Is this the kind of city life you always dreamed to have?

A very nice post..I think the way of living in city as of me is different. I always want my time after work to be spent with my family and more interaction with friends in person.I think this way the relationship bond gets much closer.I dont want to lead a vague life or a mechanical one. Some of the people live their life this way and you have right said that this is one reason for the raise up in divorce these days.Family attachment is much reduced and time spent together is very rare and hence the gap widens between couple.Family values are ignored.

yeah i am sure the reasons of divorces is the being self-centerd.I can see the people today care the most about themself and not about the others.But I guess is not easy to find a balance between others and myself.i am trying to listen people and help them , but sometimes I feel lost when I need help and not many people are around. In one side we really appreciate today technology , but it only makes the most things withou putiing their our feelings.Like writing a messages instead of go see the person and shake their hands for real.Or send the flowers thorugh the delivery service.You know I just got a birthday and recieve beautiful flowers from my fiancee.The woman come and bring me all those flowers and my fiancee just came 2 hours later.It feels strange, why could not give me them personaly.

The city life I always dream to have from what is listed above is to go to work in the morning together with my wife, who is going to buy food for the whole day, and my son, who is going to school. Each of us leaves for different destination to do our own business and comes back home for lunch and dinner made by my wife to fill the hungry stomach with tasty dishes my wife serves. This is the major life I dream after working for so many years away from my hometown. Next question I would like to answer is "Do you think some of the divorces are due to inevitable position of being self-centered?" I can only say it is part of the reason. Suppose one party is not self-centered and tolerant, he or she will still bear the party who is self-centered for what he is. This kind of marriage will still go on because of the tolerance of the other party or vice versa. Like in one of the topics of yours that I have just responded to, it is great if both parties have mutual understanding to each other. Then there should be no worry about the high rate of divorce rate. Thanks for this nice discussion for me to think about and I enjoy it. By the way, I didn't see you around today, ssh. How are you? There is a flood in your country. I hope there is no big influence in your area. May everything go well around you, dear ssh.

I've been thinking lately for what kind of live I'd like to have. It's so tiring as my job become more and more tough. As I planned to get married next year, I don't want that because of my job, I have to leave my family on business travel and have a little time with them. I've been thinking someday I'll move to smaller and less crowded city. Have own business to do where I can spend more time with my family, especially my future wife and kids. It's kind of sad looking at my friends who is so busy with his job without even having time with his family. He worked in Jakarta, but his family is living in Singapore. It's been running for 3 years. Is it called being self centered? I don't know. But for sure, this is one of the major factor that will likely causes divorce. This is a nice discussion ssh.