How to get soft hair?

It sounds like your hair is very dry. One cause is overshampooing. IF you are used to shampooing everyday, cut back to everyother day. Still use conditioner everyday, just skip a shampoo. This really helps. Shampoo can really dry out your hair. I have written an article in my blog on how to get rid of dry or damaged hair on my blog, you should check it out at http://www.yourguidetofashion.blogspot.com/ It is the third article down. Feel free to browse around, you may find other interesting things.