What do you look for in a friend?

Canada
July 26, 2007 8:40pm CST
To me friendship is a give or take deal when you need them to lend and ear and shoulder they are there and you return the favor someday when needed...I have some really close friends and a few best friends...I also look for honesty for a friend who is not scared to tell if you have offended them or how they feel..
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@AmbiePam (85660)
• United States
27 Jul 07
Honesty and consideration are my main two. Because if you have those, all the rest should fall in place. No one is ever going to go years without disagreements, but if I have those two things in a friend, then I think we can weather the storm.
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
very true Ambie very true...You have to have honesty in just about every relationship marriage, parents, friends because without it there is nothing I believe hugzzz to you
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@AmbiePam (85660)
• United States
28 Jul 07
You're such a sweetie. : )
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• Canada
28 Jul 07
Awwwww thank you, you are a sweety too hun hugzzzzz blushing
@tute_cute (317)
• Indonesia
27 Jul 07
Friends always make me happy and i need happiness. Usually, i fell so lonely, so i need friends for sharing about my problems and sharing about our experiences. Friends always beside me whenever. really...i need more friends to help my problems in this world.... Be my friends sweety.
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• Indonesia
10 Aug 07
Yeah thankz friend....i will always remember you.....you're my friend and we'll be true friend.....nice to be your friend.....
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• Canada
10 Aug 07
hugzzzz hun anytime...I'm a very caring person and give everyone a chance smiles nice to be your friend too
• Canada
27 Jul 07
Awwwww tute you are so sweet...Yes of course I will be your friend and lend an ear if you need it anytime that I'm here or if we are not online together I will get back to you hugzzzzz
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
27 Jul 07
A friend to me is someone who I can trust. A friend must be honest, and should be there for me when I need them, like I would be there for them. A friend should never go behind your back or do things to try to hurt you.
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
yes I agree..Also I believe if you are good enough friends instead of talking or going behind a persons back you should have enough respect for a friend to tell them how you feel and what you think smiles thanks for your comment
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
Well hun what I look for in a friend is you. We have been friends now for over 15 years. Yes, we have had our moments but it has never been bad enough to break that LONG friendship up. We have respect for eachother, and always try to see both sides not just our side. Communication is a big one and I think we have that, and I'm glad we do! I know we will be friends for 15+ more years too! Love & Hugzz!
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
I could totally see that, our now 14 month olds having their own kids and we are all old and grey grannies lol. I am just glad that we have been friends as long as we have. You have helped me get through a lot of struggles in my life and I look forward to another 15+ years with you.Love & Hugz
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
Oh me too hun me too....You have also helped me get through alot of rough patches in my life as well...Mainly recently...I couldn't of made it through it without you that is for sure...And OH MY us old and gray and grannies YIKES! lol
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
Awwwwwwww Purple you are so sweet and yes we will be friends til we are old and gray and Grandma's I love bunches and you are a wonderful friend to me..Every relationship has it's moments at least we have communication to help us make it through that patch hugzzzzzzzz
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• United States
27 Jul 07
just a pal I can talk to and maybe have a laugh with..nothing to get me all mad at and question my every word...friends should always let people be themselves and don't try to change them like a rubber stamp of themselves..
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
well said asawako...I believe you should treat people as you would like to be treated and friendship is a 2 way street smiles
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• Philippines
27 Jul 07
I don't think we should look for something specific for a person to be called our friend. Two persons become friends because something has brought you together. You enjoy each other's company and you can tell everything to your friend. I have a number of friends, though we haven;t seen each other more this time, because all of us has our own families to take care, we are still friends. Each one is always ready when someone needs some help. SO i believe a friend is a reflection of who you are.
• Canada
27 Jul 07
very true ethel....I also believe it's common ground too something you have in common with another person..I married one of my best friends..Communication I think is also important..
