To tell or not to tell your ex...

Philippines
July 27, 2007 3:54am CST
Do you tell your ex boyfriend/girlfriend that you've already found someone new? That you're already in a new relationship? Or you won't bother because you're convinced that you don't care and he/she's out of your life for good? I'm just curious. Thanks to those who'll respond!
8 responses
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
27 Jul 07
Nope, none of his business as far as I see it. I would rather keep him away from my current relationship and focus on that new one.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
You have a point. But what if your ex will get mad or feel resentful towards you because you didn't tell him. After all, he's been part of your life since you two were together before.. Or do you consider your ex as still part of your life?
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Well thats the thing Dianne, he is my ex. So he is no longer part of what I do in the present. Once the relationship is broken and we part, then really he does not have anymore to do with me and what I do in the future. I hope that makes sense.
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• Philippines
30 Jul 07
Oh, I see. Thanks. :)
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
Well, if you meant telling him even if he didn't ask ~ then no. I wouldn't open the topic unless I'm asked. But if he does ask, I would tell him. Not to hurt him or anything (not that I care anyways) it's just I want to be clear to him that if ever he had plans of going back then he can't because there's someone new. I have several ex that I talk to, but not often, and when they do ask, I tell them straight. There are some who no longer speak to me or I to them, since they can't ask me, then I won't tell. =) How bout you?
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
I see.. Well, maybe if ever I'll be asked by my ex if I already met someone new, I'd tell him. But I won't be sharing about my feelings or what goes on with my new relationship. It's none of his business, right? Thanks for sharing, laydee. God bless!
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
"I see.. Well, maybe if ever I'll be asked by my ex if I already met someone new, I'd tell him. But I won't be sharing about my feelings or what goes on with my new relationship. It's none of his business, right?" Yeah definitely no sharing about my feelings. Whew, as you said in your other comment (in another's answer) we won't know, maybe he'll sabotage our relationship. Plus of course, some people don't really say the truth, they'd tell you they're okay when in fact they're still hurting and waiting for you to come back... hahaha... Anyways, hopefully, this partner of mine is the one. I wouldn't want anyone besides him. I love him. hehe.. Good luck friend. =)
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
29 Jul 07
I do not specifically tell him that I will tell him if he asked me,none of his business as far as I see it. And I do not want my feelings to stay in the past.
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• Philippines
30 Jul 07
You have a point. Thanks for the response.
@dunnbiz (33)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 07
There isn't a need to tell the ex, especially it becomes like an assault. It's hard to move forward if you keep looking back.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Much appreciated. God bless!
@onlinebiz (119)
• Singapore
28 Jul 07
I don't think so. Most couples don't stay as friends even after they break up, cos they may find it a little awkward. However, if my ex is the "bad" guy, I might tell him about my new bf and all his qualities, just to spite him and show him that I deserve someone better. Kinda childish huh? haha.. Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
Haha.. I kinda get what you feel when you and your ex aren't in good terms - you wanna show to him that he's not the only one whom you can fall in love with. Ha. But I find the idea appealing if ever I'd have bad terms with my ex. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
for me...i rather tell him..so that he will know..and if case i have a probz.bout my new relationship he will give me sum advise... surely it will help you a lot....
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
Well, as long as you're good terms with your ex. But if not, he may plan to sabotage your new relationship.. Haha.. Just like in the movies. But anyway, I think it's better to tell him, just not the details or what's going on in your new relationship. That's no longer his business, right?
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
27 Jul 07
Hey. Well since hes an ex, I wouldnt feel pressured into telling him anything, because hes an ex and its simply non of his business... Unless you have both become good friends that you can share that kind of information with each other... In my mind an ex is an ex why would you want to tell him for...
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
I know an ex is an ex. But what I wanna know is whether you're still obliged to tell him or something. I mean, your ex is part of your past, right? Hmm.. Do you still feel a sense of obligation to tell him or her that you've met someone else? What if he or she will tell you how bad he or she felt because you didn't tell him or her about meeting someone new?
@horsesrule (1959)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I hope that I don't care and that my ex is out of my life forever, especially if we had a bad break up with problems. But if I don't hate my ex and I see them and we get to talking, I probably would tell them that I met someone that I liked. And if I DID really hate them, then I would definitely tell them that I had found someone new that was way better than they were. Yes, I know its mean but sometimes I am mean and petty, especially when my feelings have been hurt.
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• Philippines
27 Jul 07
I do not blame you because I totally agree... Sometimes, when we get hurt, we like to hurt the ones who hurt us. And sometimes we want to let them know that we're not affected and we've moved on. But if you're friends with your ex, I guess it's normal to talk about meeting someone new, right?