Have you ever fallen out of love?

United States
July 28, 2007 9:16am CST
Have you ever fallen out of love with someone? What was it like? How did you know it was time to move on?
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
28 Jul 07
I have never fallen out of love, wooitsmolly!. My first ever love of life happens to be my wife. I have no plan or don't see a chance in any near future that I will fall out of love with her. The opposite is true though. As the time is passing, we are more and more closer to each other. I really don't know or can imagine, if I can move on when I fall out of love with my parnter. It will really be a dark day and I hope it never arrives. For me now, the concept of life is attached with her. So I don't know, if I'll be alive to tell you how it feels.
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• United States
28 Jul 07
Hopefully you will not ever be able to tell how it feels :)
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
28 Jul 07
I do hope so, wooitsmolly, I really hope so!
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@derek_a (10897)
28 Jul 07
When I was about 18 years old, I had been going out with my girlfriend for around about a year. I went to her house one day and suddenly felt like I wanted to be somewhere else. She started nagging me about being "distant" and that made things worse. I left and told here I would see her the following evening. By then when I saw here the next night, I realised that we were going nowhere and had to tell her, because I thought it would be unfair not to. It was a horrible evening - she ended up in tears and I ended up driving home feeling very guilty. But things worked out for her, she met the "right" man and was soon married with a business of here own. I saw bumped into here a few times and we stayed on friendly terms. :-)
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
28 Jul 07
Yes i have fallen out of love.I knew it was time when i wasn't happy anymore when he came around.When he call i didnt like to pick up and answer.I started to feel like he was in the way.I wouldnt answer my door sometimes.I just didnt feel the same around him and i really wasnt feeling him didnt want to be bother.I knew it was time to let go.I just wasnt happy and the connection wasn't there.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
28 Jul 07
I think they call that divorce! I think we all fall out of love at some point. Many times things we used to like about a person start to irritate us. Or they just dont inspire us. We learn to move on and grow in a different direction. Elizabeth Taylor must have grown a lot shince she's been married at least 8 times.
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• United States
28 Jul 07
Well yeah, it is divorce if you are married. I hope I don't end up marrying 8 times. I think after the third time I might decide to just skip the marriage part.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
28 Jul 07
Hey wim, Well, when I was w/ my oldest son's biological father I thought we were in love but after getting my a.ss kicked multiple times & suspecting he was cheating on me (all while I was pg) I realized he didn't really love me. +'s
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• United States
28 Jul 07
Good thing you got out of that relationship :)
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
28 Jul 07
Yes, life is such that some other people treat so horrbly when they should be more loving-at such times, fall out of love is the way to go because, why continue to love someone who cannot love you back?
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• United States
28 Jul 07
Good point.
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• Northern Mariana Islands
28 Jul 07
Yes i have,infact i thought it was so special,that feeling felt so good,sometimes its hard to explain it but i just have to respect the fact of it not being true but real.it was like something i thought would never again happen,its like i never knew it would end,you know like a possitive feeling. Then that day came where i found myself feeling sorry for myself,i felt helpless but i knew that it was for the best.i had too,but in the same time i didnt want too! Yet i know that i wont regret something that once made me happy:)
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
28 Jul 07
Oh yes I most surly have, and the way I knew was the person had a lot more wrong with him than right. We all change and mature, but some never do, and I seemed to be able to find them. It was only after that I discovered I was one of those women that liked to FIX people that I realized that it was me that needed to change, and not the other person. So now I try to accept people for who they are, and not try to change them to the way I would like to see them. I am sure you are aware how difficult it is to change ourselves, never mind trying to get some one to please you. So if I can not accept the person the way they are, I usually do not keep the relationship going, as I have enough frustration in my life I do not need to add to it.
• United States
28 Jul 07
That is a very good point.
@MAX1966 (1030)
• Netherlands
28 Jul 07
it is time to move on,if there is no feeling left it is hard to do but you have to you cant stay with someone,you have no feelings for right?