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
27 Jul 07
what do I look for in a friend? First thing I look for in a friend is loyalty. Someone I can share something with and not have to worry that it will be spread around by the end of the day and the whole world knows. Someone I can turn to in my time of need and who will turn to me in theirs. Someone I can trust in my home and not have to worry if something has been took or ramshackled through. Someone who will tell me that I have bad breath if I have it. Someone to lift me up when I am down ,to pamper me when I need it, but dish it to me straight when I don't. To bring me soup when I am sick..To be there..always,no matter what. Is this to much to ask? It is somehting I would do for a friend a true one.
• Canada
27 Jul 07
no I don't think it's too much to ask at all...Treat others as though you would want to be treated..That old saying says it all in most aspect...Thanks for your response to my discussion hugzzz
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
27 Jul 07
The real frnd is the one, who lends u pencil in school. :P well not really lol, loyalty n love is the most important thing to me. (:
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• Canada
28 Jul 07
lol rock rock too cute...Yes those are wonderful qualities in a friend for sure!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Jul 07
Well I look for the same to I also look for trust, support, and standing by me no matter what to someone that you can talk free without worrying what she/he thinks and not judge you in any way
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
yes that is so true...just to be liked for who you are and accepted for the person you are..hugzzzz Sweet
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@healer (1779)
• India
27 Jul 07
We go throught different stages in life and there are times when we cannot stand up by ourself or alone and at such times we get a hand for help these can be called as good friends. Its hard to find a good friend who will stand with us throughout our hard times, when we face problems that we cannot even share with the family members we share with our friends and sove it. Someone who respects me of what i am i call those as my best friends.
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
yes that is so true healer...I as you sometimes find it easier to talk with a friend when something is bothering me! For another opinion I guess to see if I'm over reacting to my problem...It is also nice to have someone who you can share interests with and have some fun...Thanks for your response hugzzz to ya xxx
@UDDERONES (887)
• United States
27 Jul 07
What I look for in a friend is Loyalaty, honesty, and like you said a give and take deal. Not one that wants all the time and never gives back. I look for someone I can trust to tell my secrets to, etc and I know they will not betray my trust. I look for someone, like you, who is not scared to tell me if I have offended them or how they really feel. I would ratehr someone tell me to my face, instead of go behind my back and talk about me.
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• Canada
27 Jul 07
I exactly understand what you are saying..What is the point of the friendship if you can't be honest or beable to talk openly with your friend..I truly believe it hurts more in the end to hear that something was said about you behind your back...And when it does come back around to you the words are so completly twisted it just starts and unessary thread of arguments in my book...
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
28 Jul 07
Hi BlueAngelRS! For me, a friend is someone who is always there for you no matter what. I want them to be sincere and genuinely honest and does not demand nor dictate nor force you to believe what they believe in. She or he does not have to be perfect because no one is that's why we have to learn how to forgive each little misgivings we have. I have only a few friends that has withstand the trials of time but it's alright to only have a few because I know they will always be with me no matter what. And lastly, I have always kept in mind that I should treat friends or anyone like the way I want to be treated. Have a nice day!
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• Canada
28 Jul 07
hi faith210 I totally agree with you..I have also believed that who needs more then a few friends it's the few close friends that seem to matter the most and are always there by your side when you need it as you would for them..The ones that you can count on in the middle of the night if you really need them things like that...And I believe if you have a few good friends like that...it's better then having alot of friends who turn out to be the opposite.
• India
28 Jul 07
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• Canada
28 Jul 07
awwww that is sweet thanks...
• United States
27 Jul 07
For me, it's not the quantity but the quality that counts. I have more accquaintences than I can count, but my real, true friends I can count on two hand. And those include my husband, mom, brothers an sisters (I have 5 siblings) so I have to add in the other hand. But if I really counted, I would say outside of my family, I truly only have 2 friends who I call my YaYa's, the ones who you know you can call in the middle of the night and they will either talk you through a diffcult time, or come running just because you need them to be there. Then of course, there are my online friends. They can't physically be here for me, but they are a wonderful group of people whom I am enjoying getting to know better.
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