Have You Been Given The Spanish Inquisition

@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
July 29, 2007 10:58am CST
Oh boy! Now that everything is out in the open I am being subjected to the 'Spanish Inquisition' For two hours he asked me questions about me going! Then he's analyzing my answers and trying to find holes in my responses, I asked him when he's going to get the thumbscrews and liar machine out He's doubting me and after reading in my diary about plotting to go, he does' believe me, so why ask me questions Where am I going, why am I going, when am I going, what job am I going to get, where am I going to live, who with, what am I going to do about about my depressive personality, what if, what if, what if... I told him if he wants concrete evidence I'll show him the flaming plane tickets when they arrive! He thinks its one big fantasy and he says that I have tried to leave before and he's still convinced that I will turn round and say I'll stay. He's even keeping the house just in case while I'm away in Rhodes I change my mind! This is going to be a daily occurence now that he knows, that is what I wanted to avoid, part of me is grateful that he does know but I now know that he'll be a dog with a bone For the next 71 days it will be living with the whole bl**dy Spanish Inquisition, day, after, day, after day. Yes ok there are a few lies in there, so I've got to make sure that the lies I've told follow through! And he doesn't find holes, gawd, I don't make it easy for myself! Oh and I've stopped writing my diary and banned him from my room So have you ever been subjected to the Spanish Inquisition and heavily questioned. Guess I better hide my whips LOL!
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10 responses
30 Jul 07
It sounds like he needs you more than he has let on in the past and he will be the one who will have to make changes to his life too. I suppose its only natural to ask questions, but at the same time he should be so happy for you and make these last 71 days the best you two can have. By saying he will keep the house just incase it doesn't work out for you is sort of saying he thinks you won't go through with it. This should make you even stronger to prove him wrong and show him there is life out there for you to discover. I think he will be the one who will find it more difficult and please do not let his questioning get you down. You have made this decision and he should respect you for it. Good luck wolfie xx
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
30 Jul 07
I think he hopes to gain by questioning me negativity by putting spanners in the works etc but as fast as he's putting the spanners in the faster I'm taking them out and throwing them aside!
31 Jul 07
Good for you!!! My motto in life is "Don't let the buggers get you down". He will have a full tool kit by the time you leave.LOL
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Jul 07
Well Wolfie all you do is tell him that you have told him everything you want to tell and everything there is to tell him so could he please quit now with the Questioning and yes do be careful as he might try to catch you out Just do not let him get down anymore stand your Ground and stay the happy Wolfie that you are now Hugs to you x
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Jul 07
I'm just glad I've got my retreat to go to to get me away for 2 weeks, heaven!!!!!!!!!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Jul 07
Well you have a great time there Sweet and get all your Strength together you will get through this
@nana1944 (1365)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Hide them there whips! They may be used next. Spanish Inquistion, no. Fists and feet are what my last husband did. I never got married again and he was killed 23 years ago. Had a lot of flings and some live-ins but nothing very long term. Shucks, I haven't even dated for about 13 years. Too much effort to get into a relationship and I am too tired to try. lol Keep your sense of humor. That really helps.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
30 Jul 07
My sense of humour has helped me through some of the nastier times in my past and as things will change and I am finding the confidence to go so my humour will blossom fuller
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Lol… too funny- your whips- I’d say Hide them ~ Nope- not ever from a partner- only from my parents when I was growing up. Where are you going ~ What time will you be home ~ Who will you be with ~-- You know- all those things parents are supposed to ask. He is afraid- He does not want you to go. You have said all along that he does not have anyone else- so he is trying to keep you there. It’s expected- his behavior.. I hope your next 71 days are easy- Just think retreat is soon right? So that is time away- Can you go to your parents house for a bit? Just a thought-
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 Jul 07
Wolfie, you said you have to live with him for 71 days. Why if he knows and you can go and live with your mom why not just pack your stuff and leave, now or 71 days from now it doesn't make any difference, if he continues with the question I would be out of there, you are only staying for consideration to him, as well he might come home one day and toss you out onto the street, just to hurt you so I would be prepared to leave at a moments notice, get all the stuff you treasure out now and be prepared to walk on a moments notice.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
29 Jul 07
I have already done that, most of my stuff is going over on Tuesday on my way to the retreat I'm stopping off at my parents. The only thing of value in this house is my computer everything else is material value which can be easily replaced. I'm staying because it suits me for the gym, my jobclub and other responsibilies (NOT HIM) that I have to stay here for the duration, but 71 days will soon pass. 14 of those I'll be away for on my retreat. Time goes fast and he will be but a distant memory xxx
@mummymo (23706)
29 Jul 07
Honey you have your retreat on Tuesday and whilst I will miss you it is great timing for you and time to take stock - maybe you would be better off moving sooner? Whatever sweets , your big sister is telling you that if he really starts going overboard just get out - you listening? Love you little bro and I know you are strong evough to get through this without him tearing away your new found happiness and confidence! xxx
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
30 Jul 07
I'm listening to my big sis, honest I am, 'onest ;0) xxxx
• United States
30 Jul 07
Yes, and it is not fun, keep the front up the best you can and don't let him get to you, just keep remembering this is all worth it, no matter what you have to endure now, the mere 70 days will be gone in no time and you will be one your own to live your life the way you want to.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
31 Jul 07
You have rights. YOU ARE NOT A CHILD. IF HE WERE A TRUE FRIEND , HE WOULD RESPECT YOUR WISHES. ITS YOUR LIFE AND YOU HAVE TO LIVE IT. SO YOU HAVE TO DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU. I hope he becomes more reaonable, but even if he dosent, your doing whats best for you. Best Wishes
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I have had someone try and put me through that, wolfie, but I wasn't going for it. Like I said before, you have to stand up for yourself and not allow anyone to bully you. He has stepped all over your rights, invaded your privacy, and now he puts you through an inquisition? A line must be drawn sooner or later.
• United States
29 Jul 07
Sounds to me as if he is trying to get you to doubt yourself. If I were you, I would tell him, flat-out, "Discussion over." He will continue to try to find holes and whatever else he can to make you think you are not doing something smart. This is more of the emotional blackmail you spoke about in one of your other discussions.