Do you want a Boy?

Canada
August 4, 2007 11:23pm CST
I was walking my grand daughter the other day when an Indian Lady asked me if I wanted a boy? I misunderstood because her English wasn't very clear and I said "no she is a girl". She said again, "you want a boy"? I said "I don't know I am happy with who ever comes along, girl or boy, it doesn't matter". "No no you must want a boy"? "No"? I said "will if I got a boy I would be happy to have a boy but girls are great too; they are so much fun to dress up, I said". "You not disappointed you didn't get a boy"? "No not at all I responded, I love having girls"! Then I politely excused myself to continue my walk with my granddaughter as the women watched us go! She seemed to be puzzled and I wondered if maybe I misunderstood something and answered a question wrong? Does anyone know why the Indian women kept asking me if I wanted a baby boy? Does it have anything to do with their culture or religion?
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@makingpots (11916)
• United States
5 Aug 07
How strange. Maybe she has a gift and is able to tell that you are pregnant. :) Could it be so, Coffee?
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• Canada
26 Sep 07
Sorry it has taken me long to answer. I have not been on line for awhile now and before that I had very little time to follow through on mylot or any other site. So in answer to your question.... Good God I hope not! But my daughter did just tell me the other night that I will be a grandma for the fourth time! How sweet it is!
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
8 Oct 07
Hi Coffee: I would think that it would be a strange question to ask anyone while taking a stroll. But having read some of these comments, I understand a little bit more of why an Indian woman would ask such a thing. Strange, isn't it, that a boy should be favored over a girl. Ah, I love my daughter as much as my son. And I wish I was looking forward to having my husband all to myself some day. But there no longer is a husband. There's still God and happiness. It's all good.
• Canada
9 Oct 07
Oh your lucky girl! I was divorced and single for 10 years. I didn't date for many reasons. I have to say my relationship with God during that time was so special. Oh I know it is nice to have a partner to share our lives with but it is comforting knowing that God is with us at all times. So that is what I ment by lucky. So many divorced or widowed women and men do not have that personal relationship with God in their lives to fill that void. I am glad you do! God bless you!
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@gtargirl (5385)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Yes, that single again with children life is tough sometimes. But God has truly been there, especially in the lonely times. He promised to be a husband to the husbandless and a father to the fatherless. We have experienced that first hand. I would love to be remarried one day but I think I shall wait for his timing. Blessings to you too, my friend.
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• Canada
11 Oct 07
I pray you really do stick to that and wait for Gods timing and the man he knows will be the best for you and your children. I did wait. I have friends that didn't wait they did their own thing and all of them ended up in divorce again. God is faithful you will see!
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@foxyfire33 (10007)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I think in their culture boys are preferred. She probably is so used to that she just assumed you would feel the same.
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• China
9 Oct 07
I think everyone need a boy to make them happy life with their strong body.
@foxyfire33 (10007)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Well m parents didn't have any boys and they had a happy life. Girls and women are not weak bodied unless they are made to believe they are.
@Modestah (11188)
• United States
5 Aug 07
from the beginning of your discussion I thought you were going to tell us that she was selling or otherwise offering you a male child. maybe that is what she was doing?
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• United States
8 Oct 07
lol! That is EXACTLY what I was thinking. I thought somewhere towards the end she was going to tell us that the lady was offering her a boy and then she would ask our opinions on how crazy it is! =P lol.
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@subha12 (18449)
• India
11 Oct 07
i am from india. i know the scenario here. in most of the families in india boys are preferred to girls. May be tahs why she has asked you whether you want a boy this time.
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@Jade27 (67)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I think many cultures prefer boys to girls. I think it may be because men are allowed to have more honored positions in their societies than girls are allowed. I think that people should be happy with whatever child they get. I must admit that I think boys are easier to raise but I am always just happy that God blessed us with children, boys or girls.
@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
5 Aug 07
I am not an indian but I preffered boy to be my first born cause I guess boys are manage the life better than girls, but also I would like to have a girl in the near future, if God gives us such joy. So maybe that's why woman asked you that- you need a boy first and then a girl or girls!
@eden32 (3975)
• United States
8 Oct 07
Do you mean that boys are easier to manage than girls? Oh boy are you mistaken! My first born is a boy, he's now an adult. I of course love him & cherish him, but let me tell you he caused me far more sleepless nights, gray hairs & stomach upset than my daughter ever could. I've had police officers bring him home in the wee hours of the morning, police officers coming to take him to the station in the wee hours of the morning, explosions in our backyard (from his "experiments"), I've logged enough hours in our hospital's ER that I should go to medical school. Any child can be a handful/challenge/hard to manage. You do the best you can & stock up on the antacid.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
8 Oct 07
I suppose it depends on your background. People want boys to continue their family line, so if your last name is Wernhurst, and if most of the Wernhursts have girls, pretty soon there will be no more Wernhursts. Also if your experience as a girl has not been as good, the boys can keep the money they made, while the girls have to hand the money over to their parents, boys can fool around with girls and be considered as sowing their wild oats, girls are called tramps, atc. then boys are preferred. Also some women, like me, like boys and boy babies are more responsive while the girl baby gets fidgetty and cries a lot when they hold them. Also if you live in a paternal culture, the man is expected to make the living and often spinster daughters are at a disadvantage. Mind you, I do not like the idea of Westerners preferring girls over boys. It seems when I watch Tv, if someone who is white is talking on the dramas, they have this daughter, but someone who is maybe African American, they have a son, and yet when I see on real life, the African Americans can have just as many girls as we can. Unfortunately it seems that boys are not as numerous as girls and that is just as bad as the Chinese and Indians preferring boys over girls. Anyway we adopted two baby boys, but then I always wanted to have twins, I wanted them to be born on a certain date, but I did not expect it to be a birthday gift.