A sense of inadequacy in stay at home moms..

Why does there have to be a monetary reward? I think being a stay at home Mum is the most rewarding thing i have done & my partner is more than happy to be the bread winner while our daughter is still young, he's also happy to be the bread winner when i stay at home with the children we are planning to have in the future. I know it's not the old days any more but the idea of the mother being at home & the father working still works very well for many people. I think you need to just stop worrying about the lack of money involved in being a Mum & remember he wont be that young & small for long so you need to be there to enjoy it, nurture him & help him to grow up to be the best person he can be. I wouldn't trade being a stay at home Mum for anything in the world & you should be grateful that you have a husband that works & can provide for the family - rather than having to be a working Mum who regrets not being able to stay at home & raise her own children.

Oh this sounds so familiar to me! I have worked for a long time and always contributed to the finances for the household and then we had a baby and I had to rely on someone else to financially support me and this was horrible to me! I hated the fact that I didnt have any money of my own, my partner never made me feel bad and I always had money when I needed it but for some reason I felt bad and wasnt comfortable with the situation, so I went back to work but only for one day a week and this worked out really well for us as my partner looks after our daughter so he gets to spend time with her and I feel like I have my own money again! I also like the fact that I get a break from being a mother for at least one day a week!

You need a major attitude adjustment. You should be proud and happy to be doing the most important and difficult job in the world -- that of being a mother. There's nothing easy about being a good wife and mother. People have put together statistics about what it would cost if you were paid for all the things you do. If your husband had to hire child care, laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. done, it would cost him a fortune. Therefore, realize your worth and appreciate that you are able to stay home with your baby. Millions of women would love to be in your situation.

Although I preferred to be a stay at home mom, I am one not by choice but by force. I became ill shortly after my second daughter was born and have been unable to work for the last 11 years. So yes, I feel I have lost a lot of my independence. I hate having to be dependent on my husband, especially since the reason we are financially strapped is ME! It is hard but we learn to find the blessings within all that occurs. Behind every cloud is a silver lining - no truer words were spoken. Forcing me to stay home because of illness has given me a chance to be home with my children. Can you call an illness a blessing? Sure. Especially when it is not terminal.

right altair i can i dentify with u completely,my daughter is 2.8 and now she has started her playschool but she goes only for 2 and half hrs and so that much time is not enough that i can't do anything except for time for my self.i have done masters in botany and now at this stage it feels absolutely useless sometimes ,but i have hopes ,god is there and i'll get to do something without disturbing my daughter's growth in her home environment and my family.lets see.....