Really...you just...wouldn't care??

India
July 25, 2007 5:23am CST
This is kinda a bit of a stupid post but..... I was talking to my boyfriend the other day and I asked him if he would be upset or hurt if we ever broke up? (I had no intentions of breaking up with him but I just wanted to ask) and you know what he said?? "Hmmm...oh I'd probably be a bit cut for a few days, then I'd get over it...why? Would you be upset?" Me: "Hell yes I would! I would die without you, you know that!!" Him: "Oh well, you would just have to move on...." Are all guys like this with a break-up? I mean, the fact that we're young probably contributes to it alot. I've been told that when a guy turns 30 he finally starts to think with his brain and heart... But yeah...I was spun out. He just wouldn't care, basically is what he was saying? I found it really dis-heartening to hear it to be honest... This doesn't mean that he doesn't love me, does it??
4 responses
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 07
Dear, why did you at all ask him this obvious question? (Tumnay aapney B/F se majak karney ke liya yey sab kyan pucchch?) Since I have heard your side of story ...so it will be difficult for me to say..whether your b/f was joking, teasing or testing you. You interact with him regularly, I believe, so you may be knowing about his exact nature...is he reliable or not? You will have to make your own assessment in the matter. You need not generalise the situation or questions with everyone...it will depend upon person to person. Best of Luck!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 07
But how the thought crept into your mind. You should have full confidence on your friend and on yourself also...that he is not going to run away. I also feel that since you are very nice and friendly.....he was just joking and he does care about you. Best of Luck! Deepak
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
thats disheartening to consider but you know what? its just guys nature..thats guys anyway..but they dont mean it..they seem to act like nothing happened and nothing to care about but the truth is they are the ones who are hurting the most..specially when they realize its too late to come back and fix things up..they aren't showy for their feelings..but they are ones most affected
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• India
26 Jul 07
Hi dear Yes I can feel .. that it's guys nature .. they don't show off but they really care :)
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
I'm a guy, i do know how hurtful that feeling would be. I was a victim of this too, as my past relationship treated me just like a "thing." Left me, without even saying any word. I was shocked at first, as I was longing and hoping as time passes by. I think your boyfriend have a point there, he may not be saying it seriously. Just hope that what he says, was just a slip-of-the-tongue. because the feeling of being left is really hard to muster, I was just lucky that I have the "will" to overcome that feeling of loneliness and emptiness.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
26 Jul 07
That does not mean that he does not love you. I guess most of guys say that (to protect their male ego), mine says that to but i can see the fear in his eyes when a question like this pops up. i think he would suffer greatly too but just does not want to admit it thats all.
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