HONESTLY, which is sweeter? Revenge or Forgiveness?

Philippines
August 6, 2007 3:07am CST
I've heard and read a line that goes like this: "Revenge is sweet." Do you really think so? Or will it be best to just forgive the person who did you wrong? I will not deny that in my years of walking on this hard earth, I have tasted the sweetness of revenge more than the taste of forgiving someone. Revenge can be sweet - but I somehow realize now that I can never be truly happy if I keep grudges and plot more revenge to the person who did me wrong. In fact, after the sweet feeling of accomplishing a revenge, I still feel a bit resentful and bitter. Sigh. It made me recall the moments where I actually forgave those who did me wrong - and those moments felt really good! It was like unloading some heavy burdens in your heart and then feeling all gratifying and self-fulfilling. What about your experiences? What do you think? Which is a better feeling? Revenge or Forgiviness?
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26 responses
6 Aug 07
Forgivenss is for God. REVENGE is sweet and a dish best served COLD. But when u set yourself on revenge, u better dig two graves. for your victim and another one for you. I am with REVENGE and it's so sweet no matter how short it lasts. Pain is a lonely thing my dear. No one feels is but you. so avenge yourself. this is the only way to earn respect nowadays. :) happy vengance!
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Yikes! Haha.. Well, I respect your opinion on that. I go for forgiveness though. But I'd like to avenge myself first before I forgive the person who did me wrong. Yikes, again! Haha.. Just can't help it. Thanks for your response. Most appreciated.
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6 Aug 07
u think of forgivness AFTER u take ur revenge? U r a ture KILLER my friend!! ha ha ha... am proud of you!! :D
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Well, yeah.. I guess so. It's kind of hard to forgive when you still feel resentful toward that person who did you wrong. So if I accomplish my revenge, then maybe I can forgive him. Haha.. It's just a thought! :D
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
12 Aug 07
I could never get revenge on someone that has done me wrong, its just not me. I would rather or eventually get over the hurt and forgive that person but I may not necessarily forget what they did to me though. Taking revenge does not get you anywhere and just makes the issue more worse than it already is.
• Philippines
16 Aug 07
That is really cool of you. You're right, though. Revenge can only make matters worse; and you'll be the one who'll end up hurting. Even though it's hard to forgive some people who really hurt you, time can heal the pain and eventually you'll learn to forgive. Thanks for the response.
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@nigtvamp (102)
• United States
7 Aug 07
I think it depends on the level ofhurt, pain and anger someone has caused you i nthe past. I've forgiven people easily before, for minor cuts and burns to my emotions. For a certain ex that spent two and a half years almost making me his whipping girl, forgiveness certainly isn't on the menu. At least, not until he owns up to his actions and makes a sincere apology for once. Personally, I've always enjoyed watching karma take its toll on people. It keeps the metaphorical blood off my hands and makes for great entertainment.
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
If you don't want revenge or forgiveness, waiting for karma helps. Thanks for the response. Take care of yourself.
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• India
7 Aug 07
Well there should be forgiveness in some cases... when the other have done not much wrong. But if ur friend have done too much wrong with u then i dont think there is any hope of forgiveness... I m not saying that we should take revenge but we should not even forgive him.....
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
I get your point. Forgiving may be hard to do. But you'll be hard on yourself if you won't find it in your heart to forgive the person who did you wrong. You will only feel bitter... You can't forgive someone right away though. It takes time and effort. But eventually, we have to forgive.
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@suman76 (648)
• India
6 Aug 07
I think this is not right that we should make other person our enemy . You must leave that person and I am assured you that one days he will have to ask for your forgiveness.
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
That can happen. Thanks!
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@vinzen (1022)
• India
6 Aug 07
Hi, well i think that revenge can never be sweet, it is a painful bitter experiec#nce for the one seeking revenge and even for the one getting it, am sure. Where as forgiveness is so sweet and divine and it lightens you the moment you give it. You have to try and experience it to know what i am meaning to say. If we forgive its almost like we are letting go of a major burden and grudge against the person, and a burdens off our back, where as if we seek revenge, then again we are burdened with the thought of the burden life long also, why we took revenge, could there have been another alternative, i should have done this or that, so many questions keep coming to nmind, leaving you more troubled than relaxed.
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Good point. Thanks.
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
6 Aug 07
For a short term sweetness revenge is good but for long time good feeling inside forgibeness is probably better as revengeful feelings is just a negative feeling within you and any negativity within is not good for ones health. Life is way too short and lets face it, it takes a big person to forgive all.
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Yeah, I feel you. Revenge creates negative atmosphere, which is unhealthy for one's emotions and spirit. Forgiveness, however, creates a peaceful atmosphere where one can really find serenity. Thanks for the response.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Hi diannebcrs! I agree with you that revenge can be sweet but it's just a temporary feeling...and it's quite draining. Forgiveness is much sweeter when it really comes from the heart and will give you peace and joy inside. However, I still do fall sometimes of wanting revenge even in thoughts only...LOL! Take care and have a nice day!
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
That gives me a nice idea... If I want to get revenge on the person who did me wrong, I can always think of torturing him in my mind instead of doing it on the actual so I won't cause any more trouble. But there are times, though, when I really can't help myself. I really want to seek revenge to feel better. But then after the revenge, I will only feel empty. It's best to forgive. Thanks for the response.
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@maean_19 (4661)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
There is really a saying "sweet revenge". It is actually sweet when you are surrounded with the feeling and want of having revenge on someone for the pain he inflicted on you. However, if we are out of that feeling, we became empty and think what we have done good with that revenge. We end up telling ourselves, there is nothing really seet on it. I had been in that situation where i have to do this because of revenge and resentment. I was never happy with it afterwards. I had realized that revenge is not sweet at all. My final word? Forgiving someone who gave you pain is more sweeter and at peace. You do not worry of sleeping with guilty conscience.
