationship I make sure that we settle our own problems without involving or asking opinions from other people. I believe that the more advices you've got the more confused you'll be. And I reckon the only one that can solve the problem is both of us, why bother other people. Open communication is the best way to settle the problems and learn how to make a compromise with each other. Always meet half way, its very effective. And always ask God for advice, He will surely give the best one than anybody else.
@lyndee22 (1211)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
For me, we as couple being the main character of the story should talk first. Take the first move to settle or find out the problems and source out solutions. Listening and understanding one another will somehow lighten up the situation. If nothing has not improved and its getting worse then it's better to seek some advice not from our parents but I'd rather go to our wedding Godparents, our primary sponsors. I know they could give us good advices. I pray this will not happen to my marriage.
• Indonesia
24 Jul 07
I think you have a good choice to get advice from your wedding Godparents instead of your own parents. I see, there might be an emotional-bias if we seek advice from our parents. Do you think so? Anyway, I do agree with you that listening and understanding one another between the couple are the most important thing to do. Thanks Lyndee22. God bless you and family!
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
As much as possible the couple must be the one to settle any problems and misunderstanding occurred.Make it sure that one of you will listen each other and try to understand him/her.If the problem still persist then you can consult your good friends or your close family members to help make up the bridges between the couples.