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• United States
28 Jul 07
You're right. I mean, you can stay with them, but you won't be happy. Thanks for the comment.
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
2 Aug 07
When I was 20 years old, I fell out of love with my ex-fiance when I realized I was no longer happy with him and how controlling he could be. So I up and left. I also just did this with someone who I thought was a friend and turned out not to be. They had only one thing in mind for me and I needed out. I am working on that situation right now!
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@gberlin (3836)
31 Jul 07
I only woman I truly love is my wife and we have been together for 31 years. We started dating at the end of our senior year in high school and never stopped. I had a couple of girlfriends before that but nothing serious so I have really never experienced falling out of love with someone.
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@madzie09 (279)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
yes that happend to me already...it was a weird feeling, I felt pity with the guy because he was nice and all that. It was like one morning I woke up then when I looked at him, I felt nothing..completely nothing..I don't want him to kiss him, don't want to feel his touch, don't want him beside me and rather to be with my friends. I even asked him to hang out with his friends for a long while just to get rid of him. That was rude I know but even I didn't know what was going on. I was also afraid to tell him that I am falling out of love with him 'coz I don't even know why. The relation ended anyway, he found another chick and I was happy I didn't have to be the reason why we broke up. I caught him with the girl and I was like "ok, we're done!" looking upset but I was totally happy inside..lolz! It took me a long time to have my next bf coz I have to make sure I'm not falling out of love again... :)
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
yes i did. i somehow knew it was coming after years of fighting and then being patient, making up but resenting putting up with someone who seems to have no respect in you...your main strings just snap and you just have to go and let go of that something when its time to go. even the strongest feelings of love for that person cannot revive you at all. it was a struggle alright because i didn't believe in divorce and we have children to think about as victims. but i was very certain at that moment that i have had enough and that if i still care about living, with my children in tow, i just have to take care of myself. being alone was the most logical thing to do than being with a person you don't have trust anymore with your lives. and i didn't hesitate for one moment, maing that one big decision was for me by far the mist vital for my survival. if only i have regret is only for the part that my children had syffered with the stigma of being in a broken family. but i am so much resolved in trying to make up for such a loss by becoming a good parent to them and hoping that when they do grow up, they will understand that there are just things that we don't have the power to change, but just we go around it and try to pick up and make the better of oursleves.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 07
I had fallen out of love and that happened with my ex hubby. We got separated because of some deep matters. However, we got separated not because I fell out of love. We can always resolve that if we wanted to but there are really irreparable things that tok place between us. I am glad that we had been friends after some time.
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• South Africa
29 Jul 07
yes, I have fallen out f love.It was just like I looked at the person and something had changed.There was no more connection and in my heart I just knew that any power they had to move me, thrill me, etc..was gone !! Very sad, eh ?! Jesse
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• India
29 Jul 07
I have never fallen out of love.After my marriage,now i am loving my wife.If we are so serious about love,i think that love ends in marriage only.Other wise it is only for a time pass only.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I have fallen out of love. In my second marriage, I thought I was in love with this person and slowly I did come to love him a great deal. Unfortunately, I fell out of love with him sometime after in the last years of my marriage to him. I knew it was time to move on when I was looking for ways to get out, I did so many things to him to get him to leave, I even cheated on him. It was not the most pleasant experience. I felt guilty and bad for my feelings, but I had to be honest with him because it wasn't fair to him to live like that. I know he is very happy now with his new girlfriend and I am glad for that.
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
29 Jul 07
oh yes years ago . Just left him never to see or speak to him again
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• China
29 Jul 07
i am now falling in love,not out.hehe
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Falling out of Love is very common. Fact is, it's the norm. Being "in Love" is a simple biochemical rush. For Love to last it must be nourished and it will never be what we want it to be. In many ways we must settle. For a relationship to maintain both must nourish feelings and sentiments of Love continually and keep channels of communication open.
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