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
You have a point. I kind of experienced that, too. For a moment, I felt satisfied because I hurt someone who hurt me. But later on, I realized that I regretted it for it only made me feel worse because it made me just as bad for inflicting pain on that person. I guess when you forgive someone, if makes you feel at peace. Maybe it's sweet to get revenge, but it's only for a while. Forgiveness, however, can make you feel contented for a lifetime. Thanks for the response.
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
I think revenge can be sweet, if it is meant for good reasons. However, I still think that revenge falls under the category of "SIN." I am not that easy to forgive people, but I do not think that revenge can justify the cause. I'll just set the problem aside for the moment, as I will not talk or communicate on any means to that certain individual. Time is the one that'll dictate my decisions, as I believe that everyone deserves to be forgiven.
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
If God can forgive, I guess we are ought to forgive others, too since we're not all perfect. In my case, it takes a lot of time to forgive someone who did me wrong and caused me pain. I cannot forgive easily nor I can forget right away. For some insane reason, I think of revenge. But then again, I'll only let that person hurt me all over again, right? Is there a difference between "revenge" and "avenge"?
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@glenniah (1201)
• Mandurah, Australia
9 Aug 07
I agree with you diannebcrs, its better to let the grudges go. As Jerry Seinfeld once said, revenge is living a good life, Amen to that I say. Glenniah
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@gnohb12 (49)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
for me forgiveness is sweeter.
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• Philippines
19 Aug 07
revenge is sweet, for the time being at least. however it doesn't really get you anywhere. it only causes more trouble. but yeah, i can't deny that it is just sweet to see the person who hurt you feel the same hurt he/she had inflicted on you or on people you love. but i guess that after that sweet moment, we would still feel bad about the situation and we still feel bound by that incident and the only way one can liberate oneself from it is to forgive the person. i normally hold grudges and at night i think about those people i feel bad about and i don't feel really good about it. maybe someday i will learn to forgive them. after i exact vengeance, of course lolz
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
in other words, guilt can only pile up on your frustrations after you had done your revenge, making you feel more burdened. i wish forgiving someone is that easy, you know?
@onlinebiz (119)
• Singapore
7 Aug 07
It is really difficult to say, cos if that person is a real scumbag, I would really want that person to suffer. Forgiveness is sweet only when that person truly deserves it. Especially when you see that they are really apologetic about their actions and that they had realized their mistakes. It really depends on the individual and what mistake they had committed. Imagine, if a woman tries to seduce your husband on purpose and attempts to wreck your family, will u be able to "forgive" her? No way for me, I would definitely hope that she gets beaten up or something. The feeling would have been utmost gratifying! Again, it is just one scenario, so we can't generalize. Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Hahaha! You're really cool, you know that? I find it really amusing. I feel the same way too when the person who did me wrong caused a lot of trouble and pain. I want to hit that person or throw him off the bridge. But then again, I want to forgive him so that I won't have to feel guilty and bitter. It's the only way to be able to attain peace in my heart and mind. I'll just let God handle the situation, then. God is ever forgiving - yet He is always righteous. He'll set things right. Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this matter, onlinebiz. Take care and God bless!
• Singapore
7 Aug 07
Forgiveness is definitely sweeter than revenge for me. Imagine you put yourself in the shoes of that person whom you took revenge, how will you feel if someone took grudges on you and take revenge on you? I'm not a vengeful person so would prefer to forgive if I can. If that person had done an unforgivable sin on me, I'll just ignore that person in future instead of taking avenge on that person.
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
That is really cool of you. It's nice to be forgiving. Thanks for the response.
• United States
7 Aug 07
In a desperate situation where you need the other person, forgiveness. If the other person is expendable, revenge is the sweetest thing there is.
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Thanks for expressing your opinion. Truly valued. Take care! :D
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
honestly, the sweetest of course forgiveness because once you forgive people who hurt you before at least you know to your self that you are not bad,,, right???
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Not bad. Makes sense. Thanks.
• United States
6 Aug 07
I would have to say that forgiveness is sweeter, not only do you feel better in the long run, but it shows what a nice, caring, sweet individual you are. If you show revenge what good comes out of it, im sure you dont feel better and in the long run the wrong always gets you in the end, sometimes worse than others. So what do you think, is it easier to forget and forgive, or to seek revenge and hope it dont get you in the end?
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
It is EASIER to seek revenge. But it's BETTER to forgive and forget. That's my only answer. Thanks for the response! :D
• Egypt
6 Aug 07
I have to thank you about that matter Really it stopped me and I found myself write my respond. The both words is so big words Revenge and Forgiveness!!! I think we have to use the both but the point when we can it!! and which way we can use it!! I can be forgiveness with someone hurt me or Revenge from him but it's up to the matter and for everything we need to take care be for the action I don't like the people which take the fast reaction it can be wrong and it can make you regret all of your life about it and maybe you will lose of your partner or your only love.So it depend on the matter but from my view and my opinion I think the forgiveness person is the best and who has alot of respect from the other people.But at the other I don't want you to lose your honor.Waiting for your next subject.....Thanks
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Thanks for expressing your opinion on this matter, LoveAdam. Take care!
@senthil2k (1501)
• India
6 Aug 07
You are right and I go with you. Revenge can never be sweet. May be one can feel better at the moment when he or she has taken the revenge. But in the long run, it will not be good for him. But when someone forgives the other, it will lasts longer and that feelings will give him more peace of mind.
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• Philippines
10 Aug 07
I agree. Revenge can do me no good. The sweet feeling of revenge can only be temporary but it'll only make me feel bad and guilt about having done it. I really believe that forgiveness it the key to happiness.