cash gift on invitation

I got married three years ago. And like your friend, we prefer cash as gift than receiving a couple of ricecookers, kettles, irons and the like. We first go toan invitation store and looked for the right words to use in our invitation (because we did our invitation by ourselves). We cannot find the right phrase so we have to get an idea from each of the invitations. That's how we came up with ours. It just says that we are thankful for their generous gift but we prefer something light and practical.

When I was preparing for our wedding, i read from an article which I forgot now that asking for a cash gift in your invites is a no no, I think it has something to do with a wedding etiquette, so you're right that you really have to choose the right words. Others said that word of mouth to express what the couple wants as a gift is the best way.

I suggest that you get in touch with a Chinese couple, and ask them about their Chinese money tradition. I think there are other cultures where money is the standard gift. My cousin married a Chinese man and they did this. I need to get in touch with her, because I want to do the same thing for my wedding. I think the chinese are really onto something with that. My fiance and I both come from our own households, and we all have our own stuff, so we really don't need anything else. Cash would be good.

My brother just got married (last Sunday actually) and I was their planner, so they also prefer cash. Though we didn't go this route, you could always have little cards (about the size of a business card) that says "Bride and Groom prefer monetary gifts." We didn't do that though, we simply didn't include any gift registries in the invitation, so everyone asked what to give. When they asked, I would explain to them how the bride and groom are moving away and would have no use for presents, and monetary gifts would make things easier on them. It worked great, they only received about 4 or 5 actual gifts, and over 12,000 in money! I'm so jealous. LOL!