My Best Friend Accused Me For I Didnt Do.........
By viollet_ry
@viollet_ry (968)
Indonesia
July 25, 2007 8:56am CST
Yesterday I sent some offline messages to my friend. But then he was online and that I found it was not him. I thought its useless that I sent messages to him since his friend used his id to get online and the messages will be gone. At the night he sent me sms telling that he knew what I wrote, coz maybe his friend passed them to him. I just replied that I shouldnt send any messages to him since he shared id with friends becoz I didnt want the messages I sent not seen by the owners. But he said that I was paranoid, and that he would explain everything next time. I was quite surprised he said me that, but I was trying to be nice to him and told him that he didnt have to explain things to me, and that I was fine, just I would not send him any offline message next time if he shared id.
But again he asked me to stop this master and slave things and he was tired of this thing. I was more surprised he said so, that meant all this time he just thinking I was slaving him? For what? How? We always talked free this time. I never asked or even ordered him to do things for me ever. But why he accused me so? I really have no idea..
Did I say something wrong? Have you ever been accused of something you didnt do?
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2 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
You sure this is only a friend?
Seems to me like a lover's quarrel.
=)
I feel your statements, when you said that you'd not leave him offline unless he stops sharing name with the friend.
Why does he need to share ID when IDs are free. Unless he shares to his friend more than the ID (I mean maybe the friend talks with you, and you didn't know). It's kinda fishy to me. Plus, isn't there what we call 'privacy' but if you're insisting you are just friends, you should be bothered at all.
On the other hand, I think I understand him as well. I mean,if you are just friends, why would you be bothered with his 'sharing'. Plus, I get exactly why he was pissed.
Generally, men don't like women who insist on discussing things when being told to talk about it next time. We women need to shut-up when we are told to do so. It's not because of the master-slave thing, it's more of he's not really in the mood or is prepared to talk about it, so just let it go and don't insist on talking about those things for now.
Plus, I am thinking that you guys are not of the same race or nationality. Most miscommunication comes when there are two unrelated nationalities.
You should learn to adjust with your friend. Plus you should learn to let go of things that cause more heat in conversations. If he says 'talk about it next time' let it be, and when next time comes, ask whatever you want to ask.
Good luck friend.
Take it easy.
That's why it's always better to have friends offline. Because you can talk clearly to them if there are problems and you can see right through their eyes.
Plus if this guy can't even do the effort of not sharing his ID. Let him go. He's just being lazy and taking the so-called 'friendship' for granted.
=)
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@viollet_ry (968)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 07
Dont get me wrong. We are friends. I will explain me my point here. I mean that I will not sending him offline message anymore becoz as his friend's open login the message will be deleted coz it cant be saved, so I thought it would be no use if I sent him message but not him himself read it. Coz all his friends dont know english. I never being bothered bout him sharing id with friends. I just forgot it the time I sent him offline message.
Usually I am easy going with all my friends coz it always happen and I will forget it next time and still talk to them. Actually I didnt talk over this matters to him thats why I didnt want him to explain the things....
I just think he was gone too far just to scold me like that without reason. It couldnt be acceptable that he could say harsh words just becoz he was angry...
He didnt even apologize, not until I reminded him again...
I guess it will take a while before I can forget about this. But we still talk actually..
Thanks for you opinion....
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 07
I think the main reason why he scolded you like that is because he was angry that you kept on insisting the topic when he already said that he'd talk about it next time.
Plus, since there is obviously a language barrier between the two (his location where people don't really know how to speak English well and you who knows how to) maybe he just used words that were hurtful more than how he meant for it to be.
I notice this with Indian Speaking countries, they have different 'levels' and would say words with more 'description' than with what they should be. Like that with your post where he said 'master and slave'.
Anyways, he's your friend, so it's up to you to adjust.
=)
@Ruhana (129)
• India
25 Jul 07
Its an attempt to start of cold war between your friends or your friend testing your patients. If at all any misunderstand and if you are blamed for work you did not done, do not worry because truth is too shining like diamond and false is like cloud which remain in sky for some time and vanish like smoke. Once you will get the better result of truth.
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@viollet_ry (968)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 07
The bad thing he didnt even apologize of what he said until I reminded him again. And he did say sorry coz he was angry. But can he just said harsh things just becoz he was angry? I never care so much if someone say something bad to me and I can forget easily, but I thinks its too far...
I hope I can apologize him. I am not sure....



