Are you giving yourself an excuse to lose at the things you wish you could...
By raydene
@raydene (9871)
United States
August 5, 2007 9:21am CST
accomplish?
This was suggested by a wonderful friend that has suffered severe disability her entire life.
She felt this might help me see if my attitude was stopping me from getting the most from my life.
At that time I felt my life was over.
Of late upon getting my life back I decided to read it and realize I shold have read it prior!
Quote
'If something is beyond your control, forget about it.
Don’t talk about it.
Worry only about the things you can control.
Work around the things you can’t.
For example, if you are five feet tall, you probably cannot become an NBA star.
You might be able to become the world’s greatest foul shooter.
People who are good at that put on paid exhibitions.
And it matters not how tall they are.
But look at the people who are NBA stars.
Many came from single-parent or even grandparent or aunt homes, poor backgrounds, violent neighborhoods.
Those are big handicaps.
But obviously the guys who are starring in the NBA who had those handicaps did not focus on them.
Instead, they found ways to win.
In many cases, their sports coach deserves the credit.
He or she got them to focus on finding ways to win and chewed them out whenever they started finding excuses for losing.'
Are you giving yourself excuses to fail.
I was...I used my disability as an excuse to lay down and wait for death!
I just could not make myself go forward because in my mind my life was over!
It took a wonderful immune booster to give me back my life and with it's help I plan to never let myself get down so low again!
Hugs all around
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@weemam (13372)
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5 Aug 07
I really wish I could do this , I worry about my family all the time , I worry because I am older that if anything happened to me how would they manage , I was at my eldest sons today at out granddaughters 18th and he was saying in the general conversation that it was silly to worry about things as they will happen or not happen whether you wory or not , xxx
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
5 Aug 07
My Darling Sister I want you to listen very carefully to what I am saying here...Do not worry about anyone that you may leave behind because you and me know that the same higher being that put you in their lives will care for them in your absence!
Enjoy every minute of every day and do not waste a moment on the ' what might be'
Love u madly
xoxoxoxoxo
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 07
I agree with you. We are just human beings and we are not perfect. We have high dreams and high target to achieve in life but not everybody is capable to turn the dream into a reality. We have barriers that prevent us from achieving the accomplishment we wanted so badly. As for me, it has been normal to make excuses for my disability in achieving something that I might want to achieve, but can't. It is a way of me to console myself and to tell that it's okay if I don't achieve it. However I still work hard to strive what I want. I will never give up. I only will make excuses if I am totally out of ways to reach. Hugs to you too. Have a nice day.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 Aug 07
Well I have to admit that I still do I always think I am feeling better and then of all a sudden it knocks me back again and there is times I wonder what is the point
I feel I am just a burden to everyone being the way I am a big Worry that no one really needs
But I struggle on
Many a time lately I have wished I was back to over 6 years ago when I was active healthy working having a goal in Life
But I guess I will never see that time again so I just have to get used to this and try to snap out of the self Pity I feel at times which I hate as I have never felt Self pity until 4 years ago when I was bullied out of my Job because I have a Disability
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
7 Aug 07
Keep reading this quote raydene, to continually remind yourself and it will help to keep your spirits up. I learnt a long time ago (because of my daughter), not to worry about things that might or might not happen, and that if something was beyond my control, to let it go because there was nothing I could do about it.
See, my first child was born with spina bifida and we were told that she would never walk, she would be incontinent, never have children, etc., but to our surprise she has done all of those things - and more!
We call her our "little battler", she has faced so many obstacles in her life, many of which she couldn't get round, but she would just leave it and go onto the next thing. She never complained about her disability, in fact, it has made her a stronger person, and an inspiration to everyone she meets. We sure have learnt a lot from her about life.
