A Memorandum from a Child To Parents

@joyce959 (1561)
Philippines
August 1, 2007 12:37pm CST
Last weekend I attended a meeting of parents and school officials at the school of my son. The officials talked and presented the mission and vision of the school, its policies and regulations and the improvement in facilities the school had made. They also gave some reading materials and one that caught my attention was the "Memorandum From a Child to Parent". Somehow I had realized on what to do and not to do as parent. Too often we underestimate or overestimate our kids... Any comment on the following.... Memorandum From A Child 1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I am only testing you. 2. Dont be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it. It lets me know where to stand. 3. Don't be inconsistent. That confuses me and make me try harder to get away with everything I can! 4. Don't make promises; you may not be able to keep them. That will discourage my trust in you. 5. Dont do things for me that I can do by myself. It makes me feel like a baby, and I may continue to put you in my service. 6. Dont make me feel smaller than I am. I will make up for it by behaving like a 'big shot'. 7. Dont let my bad habitd get me a lot of attention. It only encourage me to continue them. 8. Dont correct me in front of people. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private. 9. Dont make me feel that my mistakes are sins. I have to learn to make mistakes without feeling that I am NO good. 10. Dont nag. If you do. I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf. 11. Dont protect me from consequenses. I need to learn from experience. 12. Dont put me off when I ask Honest Questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek information elsewhere. 13. Dont ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you. 14. Dont worry about little amount of time we spend together. It is HOW we spend it that counts. 15. Dont let my fears arouse your anxiety. Then I will be more afraid. Show me courage. 16. Dont demand explanation for my wrong behavior. I really dont know why I did it. 17. Dont forget that I can not thrive without lots of understanding and encouragement, but I dont need to tell you this, do I? 18. TREAT ME the Way you treat your friends, then I will be your friend too. *REMEMBER I LEARN MORE FROM A MODEL THAN A CRITIC*
4 responses
• China
29 Sep 07
Thanks for so useful article.i love it very much.i have added it to my collection.If i have free time,i will try to remember them and discuss them with my friends. the following is my favorite: 'Treat me the way you treat your friends' 'Don't worry about little amount of time we spend together,it is how we spend that counts'... I learn more from them..
@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
6 Oct 07
Hi zuiyirenjian... Its good to know that you find this article very useful to you... not only you but most parents as well. This will help parents in the upbringing of kids. Thanks for responding to this discussion.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
19 Aug 07
Excellent - I would love to know who wrote this list. I think this is something every expectant parent should read before becoming a parent... I'd love to print and frame this as a shower gift for all future parents :)
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@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
Yes I know this is a great help to parents. I am happy to share this post which was a reading material distributed from my son's school during the meeting of parents and school officials.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Wow--- this is wonderful- Things that I don't think of often- I can take alot of pointers from this memo- I think it needs to passed out to every parent - every year- If it helps even a couple of parents it is worth it- I love it- I am going to print it off and read it from time to time - I know I have asked my daughter several times- why did you do that? when she did something wrong- and some other things on the list too! I'm going to work on that!
@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
I know this memo has teach a lot of us parents, things we don't know about our kids likes and dislikes about our way of parenting. This is really something that we should think about as parents. Thanks for appreciating this post Kris. Happy Posting. Have a good day.
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
very good...i agree especially with # 13..one should always apologize to their kids if they messed it, it also shows that parents, no matter how hard they try are NOT perfect and do make mistakes...
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@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
Yes, true, some parents dont accept they commit mistakes and dont apologize if they do it with their kids. Appreciated your reply.