Someone grabs food off of your plate

United States
August 1, 2007 8:50pm CST
How do you feel when someone takes food off of your plate? I was at dinner the other night at some restaraunte and my friend started taking fries off of my plate. I didn't say anything but just continued to eat, i thought it was fine because we are friends and he payed for all the meals! I figure a lot of people would find this rude, but in some cultures it is pretty normal and even customary to eat off of the same plates.
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@kyukyu (22)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
Me and my mates grab food off each other's plates without asking and stuff, it is just expected. The other day though when my boyfriend ordered pasta and went to grab a fork, half of it was already gone (eaten by a friend). He didn't feel comfortable but like you, didn't say anything about it. I actually lectured him afterwards, because that's what mates do (depending on how close you are). I was even feeding my friends my chicken roll the other day... it may seem weird and rude to others but between us, there's this closeness associated with it.
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• China
2 Aug 07
Maybe it's good to take fries off my plate,since the fries will do you bad.So in order to be more healthy,it doesn't matter to me to share my fries with my friends! ^_^
• United States
2 Aug 07
So true. I especially don't mind if one takes a finger food such as fries or chips. Thanks for the response and welcome to mylot caixia! If you need any help with anything don't hesitate to ask.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
2 Aug 07
It really depends on a few things. If it's the first time I'm eating out with someone, that bothers me. That person doesn't know me well enough to know whether I've got a "don't touch my plate" issue or something. With friends, especially if it's Chinese, it's standard practice to take little things off of each others plates. I'm notorious for stealing all of my friends baby corn at Chinese restaurants, actually.
• United States
2 Aug 07
You reminded me of when my family and i went to a chinese restaraunt. They give a platter of each dish that everyone ordered and plates so that everyone can share everything. Really good to expose you to new foods.
@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
That would really annoy me too! My partner often tries to steel things off my plate when we are out and I tell him not to! If I offer something from my plate to someone I dont mind but for them to just steel something from your plate is rude to me. Maybe he felt that he had some sort of right to your food as he paid for it but it still seems rude to me
2 Aug 07
Hmmmm...I wouldn't have liked that. I usually don't mind if a close friend or family member asks if they can have something off my plate, but to take it straight away, to me that would seem rude. It's a funny thing though because I don't mind sharing a dessert with my partner, but I wouldn't like to eat any dessert that he'd left over. I guess I have funny habits where food is concerned.
2 Aug 07
I would ask that person to remove there fork and give me there plate so I can scrape the rest of it onto there's since they are so hungry
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Yes I myself do it with my husband but not with anyone else.LOL I think its rude to do that. But Im not rude!heheheheh
@vinzen (1022)
• India
2 Aug 07
Hi, yes i bugs me a lot too when someone does this kind of a thing and the worse is when one is eating. it is different if youre both sharing one plate or when maybe you have offered your food and are willing to share stuff from it with another person, but when they grab and start eating as if its their right, thats the worst thing to happen i think and i hate that the most too. And its so ill-mannered. i wonder how they can behave in this way, dont they realise what they are doing isnt right and shouldnt be done, anyways, i would put it to them indirectly and let my feelings be conveyed once so that from the next time they take care, i wont wait if its a friend or not as certain things one cant take and if you take it once then why complain about it .
@rave700 (247)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
...if that's my friends i would do the same either and ask for another plate for us...for it's better to eat when you have a company with.....and in a social sorrounding like that then it's normal but when we talk of formal occassions as the case maybe then such behavior wouldn't fit in, one must know where to put himself....
• Indonesia
2 Aug 07
I guess it's okay if the person ask first before grabbing anything off of my plate. Me and my friends like to try on anyone else's food if we order different types of foods, and also with my husband or anyone else for that matter,,except with my boss of course,,,..
@Lifeless (2638)
• India
2 Aug 07
Hey, thats ridiculous.. That makes me uneasy. It would be better if the other guy grabs food from the common bowl. This is not the right manner of eating. I don't think this thing is normal anywhere. Haven't heard of it anywhere where it is normal to grab food from other persons' plate.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Actually I don't mind sharing my food with my friends as long as they don't eat off something and dip it back into thing... I won't even touch it if they ever did that.. I don't find it rude it's just called sharing that's all...
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
2 Aug 07
Hi there. Oh how annoying and rude that is... I dished out dinner for my dad, my aunty and there long lost brother one evening... I dished out even amounts of everything for all of them, we had'nt even sat down, and the lost brother had gulped his own food down, then he started grabbing my aunties food out of her plate and still eating what he had left on his own plate, I knew she wouldnt deprive him of food, but I wonder how she really felt at seeing this... My dad tried to say something without offending him, but was ignored, my aunty who by then, said she didnt feel hungry anyway, was her way of being nice about it... I felt like slapping him or punching him up, I just said to him, hey uncle have you got worms and he said what, I said, because you've just gulped down 2 full plates of food and still looking to eat breads, I was looked at in a strange way and ignored too... So I went into the kitchen and made another plate to put aside for my aunty and told my dad to get rid of him lol, which didnt happen... This kind of thing in my view is outright rude and piggy styles...
• Singapore
2 Aug 07
I will be offended if that person just grab the food without saying that he/she is going to grab it.Unless that person is close to me, I'll pardon he/she for it.
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
i really wouldn't mind sharing the side dish but the main dish is another story. i don't want to leave the restaurant hungry especially if i paid for my meal.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
i'm quite used to sharing so i wouldn't mind. there were times that more than half of what's on my plate would be eaten by somebody else. however, since my friends know the food that i really like... they know it's hands-off when it comes to my favorite food. :)
@Calais (10899)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
LOL...It all depends on who it is...My daughter does it to me all the time..
@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
2 Aug 07
He he, I do this all the time to my husband. If something he has on his plate looks tasty, I will grab it before he does!:D He don't mind though, just as I don't mind if he takes my food. If it were to be someone else though, I would say something to them.
@niranjans87 (1078)
• India
2 Aug 07
Well i guess it is kinda rude for some people. And its also not manners. But me and most of my friends do it all the time among ourselves. we are extremely close and nobody really cares. Its just food and we dont mind one bit...