Is it okay nowadays for girls to ask guys out?

Philippines
August 5, 2007 9:29pm CST
In some cultures and traditions, it's always the guys who ask out girls. But recently, I have observed, really observed, that some girls are starting to ask guys out on dates and parties.. Do you think that's proper? I'm raised in a very conservative way, and I still intend to follow the old tradition. But I'm wondering if it's still an issue when girls ask guys out...? Is it? Does it still matter nowadays? I'm kind of confused.. I hope you'll share your opinions about this.
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15 responses
• Singapore
6 Aug 07
There's really nothing wrong for girls to ask guys out nowadays. If you're really interested in a guy, you should seize the opportunity. Since you're raised in a conservative way, you can start from group outing first if you're awkward with single date and advance slowly.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
I'd like the group outing. I think I'm gonna try it. There's this guy in class that I'd like to get to know more - but I'm not sure how I'm going to ask him to go somewhere with me with my friends. I find this idea really exciting since I've never before asked a guy out.
• Singapore
6 Aug 07
Well, you can have a mixture of guys and gals in the outing so that his friends are there too. If he enjoys your company, it will be easier to ask him for a date the next time.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Good point. Now all I can do is to make the date - or the hangout rather - an enjoyable and memorable one so that the guy whom I am interested in will ask me out again, right? Thanks so much for your response. It really helps!
@magikrose (5432)
• United States
6 Aug 07
honestly I think it is great that girls are standing up for themselves and taking the first step. Why should it always be the guy to ask the girl out. This si the year 2007, girls have just as many rights as the guys do today so it makes sence to me that the grils make the first move from time to time.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
I think so, too. At least most girls have better initiative here than the guys. And we have rights to make the first move, too, right? I mean, I like the idea of asking a guy out if I'm interested in him. Why let the old tradition stand in the way... Sigh.. But I'm not sure my parents would approve of this idea.
@zer0charly (5615)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
on my own points of views,i think there is nothing wrong if you ask a guy out..besides,we are in a new generation now.."maria clara is out in the market. if you like the guy,then ask him out..but of course,u need to make things clear,that that is a friendly date..or much better if you'll invite him in a group hang out..it would be fun..guys are always making the moves and who is always sacrificing for the girls,maybe its time for us girls that we should make the moves.:p..besides,its all about friendship..nothing more,nothing less..
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Great idea. Thanks. I think I'm going to ask this guy out in a group hang out for starters. I've never really asked a guy out before. This should be thrilling, eh?
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
and i think that guy will appreciate your effort of inviting him..and guys will find you more interesting if you'll make the first move of asking him out..theres nothing wrong with that..have a nice day!
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• Malaysia
6 Aug 07
I think nowadays there is no wrong if a girl ask a boy out for a date. You can always do it in a casual way, and make it not look like a proper proposal. What you can do is just ask him whether he want to have a dinner with you tonight, since you happen to be near him and having nobody else to invite. See? You can create many excuses to invite him, and not showing him that you are desperate. I hope you will succeed in your date, my friend. Good luck.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Thanks! I'm pretty much excited. I'm really glad that I started this discussion. I really thought no one would agree. Thanks for sharing your opinions. Most valued.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Aug 07
I don't see anything wrong with it. Gone are the days where it use to be just boys or men asking girls out. If you have the chance and feel bold and brave, then go for it.
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@mrkbrynt (159)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
i have no problem with that.... it is just an invitation to go out.... just enjoy the company.... if you can see that both of you will have a good future together... then go for it.... maybe it the right chance....
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@onlinebiz (119)
• Singapore
7 Aug 07
I think it is ok cos girls are more open nowadays, but I would rather be approached by a guy than the other way round. Cos as a girl, I want to be sure that the guy asked me out cos he likes me, if I asked him out, I will not be sure if he is going out with cos he likes me or he is just obliged to do so. Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com
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• China
7 Aug 07
never mind, it is ok that girls ask boys out and the same as the opposite.
• United States
7 Aug 07
Every individual is different. If you are brought up in a traditional manner of course 9 out of 10 times you will do what is 'proper' for your culture. Where I am from...where I come from and how I have been raised I think it's absolutly okay for a 'girl' to ask a 'guy' out. It also depends where you live. In some Countries Women are not even allowed to look at a man that's not their husband. SO I guess that should answer you question it all depends.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Why not? There's no law against it. The Bible says nothing against it. Life is short. Go for what you want. That's the only way to have no regrets in life. The only disadvantage when a girl decides to ask guys out is the possibility of rejection. Before only guys take that risk. Now if girls want to ask guys out, then they would be taking the same risk too.
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@Galena (9118)
6 Aug 07
with my partner I did all the chasing. we've been together nearly 8 years.
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• United States
6 Aug 07
I do not see anything wrong with a woman approaching a man and asking him out on a date.
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• Canada
6 Aug 07
Although I have never asked a guy out I don't see any reason why one shouldn't . The idea that one should be a guy to ask someone out is outdated in my area as I feel it should be . I have never understood why one should feel inadequate about something that the opposite gender does simply because of culture or tradition . In the end if two people get along or not has no bearing on who asked who out . It is possible that a guy would be shy and not know how to go about asking a girl out yet the two could be very compatiable and would miss out on something good because of culture or tradition . The same goes for many things such as a girl having to be younger or a guy having to be taller . All this states is that one can't like someone or be themselves because of what an area believes to be correct or not correct about a situation . If one wants something in life and they sit around waiting , it may never come to them . We have to take what we see and go after what we want or we could miss out on so many wonderful opportunities that are out there because of what our religion or culture , tradition or area feels is the only way to do things .
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
For me. Yes it is okay if we girls ask boys out. Besides, this is the new millenium already. Gone are the days when our elders are conservative enough and asks for boys to ask them out.
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@rexiemay (401)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
yes. i think girls can ask any guy she wants. i don't see anything wrong with that. the guy can always decline if he thinks that the girl is too forward. we are now past the old age when women are depicted as a weakling, always following the orders of men. we all have our own decisions now. we know what is bad and what is not. and i think that a girl asking a guy out is pretty harmless.