Pain in paper
@Zelmarq (12585)
Cebu City, Philippines
July 31, 2007 9:54pm CST
At times when I cannot express or I cannot share my feelings and thoughts to anyone I just take the refuge of my room get my notebook and my pen and start writing what ever comes to mind. Expressing everything, translating the pain to words. The witness to these are my pillows and my bed, they have seen those times that I at there and cried, times that I have unburdened myself and talked to my notebook as if they can hear and understand me.
I have coped with the pains in my life and I have coped with it through writing it in a journal or notebook. Its my way out when ever I am in pain, hurt or sad, often times tears will flow and I write really fast when I am emotionally burdened.
I have accumulated notebooks and filled them through the years,I am happy that through the years I was able to cope my pains and have succesfully passed form one pain into another.
it brings me back to the times that I felt pain, it s a feeling of victory that I was able to get through all those pains, Im glad im still very sane.
Happy mylotting.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
3 Aug 07
yes it is I like to go back and read old note books when I find them. also my mom saved alot of lwetters I wrote to her andI have a whole bag of them I will have to get them out and read some of them again just to see where I was when I wrote them
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@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
You seem to regard writing as your outlet for all the pain you feel or have felt before. A pain absorber maybe. But seriously, I am quite the same as you are in this aspect. I have written many diaries or daily journals when I was in my college days. Not that it contained sadness alone, but I also poured my happy memories into it. But remembering the past times when I wasn't into writing yet, all I had to hear me was my pillow and the insects at night. Back then, I lived with my mother's sister's family. It wasn't as bad as it sounds, but still, it's not the same when you're with your own family. When I started working after graduation, I momentarily forgot my journals.
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@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
8 Aug 07
Yes, its also nice to write your joys and victories coz it could be a source strength and encouragement to others as well.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
2 Aug 07
That is a great idea- I hope you also write your joys in a notebook also- I’m thinking of the time when you are passed and your family finds these- I would think you would want them to find happy times as well as the sad- Plus its always fun to write down the things that are going well and great for you- so in your times of sorrow- you can turn to these and think of all the things that are positive in your life also!
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
2 Aug 07
I did that years ago when I find that it is easier to write out my emotions. In fact, I keep a diary of my writings. One particular day, I came across the diary and then it hurts that I decide to discard everything. I still write at times, the only thing I do differently is now I trashed them after writing.
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@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
7 Aug 07
I still have mine safely hidden in boxes, I have not decided on what to do with it, maybe when I get the chance I would want to burn it for good and move on.
@archer1811 (1098)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
Hi zelmarq! during the times of pain or sad moments in my life what I usually did is like yours, i wrote down all my pains and all my feelings to my diary, and the pillow and my bed are also my witness, for me writing down my feelings helps me release the pain and make me feel more at ease than crying all through the days, though crying it out also helps me spread out the pain from my heart, but still writing it down makes me express more what i truly feel...
I have a diary but i dont always write down my memories there only the thing that i think i cant discuss with someone or with my husband, my husband hates me when i cry a lot that's why i try to look for a friend who cant resist me when i needed help its the pen and the paper...
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@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
8 Aug 07
Im glad that we are able to express the things that bother and burden us through writting its a healthy one cause in the pen and the paper we will be able to express all and evrything that comes to mind.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
1 Aug 07
For many years since I was a child up until I had about 10 years
or so of sobriety I kept a journal. It contained all my thoughs,
ideas, frustrations, and feelings of myswelf, my life, and those
all around me that were involved in my life in any way shape or
form. It truely helped as most things I could nor would ever say
to people near me. I tore them up as the notebooks got full. It
was a relief destroying them as much as a relief as it was writing them. It all was a type opf therapy for me.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Its good that you are able to write it all down and hopefully it has helped you in many ways. Now and then when I was younger and going through a certain stage in my life I kept a journal or notebook of some sorts and wrote down my thoughts. It helps to relieve the pressure I think especially if you are feeling lots of pain. Now I have an online diary and refer to it now and then. I don't post as much now because my life has been great so far.
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
1 Aug 07
My new friend...I also think that writing your thoughts out into words is therapeutic. I am surprised how much better I can feel after doing the same thing...
