Domestic Violence: How far would you go?

Well I went through Domestic Physical Violence and then when the Ex Husband nearly got found out he went for Mental Abuse instead I stayed married for 21 years to him and put him with bad treatment the reason I was scared of People He changed as soon as the ring was on my Finger My Kids kept me going and when he should no caring as such when I was diagnosed with my Illness something snapped he even went out that Night I got told with his Friends and stayed out all night That is when I started gathering the Strength to say no more, even my Son said Mum you tried I am 17 now and Mel is 14 now do not put up with anymore, I did not realize at the time how much my Son knew and had heard even when his Dad told me one night I am nothing Special There are always different Circumstances mine was I was scared all my Life to stand up for myself until I turned 40

I am divorced two times and will not tolerate any form of abused be it physical or psychological. There is no excuse for domestice violence. Partners should separate immediately if one is abusive to the other one.

I think that as well, but some people have been raised to believe their spouse is nothing more than their property, to do with as they want. My daughter is going through this situation right now. she has left her abusive fiance, but he still calls her 5 or 6 times a day, even at her job, and harrasses her that she must come back to him because they 'belong together'. he says she is to blame for everything bad in their relationship, including his violence. I think these kinds ofpeople are very immature and selfish, only thinking of their own pleasure, and trying to destroy everybody else's unless they are happy.

A few years ago, before my hubby and I were married he decided he wanted to be with this woman he met online. When he told me I was hurt and felt betrayed but I figured if thats what he wants then he needs to go. He did...I even bought his travel case lol... Two weeks later he realized his mistake and wanted to work things out. Normally I would have refused but when I learned all the facts I agreed to give him a second chance. Had he just wanted to try things out with another woman...he would have burnt his bridge with me but as it turned out the "other woman" that approached him online turned out to be his ex-wife!! She and his 19 year old son had worked out the scam as a way of trying to get her and hubby back together. I felt he had been as betrayed as I had been. If someone decides they don't want to be with you anymore, even though it hurts you need to let them go. Sometimes they realize their mistake and sometimes it turns out to be a blessing in the long run. LIVE IN PEACE

Well I am a great believer in working at relationships but if the love is gone what is the point? Having been in a violent marriage I do know that we should walk away if we want to be left in any position to be able to do so! I feel if I was in a relationship where the love/trust was gone I wouldn't be trying to force my partner to stay with me - I would let him go, mourn the end of the relationship and then try to move forward and carry on with my life! xxx