Do you check your partner's messages or text messages on their cell phone?

No I dont see any reason to check them. We are always reading each others messages anyway, because usually one of us is too lazy to get up off the lounge...But we wouldnt go back through them to check them at all.

no ,i don't want to check their messages ,because it's violated their privacy.

Yes, I check my husband's and he checks mine. Sometimes it's a pain to check his, because he's to lazy to do it himself. He checks mine when I can't do it at the moment. Only thing I have learned is that his job wants him to do this or that. Lately, only thing on my voicemail is from mortage companies wanting me to call them back.

Um....not on purpose...just when the message comes, they're busy, so i check and read it out to them :)

Unfortunately I did. I'm someone not very concerned with others' activities including my husband's. But something had happened which shook my faith a little. Then, only in the last few months, I checked his mails, very, very unlike me and what I found was not very pleasant. I feel what happened should not have happened. Anyway, in my opnion, there should be absolute transparency between husband and wife. I'm not talking of partners but of married couples. If one of the spouses is unwilling to do so then there is a serious problem. Transparency should be voluntary not forced upon. It was not pleasant, I agree, but that is where your integrity as a husband or wife comes in. Not to do something that will affect your spouse. If one does then it becomes like a vicious circle forcing the other to indulge in breaches of privacy. Neither is good or comfortable. So for the sake of your relationship, come clean.

yes,but i only do it sometimes when he shares me about a text that makes him happy,angry,annoy..whatever.everytime he shows it to me i borrow his phone and check all the messages, phonebook and pictures...

i used to do this when I was younger and with teh guy i was with at the time and he did the same with me. This relationship was not healthy for a secound and I was very insecure, however it turned out that I was right all along. With my current bf - or actually hes also an ex since a week back i never used to do this. I trusted him 110%

No, I want my relationship to be build on trust. I don't want him invading my privacy, and I wont invade his. I also believe if you go looking for something you are going to find something.

I wouldn't check my partner's messages because I trust my partner. I hope my partner would do the same thing to me too.

My husband and I are open w/ each, we open each other's cellphone and emails. It's not that we check or suspicious but we just do not keep secrets from each other

I stop doing it when i find it out my ex boy fried was cheating on me from his cell phone message. It was the moment that i was ruined. So i don't want to learn anything like this anymore .

I don't do that thing,Because I don't like check other's messages without their permit,absolutely ,I don't anybody check my messages in secret .In my opinion,this is a guilty action ,if sb did that thing who just like a thief.

hah do you often check it ?

no that is too ..... everbody should have his own time and spaces

My fiance and I trust eachother enough not to need access to eachother's cellphones, e-mail addresses or bank accounts. Tonight he needed to borrow my credit card, when a payment hadn't gone through on his yet, but he also had the money in my account before he asked to borrow my card. That is OK with me, as long as the money is there first.

i don't really go thru his phone because i prefer him not to read my mobile phone messages. but sometimes if he looks at my phone and starts going thru my inbox, it's ok because i don't have anything to hide. he doesn't mind me looking at his mobile phone either but i just prefer not to :)

I never snoop on my partner even sometimes i get tempted. I know its not in a relationship to do that. One time i use my partner's computer and accidentally bump in the recent documents viewed and saw some pictures of girls. I was shocked and reacted right away without letting him explaining it. I felt guilty at the end because i should have not done that. But in a way it help us to become more open to each other.

like you rightly said trust is very important in any relationship.l have never had to check my partners messages for any reason and i trust and respect him so would'nt do that

Yes I did and he freaked out! I was bored sitting in the car waiting for him and it rang so curiosity got the best of me..... Kinda makes me wonder what he's hiding.

Trust and respect among couples should always prevailed. If we love our partners, we will not do anything to hurt them. Each partner will have an important role to play because marriage isn't bed of roses. Temptations may arrive in our lives but it will depend on how we will handle them. You can choose to ruin your vows or preserve them. The answers are yours my friends.