Excuses, Excuses...

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I had a friend staying with me back in early July who had lost his place to live and needed a place to crash 'for a few days', or so he said. A few days turned into a week, and a week turned into 2 and everytime I told him he needed to leave I got a guilt trip about him not having anywhere else to go or money to get another place. I finally had to resort to lying to him, telling him my boyfriend was coming home a few days before he actually was, just so that he would finally leave so I could spend quality time CLEANING UP HIS MESS, before my love got home. That was the first key to making me angry. A few days would have been fine, but anything more than 3 days is far too long. He also lied telling me he was seeing a girl who would give him a place to stay, or failing that, could stay at the house of a guy who played in his band. After all this went down, he slipped up, telling me she dumped him weeks before, and that his guitarist's parents wouldn't ever let him stay there again. He paid me $50 for the first week for food and 'the inconvenience' and I thought that was a little cheap of him considering he ate at least 2 meals a day here, showered, did his laundry, watched TV and used my computer to talk to girls on the internet. He said he'd throw me more when he got his paycheque. He got his paycheque, and I asked for money, but he said he was finding himself a little short and could he give it to me his NEXT payday? No, I replied, I've been out of work for almost 2 weeks and need money this payday for groceries. He relented and said he 'had my back' and would cover any money I needed since I was obviously broke. However, even after this speech, no money materialized. Wonder of wonders, the night he left, he left his stuff here, claiming he was crashing on a friend's couch and didn't want all his stuff laying around HER house (but it's fine in mine, right?) so I called and told him it needed to be gone the next day and that he could finally drop off the rest of the money for me with my roommate who would be home when he came. He did come, took his stuff, and told her he didn't have any cash on him but would be back later. My boyfriend came home, so I just steamed inwardly about how screwed I felt, and finally a few days ago (over 2 weeks later) I sent my user friend a text telling him he was an awful person, and that maybe if he took ownership of his 'problems' instead of blaming other people when he obviously pulled his fair share of stupid stuff to his so-called friends, maybe his life would start getting better. He responded and said he'd drop off the money 2 days later when he was in the area, and not to get so 'testy'. Well, guess what? He didn't. I called him to confirm, and when he said he'd be by after 6:30 I waited all night the day my boyfriend had to leave to go back to work for 3 weeks. I sacrificed our last night together just to get money that never materialized. That was 2 days ago that he was supposed to drop it off, so I sent him another text today telling him I'm noticing a pattern of broken promises with him, and he gives me this line of bull about being on call 24/7 (for road construction??? C'mon! Who fixes potholes at 9 at night???) and that he couldn't get away. Yet, he has my phone number, my address and he knows how to text, so nowhere in those 2 days could he have let me know he wouldn't be by? I told him I wasn't born yesterday and that his excuses didn't hold water, and to grow the F*** up. I'm so mad right now. I hate that everytime I try to help out a friend I get screwed. I hate that my conscience bugs me so much when I don't help someone when I can. I'm really starting to genuinely hate people, and I don't think I'm going to care about anyone's problems going forth, because honestly, why should I? I've never screwed over a friend, everytime I borrow money they get it back as soon as I have it, but it's like almost every person I associate with has to play some dumb little game where they try to take advantage of me. Why do people do this? Have you ever had a friend pull some dumb stunt like this on you?