how do you feel when your boss asked too many personal favors?

@cefaz_21 (2596)
Philippines
July 23, 2007 5:36am CST
I just feel so bad and sad this morning, actually it's not my boss but his daughter who's oout of the country right now, she e-mailed me last weekend and asked some personal favors..and I did tried to do it.. but I noticed lately that the rest of the family are asking too many personal errands now a days, I am not thier maid? nor thier personal assistant.. have you experienced this? maybe I am just mad..
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10 responses
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I was a secretary for our vice president before. And as a vice president, he has so many activities inside and out the company. There are times when he and his wife are asking for favirs outside of my job. But I am not angry with them because they are good people. I can see that eventhough they are asking for favors, they make it to a point that I am compensated in some other ways. They buy me a lunch sometimes or gift me a nice gift on christmas.
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
In fairness with my boss, he is good to me too of course,He gives me gifts on chrsitmas and even on my birthdays but still sometimes I feel bad about the rest of the family asking too much from me.
@onlinebiz (119)
• Singapore
24 Jul 07
If it is just a few favors, it is fine, but definitely not when the rest of the family starts doing the same thing. Uh, it is not within your job scope, so they shouldn't keep asking you for small favors just because they pay you. Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
before, i don't have any problems with that because as you mentined "few favors" won't hurt,but I noticed it becoming frequently now a days..I was just shocked that she is overseas and yet still managed to asked me some favors..:( c'mon give me a break!!
@hydrali (175)
• Pakistan
24 Jul 07
obviously man u must feel bad if it xoz u r not their servant or sumthing you must excuse them and say tht ive got many more things to do apart of ur PERSONAL ERRANDS lol!!!
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
23 Jul 07
You may be having a problem saying NO. Also on the job, there are clear rules for performing duties. You might be entitled to extra pay. In any case you have to know what you are capable of and act accordingly. Communication is key and you have to be able to say when you can and cannot do anything. Good luck with this. Also take care of this on the job.
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
you're so right! I have a problem when it comes to saying NO..and what hurts more was no there were no extra pay,sometimes I even pay for my transporation. I really pray I could change this attitude of mine. I'm beginning to get mad at myself for allowing these people to "kinda abuse" my kindness. Thanks for the encouragement!
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
24 Jul 07
I worked at a small family owned corner store. Wed end up having to do stuff that wasnt our job desciption. Sometimes wed end up doing their supper dishes (they lived on top) they always thought that since they were paying us wed have to do everything they wanted us to.
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I guess my boss thought the same, but still more discreet than yours, he never asked us to prepare food for the family though. I think it's not fair for employees to be given personal errands alwyas although they own it..
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
No, I have not experienced it 'coz I'm the boss in my office..LOL! But no, I never ask my secretary to do personal errands for me...that is tantamount to abuse, and it's unethical. Next time, do not make yourself available for these personal errands...make excuses...you know, your boss should realize this and call the attention of his wife and daughter, etc. and prevent them from doing it...I guess once in a while is ok, but when it becomes a burden to you, then enough is enough...you're right...you're not their personal maid, and you're paid by the company, not coming from their own pockets...if your boss has a boss, then I guess it's time to drop hints about your concern so you will be given fair treatment at work...
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
you're such a good boss..:) my boss is the big boss..as in they own the company but of course they do not own me. AT first i thought it was ok for me to give them some personal favors but doing it again and again..argh..I guess it's too much..next time If it really be a burden..I'm saying No.
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I had experienced like this one before.My boss was having a difficulty in fixing the problem with his electronic devices and he asked me to fixed it.After fixing it my boss was so happy and he didn't asked any favor at all.
• Hong Kong
4 Sep 07
My boss is definitely like your boss and I am so sick of it! I am not a Personal Assistant (well, she doesn't have one) and I don't enjoy doing her personal work. It's not my style. I try to do them and she is happy with my work, but I personally don't enjoy the hassle. And because of this, I decided to quit my job and look for something else more professional, at least I don't have to do those personal assistance work again.
@az03r4 (913)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 07
actually I wanna ask u, what's ur position in that company? but if i faced to that condition, I'll warn they smoothly n decently to not to ask me everything they want. coz I'm not their doll. n all my job limited only by job that I must do in this office.
@mybizla (136)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 07
be patient ok. just doing your job and ignore anything else. you should be better.
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