The persistent invitee
By sunshinecup
@sunshinecup (7871)
July 23, 2007 9:04am CST
Many of us have had them and you so know what I am talking about, those persistent invitees that will not take NO for an answer. Well I thought it would be nice to have a polite discussion about them. For those of you wondering what in the world I am talking about, let me explain. They are members who for various reasons, we do not find a friendship with them appealing. So we decline them, sadly this begins an endless cycle. You click decline and hour later there they are again, eagerly anticipating your approval. Click decline and you have it, they return. Now while it is causing no harm, it is annoying to see someone refusing to accept rejection.
Now with that said, what do you think is the matter with these people?
Do you have any good strategies of how to deal with them? Please feel free to use your imagination and humor.
If you could snap your fingers and magically be teleported to their side, describe the scene.
If you are one, have you any idea why you can't take no for an answer?
Or just speak your piece about people who can not take NO in general.
I read all, rate all, and thank all. :oD
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10 responses
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Oh my goodness. I so know what you mean! On my profile I've got something about not approving men for personal reasons (if you're really interested you can read it LOL). Yet not only do I usually get a guy friends request once a week I also get a couple of the SAME guys request. AND to make matters really annoying - it's not like they've posted on my discussions! Weird huh!?
I too have been frustrated and I just don't have a clue as to what to do with these annoying repeat friends requests. I hope someone else has a good idea LOL.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I checked out your profile and if it was not for your cute little mouse I would not know what you were talking abound as I almost went cross-eyed just trying to read what you had written as the black writing on the purple background is too hard to read. Perhaps that is why men are not staying away they cant read it..
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I've tried, and tried, and tried to change the color. It just won't. I will try again but I don't know if it will work this time or not. I've actually got it in there to be white. But it still shows up black.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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24 Jul 07
It is the first line on your profile, but maybe has heather stated, to be fair, you may want to change your colors. I some times have a hard time reading things because of their colors. You could make that part white with read letters, but then again that may look too much like a stop sign and well, who pays attention to those, LOL.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
24 Jul 07
Haven't run into that yet...but thanks for posting this discussion. After reading your experiences and the feedback from others I feel more equipped to make decisions about friend requests.
I have had a few that invited me after I posted a response. Some show up out of no where. I didn't visit their site..or respond. I assumed they saw something somewhere...who knows? I have been selective on who I invite...and have appreciated new friends who do accept...(like you sunshinecup.) But if someone one didn't; I'd ask once..no response okay...let it go. Harassing people seems really bizarre to me.
Thanks for the heads up...good post...informative..this will help me to navigate around Mylot Land with less aggrevation. (Hopefully.)
@sunshinecup (7871)
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24 Jul 07
Well I am glad I could help you out. I seemed to have gotten them right at the start. And when I think of it, yeah they come out of no where, I didn't respond to their posts and they haven’t responded to mine. I think they just pick victims randomly, LOL.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
Thank you for the best response..I am starting to fell some better and hope to be back in full swing in a few days.
I like your approach with this topic...and you've given me some good ideas to be careful with those who can't take a broad hint. You could always beam your bright light in an unwavering fashion and melt them into oblivious!LOL
@kitchenwitchoftupper (2290)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Sunshinecup, Well, MsSunshine, you just aren't shining too brightly today are you? Are you having a really bad rainy day? I have a huge umbrella and I hope you can come and stand under it with me for a bit. Personally I love pi$$y days for no apparent reason and I am really joking with you. I never used to turn anyone down until a few weeks ago; and then I got hard! I haven't run into the problem you are describing yet but if I do, I will accept them, turn them "off", and just not worry about them any more. ~Donna
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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24 Jul 07
Gee thanks, I just got that darn song out of my head and then here you come and put it right back.
"You can stand under my Umbrella,
ella ella eh eh eh"
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Great post. I have had one the past couple of days and she will not take no for an answer. As usual I checked her profile and it was money, money and nothing else. Sorry but I dont need "friends" like that.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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24 Jul 07
YEAH! That's me, it's rare I invite, but when I do, if they say no, I move on.
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I would probably finally accept the invitation so that I would be able to send them a private message. Then I would send them a very curt private message. There would be no doubt in their mind about sending me another invitation. After sending the message, I would then immmediately remove them from my friends list. Sounds very callous I know, but some people just don't seem to respond to anything but callous!
@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I always assume they are spammers. When someone sends me a Friend request and we have nothing in common, they have never posted to any of my discussions or I to theirs, then I usually Deny. If they come asking adain I deny again. Deny Deny Deny. Sorry. I like to keep my Friends list small.
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Well, I accept all friend invitations regardless of who they are from, so I guess I can't really answer that... I don't know why I accept everyone.. I am not picky. I will only once in awhile delete someone off of my friends if I see that they have been violating a lot of guidelines or calling names or something. I think if someone kept adding me and I did not want to be friends with them.. I would temporarily add them and send them a message saying, "QUIT adding me fool" and then take them off my list.
@kimthedane (945)
• Denmark
25 Jul 07
The are either very sad, pissed off or have no life. I appreciate that you can doubt it once if you made a request. But some people just cant get into their hear, that they are not wanted.
I usually just ignore them hunni, not much alse you can do. Let me take oportunity to once again ask: PLEASE LETS HAVE THAT BLOCK FEATURE, on myLot. The sooner the better.