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
1 Aug 07
I used to write only when I feel sad or pain inside (now I am doing better writing other stuff as well). I think it's such a relieve to write out the emotions and thoughts deep down inside the soul. But I never keep a notebook of those thoughts, because everytime when I read my writing, then it would remind me of the darker times my soul was living through. And now because I don't want to be reminded of those feelings, I don't write when I am sad anymore, I would just go to sleep or sit there and indulge in the saddness for awhile.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
1 Aug 07
Your notebooks have been your best friend in your life. It is a place where you let out your pains. But still I think that it is better to feel happy and think of more positive things to be a happy person. Anyway pain is a kind of experience in life, which will later teach us how to be more experienced in dealing with things of this kind and turn them into pleasant things.
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
1 Aug 07
yup, i can identify with what you're saying. i also used to keep a diary. but there's a danger that someone will get their hands on it and read it. so i hope you keep yours carefully!
for me, i find that reading through the entries again can be sometimes quite embarassing, or quite depressing. so i have a whole box full of them, and don't quite know what to do with it. burn it? or leave a note in my will to burn them after i die?
what do you intend to do wtih yours?
@holyfriend (24)
• India
1 Aug 07
hi zelmarq,
pain in paper is no doubt a very good idea but don't u think if those papers, journals or notebooks are there in someone's hands then it can be troublesome for u....
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@sr0415 (1140)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
Hi Zelmarq! I can totally relate with you! :) I had my piles of notebooks in my dresser, too. *hehe* They are compilations of poems, shorts stories, and blabbers about life, love and relationships. :) I also keep a journal which is just available whenever I need to let things out. (",)
And oh! I keep blogs and online journals, too. *hehe* Writing has been my remedy and my shock-absorber whenever I just want to temporarily run away from all my pains and hurts.
And after some time, when I read those that I've written, I can't help but laugh and smile and wonder, "WoW! It has been such a time, and look at me, I'm over it!"
It is, indeed, good to keep a record of the things you did, experience and accomplish. :) It lets you know more about yourself.
Take care and God bless! (",)
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
3 Aug 07
Yes thats very true writing can be very relieving at times that we need to express it rather than keeping those pains in silence and suffer in silece. I have noticed that when ever i am emotional I can write good compositions and nice poems.
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@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
3 Aug 07
I allways express myself better in writen form. And beeing a writer for me the written form is just as usual as the daily food:-) When i see the pain on paper, it`s not so strong and scaring. If this is computer, i can allways delete the file later, if this is a paper- to destroy. Many psychologists and spirit healers advice to use it as form of cleaning the negatives out.
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@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Yes I find it a lot easier to write my feelings down. I am a writer anyway and when I get severely depressed ( which I'm on medication for) I like to write poems to express how I feel. I even wrote an article on Associated Content about writing as a self therapy. Here is my Associated Content CP page where you will find the article I wrote. You will have to scroll down until you find it though. It is called "Writing as a Self Therapy" :)
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@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
2 Aug 07
OOps sorry I forgot to leave my link. Here it is:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/cwilson26
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@mummymo (23706)
•
4 Aug 07
Writing is a very good way of coping with things that hurt or upset you sweetheart and a lot of therapists encourage people to use this technique to help them understand their own emotions! I am glad that you have kept these notebooks and that it makes you feel better to know that you have coped throughout the years and can look back on how you did so! xxx
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@fly_shay (333)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
I always do what you're doing.I wrote down everything i felt at the moment in a paper.Whether I'm happ, sad , depressed or angry.In that way, I can release the pain I felt inside my heart...I don't tear it after.Instead, I kept them and read them after a few days and I realize how I must have felt during that time.Somebody advised me that if I'm angry, I would do the same but after writing, you have to burn it.They said it's a good way of releasing the anger in your system.So far, I haven't tried it yet.Next time I'd do that.Why not try it too.Goodluck
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 07
Means that you are unresilient with your pain. Sorry to say that my dear friend....but if it recurrent to you just wash your face with water, look at the mirror and force yourself to smile....can it be done or not? To me it is wasting our time if keep prolong the pain deeply into ourself.
Cast-out or 'debouch' the pain faster is good to us as we can concentare on other things that is next to do....that is the only way I do if it happened to me.....I learnt by nature, it happened one day I was observing an electical wireman where he was concentrating on thier test for 'earthing' circuit to my house electric curciut system.
I asked him, "why this such copper rod dipped into the earth and cables connected to the house electrical system?"....he answered me politely; "oooo...this is the most important part in circuitry as to DISCHARGE any overloading or surge of electrical power, such as when lightning strikes".
So to me, our painful like that way and need to be discharge rapidly.
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