to be gay when married is it a sin?
By kiwiTank
@kiwiTank (64)
New Zealand
July 30, 2007 3:40am CST
My wife was married to another guy sometime ago,He broke up with her after 2 kids and his admission to being gay, He said he'd known all his life he was gay, and only married her cos his parents were on his backv to get married as every son of a seventh day adventist should be married by 23.what do you think?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 Jul 07
The sin is in lying when you take your wedding vows. There have been people that honestly thought they were straight when they married and then discovered they were gay. But to know you are gay and to promise something you can't keep is sinful.
@kiwiTank (64)
• New Zealand
1 Aug 07
She really checked me out before she married me again and I don't blame her as she was hurt the first time by a guy she thought she knew,He pulled the wool over her eyes and he laughs about it even now, he also promisded his kids he'd never leave them, but now he only see's them once a week and only if he has no gay things on,he even trys not to pay child welfare that he has to pay in our country as he thinks now that I'm married to her that I should pay.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 Aug 07
He is a a%%hole! I hope you don't think all gay people are like him.I am so glad you and your wife have found each other.And that the kids get to see a loving couple up close.Take Care.
@kiwiTank (64)
• New Zealand
2 Aug 07
An a**hole is being to nice to him, as I believe if he could he'd pay no money and try not to see the kids at all instead of the one day a week he's sees them and everytime my wife and I want to go away and ask him to look after the kids he finds an excuse not to and in the 5 yrs we have been married he has never let us go away, thanks for your nice comment.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
That's not fair to the woman! He actually used her! Yes, I think it's a sin! He knew he was gay and he married her? Gosh, who does he think he is? Did he own her life that he had the right to waste her time with him? He knew he was gay, and he should have accepted the circumstances of his situation if he couldn't change himself at all. How could anyone be such a heartless user?
@kiwiTank (64)
• New Zealand
1 Aug 07
Hey I agree and to think her self esteem is just a puddle now, I am trying to build her up again in the esteem part but its hard as the guy really tramped on her good,He even told her after he left her that he was out and about screwing everyone, and he likes to rub in his sexapades,But she has got stronger and I think even a little colder towards him, I don't know where these others get off talking about thier Dads as being good, an all,WHAT about HER? thanks for seeing it the way I see it.
@jodenton (222)
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30 Jul 07
I once heard a quote saying it was "a sin to live a lie" although like many religious quotes small lines can have far reaching consequences. I think that it is not for us to question or judge past behaviours. I'm not sure that we as mere earthlings can even judge present behaviours but this is what counts. Regardless of whether he should have been in the marriage or not he should live up to the responsibility of being a parent if at all possible.
