Do you love being a mother??

Love - the belly
United States
August 3, 2007 1:01am CST
I DO!!I have an aunt who does not want kids, I just have the urge to tell her, "WHY DID YOU GET MARRIED?" They also don't believe in God. Go figure.
12 responses
• India
3 Aug 07
Basically YES! I mean sometimes it does get a bit too much and most mothers cant give any time to themselves, but over and above, I would definitely not wish it away. Mothers have been glorified through the centuries for their sacrifices, but scientists do agree that having a baby creates great upheavals in the woman’s life, and not all of them a re positive. We do not like to agree, but most mothers (specially new ones) have a resentment of being tied down to a wailing baby while rest of the world seems to have a ball at her expense. There is no point in denying it. We have been psychologically brain-washed for so long, that we feel as if we are letting down the entire female population of this world, if we complain. I had the same feeling, but now, gradually I have got used to it and have also enjoyed the many nuances of it. I agree that a baby is one of nature’s best gift to mankind. As for your aunt, don’t be judgemental towards her. Who told you that the sole purpose of marriage as an institution, is to produce babies? There are many many married couples who are childless (for varied reasons) and are perfectly happy the way they are. Even if they are not happy, we should not compound their problems by pointing accusing fingers at them. Belief in God is also a very personal matter and is in no way related to the urge (or lack of it) of becoming a mother.
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@Daelin (683)
• Brazil
3 Aug 07
I was about to answer but I didn't find the right words, until I read your post. I have to agree with you. Her religions beliefs can't be related to her decision. I mean, I don't have children and I believe in God. If I don't have children it doesn't mean I don't like children. I love to be around children but I don't see myself as a mother. Just that.
• India
6 Aug 07
Absolutely correct. Not having children is a very personal choice, for which women have been condemned by society for far too long. Its time all women spoke up on their behalf. I mean, we don’t go and blame a man if the couple is childless, do we???
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
3 Aug 07
I am sure that she got married because she is in love with her husband. Not all woman want to have children. I love being a mom most of the time, but there are the times I see my sister and her husband going to Hawaii for the upteenth time and think....I could afford that too if I didn't have kids. Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and love being a mom. But I can also see why some people don't want to have kids. I feel it is their loss.
@Daelin (683)
• Brazil
3 Aug 07
Every decision you make affects your life. You decide to have children, you give up a lot of things. You decide to not have children, you will lose lots of things as well. No one can have it all.
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
4 Aug 07
This is so true, no one can have it all. I wouldn't trade a million dollars for the feeling I had when my kids were born.
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
10 Aug 07
I also love being a mommy. But I think you are wrong about your Aunt. It is very personal if people want to have children or not. And even if you love it, you must respect other people's choice not to have kids. Really I would not trade it in the world, but it was my husband and my choice to have kids.
@Daelin (683)
• Brazil
3 Aug 07
The purpose of getting married is to be with the loved one, to share your life with the person you love. You can have children even if you are not married, or you can get married and don't have any children. I am glad you are so happy with your decision but you can't judge others for not taking the same path. As for the remark about God, I don't see how their beliefs can be related to their decision.
• India
3 Aug 07
Basically YES! I mean sometimes it does get a bit too much and most mothers cant give any time to themselves, but over and above, I would definitely not wish it away. Mothers have been glorified through the centuries for their sacrifices, but scientists do agree that having a baby creates great upheavals in the woman’s life, and not all of them a re positive. We do not like to agree, but most mothers (specially new ones) have a resentment of being tied down to a wailing baby while rest of the world seems to have a ball at her expense. There is no point in denying it. We have been psychologically brain-washed for so long, that we feel as if we are letting down the entire female population of this world, if we complain. I had the same feeling, but now, gradually I have got used to it and have also enjoyed the many nuances of it. I agree that a baby is one of nature’s best gift to mankind. As for your aunt, don’t be judgemental towards her. Who told you that the sole purpose of marriage as an institution, is to produce babies? There are many many married couples who are childless (for varied reasons) and are perfectly happy the way they are. Even if they are not happy, we should not compound their problems by pointing accusing fingers at them. Belief in God is also a very personal matter and is in no way related to the urge (or lack of it) of becoming a mother.
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
yeah,i do love being a mother,,i have one child ryt now..i love her so much..im always going with her in watching tv,eating and sleeping.sometimes my hubby was getting jealous bec. im always with my daughter.im also fun of reading her fairytales..
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
There are several persons who don't like to have children because of sad experiences in life. Maybe she wasn't love by her parents when she was still a child. She doesn't like her children to be to suffer the same trauma in life. It might also be the cause that she doesn't believe in God. It's only my personal opinion.
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
Yeah! Because it is the essence of being a woman. Nothing in this world is so fulfilling that being a Mom. They maybe are pagans and they need to be evangelized. Go convinced them to attend a sunday service and eventually they will realized that being with God is a different feeling and another fulfillment. God Bless!
@chari_dc (493)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
i am a happily-harassed working mom. i just so love being a mom to my 2 kids! i love, love, love them so much i'd do anything for them. they're the greatest gifts god gave me. i don't know what i'd do without them. i even can't imagine my life before they became my children. they have completed the love my husband and i have for each other. they are my life. some people, like your aunt, probably just want companionship and that's her reason for marrying. well, to each his own.
• Malaysia
3 Aug 07
i love being a mother...it make me feel wonderful especially when you have a brilliant and active son. every day is new day to him and to me too. discovering new attitude and his couriosity towards things...
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Being a mother is the greatest thing I have ever done in my life. I waited a long time to have children (not by choice) and once it finally happened I felt so incredibly blessed. Everyday is a new blessing. I love being a mom!!
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
Being a mother is so wonderful...so fulfilling and so proud of.