Only two children and their parents turned up at a birthday party!!!

@Madona1 (2098)
Gibraltar
July 23, 2007 3:08pm CST
One of my friends just held a birthday party for her 6-years-old girl yesterday afternoon. They had sent out the invitations to about 20 children 2 weeks earlier, and well prepared the party in her house that has a garden. To everyone’s surprise, there was only me and my daughter and another mother with her son turned up. We really felt sorry for the birthday girl who was expecting a big celebration and lots of birthday presents. Have you ever experienced this? What will you suggest to avoid such disappointment?
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Awww sorry to hear that. I have not experienced this and I would of been disappointed for sure if that happened to my son. He is turning 5 in three days but because we are new here and he hasn't made any friends, we are not going to hold a special birthday party for him, but instead take him to Seaworld in Orlando Florida. By this time next year he would of hopefully made some friends.
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@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
23 Jul 07
This is really a good idea. I am sure your son will have a good time in Seaworld and remember his 5th birthday in the rest of his life.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
23 Jul 07
Happy birthday to your gorgeous boy!
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Thank you Madona, that was sweet of you to say and I am sorry about your friend and her girl!
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
23 Jul 07
That happened to me when i was a child, and we were very poor. my mother scrimped and saved for weeks so i could have a party for my 10th birthday, and invited my whole class. only 3 people showed up. it turned out that another girl had decided after receiving my invitation that she should have HER party on My day. She even threatened others that if they went to my party she would get her father to stop doing business with theirs'. My mother was livid, and stopped shopping at her father's store.
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@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
23 Jul 07
Hello there, many thanks for sharing your view. I feel sorry for what had happened to you and your family on your 10 years birthday. But you are very lucky to have a wonderful mum who has her proud and love for her family and children. Solute!
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
23 Jul 07
Sorry, I was meant to say 'Salute'!
@ryunix (25)
• Canada
24 Jul 07
I would not invite 20 kids :) but rather the people that are actualy the friends of my child. I would also get confermations by there parrents. I dont believe partys need to be big and full of gifts to be good. And i dont want my child believing that either. Rather i would take the time and make the day abotu the actual Birth Day and not about money, gifts, numbers of people. Im not saying (jsut so you know) that i think it is imoral to have a big party, but this is how i would avoid this problem and create character in my child.
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@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing your view.
@anij34 (317)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Birthday parties in the summer are tough and you can sort of set yourself up to fail if you send out that many invitations and you don't hear anything back from the parents. The key here is to put in a phone call to the parents a few days before the birthday party. Right now a lot of people are on vacation or doing weekend or day trips. Offer to pick the child up and drop that child off if they don't live that far. But I would not have let the party day come and go without having made phone calls to see about a confirmed head count. This happened to my brother one time, who's birthday is the middle of June. My parents took him and his one friend that showed up to get some pizza and then to the best fishing spot around. The two had a great day and my brother forgot about being disappointed.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
Very well said, birthday parties in the summer are tougher than other times. Parents have to be better prepared.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Oh, that's very sad, and i'm sorry to hear that. We will be celebrating our son's birthdays next month (they are sharing a party this year) and we have told everyone of it already, and will be sending out the invites next week. We told everyone to mark it on their calandar though, b/c we live about an hour and 1/2 away from everyone else.. and we want to make sure they come.. i suppose the only thing you can do is call people and see if they are coming.. (which we may do for some of them) That's sad, b/c they spent all that money on food, and could have used it to buy more gift for thier little one. Poor thing, hopefully she had a wonderful party anyways.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing your view. And happy birthday to your lovely boy in advance!
• Malaysia
24 Jul 07
I don't know what's happening in this situation. But I have some suggestions which may cause the situation. Maybe: 1. The invitation card were not sent properly and therefore many guests were not aware of the actual celebration date. 2. Coincidently the time was not suitable for all of them to attend. maybe everybody had other more important events to attend or emergency things that couldn't be avoided. But this is a rare occasion to happen when almost everybody didn't turn up. 3. The person throwing up the party is not in good terms with the guests, maybe they seldom turn up during others' parties, so other people decided to turn their backs this time. They are only my guesses, I hope it is not true. I would call all the guests three days before the party to confirm their attendance. Then I would make another call a day before the party to confirm the second time. I think this will solve the problem and I can have some back up plan.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing the view. Regardless any reasons, the mother should at least try to make sure which ones are coming and which ones are not to the party. It is too tough for a 6-years-old girl to organize her own party.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Wow, that must have hurt them a lot, with all the budget and expenses. Whew. Why didn't the other families show up? Didn't she ask for confirmation that they're coming? She should at least try next time to make sure which ones are coming and which ones are not. RSVP thing. But I doubt she'll have another party like this ever. Yeah, I agree with bringing the kid to a special place rather than having parties. I pity the parents and the child. I am puzzled to the actions of the parents, weren't they close? I mean do they know these people or they just sent out invitations (are they sure those parents got it?) What are the odds of out of 20 only 2 right?! That's tough luck. What did she do?
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
Well, the mother just invited the whole class of her girls. Obviously some children are closed friends but their parents. I assume they just sent out invitations and asked for confirmation, which seem to be ignored.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
24 Jul 07
That is too bad. I hate to hear about children being disappointed. Did everbody send a response back to the original invitation? With my kids I never really had this happen before. If somebody could not make it we would always know when they sent back their invitation card. cheers,
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
The birthday girl’s mother should learn from this event and avoid the future disappointment.
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I'm really surprised of the outcome of the guest. Based on my own experience with my children, they just love to go and celebrate birthday parties with their friend. I just don't know what really happened or maybe the invitation was given and probably misplaced by the children themselves. It's very important not to rely on just the invitation. Maybe if you have given them personally or make a personal call to confirm the invitation to your guest will make a big difference. I'm really feel sorry for the young girl whose probably expecting a big crowd in her birthday.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
True, It's very important not to rely on just the invitation. The birthday girl’s mother should make a personal call to confirm the invitation to their guests.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
It was really a big disappointment not only for the birtthday girl but with her mom too,I'm afraid she'll have phobia or when another birthday celebration comes her way. what happened? Did they asked the invitees to respond and tell them if they are going to attend or not, at least they can gauge if how many kids are going. Or does they know if there is another celbration within thier cirle of frineds? Anyway,that's over. I just hope she'll have happy celebration next year.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
24 Jul 07
Normally on the invitation card there is always a contactable phone number and name available so that the parents can make a call saying they can make it or not. But this doesn’t seem always happen. Some parents just take their children to the party when it is about time without any pre-arrangement. Maybe now it is a summer vacation, many families are away for holidays. As you say, we only can hope she'll have happy celebration next year. Thanks for sharing your view indeed.
@healer (1783)
• India
23 Jul 07
sorry to hear this about your friend and specially the birthday girl whe might have been hurt. It depends on the kid also, she should keep on remainding her friends about it so that they will not forget it as some are forgetful. And mom also should do that same in that way there will be a grand celebration. I have never such situations till now and hope not in the future also.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
23 Jul 07
True! I think the birthday’ girl’s mother in future should make a phone call to find out how many children will take part in the party.