Child abuse!

Australia
July 23, 2007 5:46pm CST
My niece's came and stayed at my place for a few days in the holidays because their parents didn't want them. My niece said that she wants to live with me because she wants to get away from her mothers boyfriend. I asked her what was going on and some of the stuff that she told me, really shocked me. She started of by telling me that she was asleep in her bed and got woken up because the boyfriend was strangling the mother in her room. She described what happened and demonstrated how the mother was trying to get the boyfriend of her. He also had a knife and he cut the mothers arm. He then dragged her out of the house and my niece said that it looked like he was going to push her mother down the stairs. She had told me that there was one time that the mother and the boyfriend were fighting, so the mother slept in the lounge. When my niece's got up in the morning, their mother was gone and the was blood on the front door mat. The mother did come home later. I asked if the boyfriend had hurt them and she said that he pushed her really hard into a bench one time and she hurt her back. He tries to trip my other niece over a lot. He has told one of my nieces who is 12 that she has to leave and puts all of her stuff out the front. I am so angry about this, I think the mother is just as bad because she is letting this happen. I am going to the authorities today and hopefully I will get something done. I have gone to the authorities about this guy before and nothing seemed to happen. Hopefully this time it will. Any suggestions on what else I can do would be very appreciated. Thanks!
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4 responses
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
24 Jul 07
this is a very sad and undesirable situation,a nightmare for that kid and somebody should do something.i think also the mother should be consiliated together with the girl and separately.they must be help to escape from this guy.that's about the woman that is afraid of her partner which terorise her and for the girl is a big psyhically damage that could affect deeply her personality
• Australia
25 Jul 07
I have tried to talk to mother before and she has told me to mind my own business. I am not sure if she really wants to leave her boyfriend. I am willing to help her if she wants it and I want the girls to be safe. I can only hope that someone will help us. Thanks!
• Australia
25 Jul 07
No he is not the natural father off the girls. You might be right and she may be too scared of him and doesn't want anyone else to get involved. I just hope that child welfare will be able to help them all and things will be sorted out so the mother and the girls are safe from him. Thanks!
• Romania
25 Jul 07
maybe she didn't want to talk with you of her problem because she's afraid of him .i guess this is a tippical situation when the one who needs help refuses it .this guy's influence to her is so strong and perhaps she also loves him.i understand that he's not the natural father of the girl,am i right?
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
27 Jul 07
Keep pushing things with authorities. Hopefully they will listen. Those children dont deserve to live like that. Have you tried to talk to their mum? I dont know if this is possible or it would cause more problems. If nothing is done, maybe your local member of parliament, maybe they could push a few buttons. It is a very hard situation. I hope things work out
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• Australia
31 Jul 07
Sorry it has taken so long for me to get back to you, I just haven't had time to be on here. I have rang the abuse hotline now and they are going to take some action, but not straight away. They will get a visit and hopefully something will get done about it. It is a start at least. I have rang a few times before and it just hasn't got us anywhere, but at least this time it looks like they are going to look into it a bit more. All I want is for those girls to be safe. I have tried to talk to the mother but she has told us to mind our own business. Thanks!
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• Australia
31 Jul 07
I don't understand it either, I know some people say it is harder to walk away, but when kids are involved, they should be what the parents think about first. I know I wouldn't let things happen to my kids like that. Thanks!
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
31 Jul 07
Im glad that it looks like something will get done. Maybe after a visit the mother will start waking up to herself. I just can never understand why people stay with a partner who is like this. It so much reminds me of a few years back when a friend stayed with a partner who belted her, then he belted the kids. She still chose the guy over her kids and lost custody of them. I just cant understand. Best wishes to you, chook
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@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
24 Jul 07
That is so sad that people treat innocent children that way. If I was you, I would talk to the mother and see why she hasn't left. She could be too afraid to, or think she has nowhere else to go. I would also talk to a child welfare worker. The kids need to get out of that situation now. They need to be somewhere safe. They are just little kids still. They need to have someone who can protect them instead of abusing them.
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• Australia
25 Jul 07
I am just waiting for the child welfare to call me back, I was told that would be today, I hope they do. The girls have said the mother doesn't want to leave the boyfriend, I don't know if this is what the mother has said or if that is just what they think. I have tried to talk to the mother before and she has told me it is none of my business and to stay out of it. It is very sad. Thanks!
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
that would be very sad...I think the mother should do some action then...Her boyfriend doesn't have the right to hurt them especially the kids... the mother should think hundred times whom to choose her boyfriend or her children...
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• Australia
25 Jul 07
I agree, the girls were saying that their mother doesn't want to leave the boyfriend, but I am not sure if this is what the mother has said or this is just what they think. What scares me is, what happens to the girls if he accidently goes to far and kills the mother? I just hope it never comes down to that. Thanks!