Does your spouse start arguments and then walk out of the room?

United States
August 6, 2007 11:45am CST
One of the most frustrating things about my spouse when we first got married was that he would start arguments and then walk out of the room before I had a chance to defend myself against his comments. It was a little more than frustrating actually. How are you supposed to get an argument resolved if there's only one person involved? Thinking about it now, maybe it was just his way of ending the disagreement. Or, maybe he realized that he had said something dumb and just wanted to get away from it. Once in awhile he still does that and it's still very annoying! Does your boyfriend or spouse walk out of the room in the middle of arguments? Does he do that so he can get the last word in the argument? Or, do you think he's just tired of the argument and wants an easy way out of the conflict? Or, are you the one most likely to walk away from the argument?
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@DanaMark (807)
• United States
7 Aug 07
I am more likely to walk out than my wife. She is good at debating, arguing, etc. And she always wins. My natural tendency is to get quiet, which is my way of walking out of the room. Maybe that is my way of saying "I won!" lol.
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• United States
11 Aug 07
Ha ha! That sounds about right.
@sunshinecup (7880)
6 Aug 07
LOL, I can honestly say mine does not do that, but I can tell you what he does do. If I am mad at him for good reasons, he gets mad at me! That drives me nuts, he doesn't even have a reason when I ask him why is he mad, he's just mad cause I am. OMG!!! It's my time, not his, doesn't he understand that, LOL.
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• United States
6 Aug 07
That is too cute. Guys have such mysterious logic. Don't you think. I'm mad cause you're mad. Too funny! Mine just gets bewildered when I'm mad at him.
• Malaysia
27 Aug 07
I never walk out from an argument. I hate to keep an argument unresolved. I always want an argument to be settled then and there. I can never understand why men like to walk out of an argument. The same thing goes with my husband, beautyqueen26. Every time we had an argument, he would start his car or motorcycle and get out of the house. This is even worse that your situation! At least your spouse only went out of the room! Lol. However, after being married for almost nine years, finally I have been able to reduce this problem. Just imagine, nine years... One day during a fight I challenged him and told him he is a coward. I told him if he stays on running away from his problems he will always be unsuccessful in life and I will forever look down on him. Well, amazingly after I told him that his face turned different as if I have spanked him up and awaken him up from a dream. Surprisingly, he came to me and sat down beside me. We talked heart to heart about everything. All our disappointments are discussed and we didn't keep anything inside. We didn't care even if it hurts each other's feelings because we know the main intention is not to hurt but to heal. I was so grateful that we finally understood each other. We forgave each other totally and we promised to start a new life after the argument. Now we love each other even more. Oh.. I really love him. Thanks God, for giving him as my husband. I wish you the best in your relationship too, beautyqueen26. I believe one day you will be able to settle this problem. Just stay strong, have faith and success will find you.
@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
20 Aug 07
Hi Beautyqueen26, and this happens to all us woman I think because we are from Venus and guys are from Mars :) It is very irritating but we all have to deal with sometimes. They hate when they are short on words, this is all, and leave the room before hand, hehehe
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Oh yeah- If we are disagreeing on something- he will leave the house and go outside- It irritates me—But I don’t follow him- I did a couple of times and he yelled real loud at me- So now I know when he walks out to the garage- to leave him alone- he calms down and comes back in and we discuss it- It’s much easier to resolve this way!
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
12 Aug 07
My husband usually waits until I have calmed down before he answers. He never walks out unless he has had enough of the conversation. I tend to be the one that walks out especially if i am not getting anywhere with him. The most annoying thing he does when he does walk out, is when a group of people are talking to him and he just walks out on them. Sometimes he doesn't realise that he does this. He would be involved in the conversation at the beginning, and then the next thing, once he has said his thing, he walks out and goes for a smoke LOL that is so annoying
@mummymo (23707)
7 Aug 07
He used top do this a LOT! Not sure why but I think he just wantede to make sure he felt he had 'won'! 10 years later and he still does it occasionally but now I have learned to live with it and just give hin 'the look'! lol xxx
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
6 Aug 07
My husband does that sometimes, too. Either that, or he starts yelling. I don't know which one is worse. We lived in an apartment when we lived on base, and we could hear everything through the walls. We always seemed to fight late at night, after our son was in bed, so when he started yelling, it not only woke up our child, but probably the neighbors, too! I would usually end up just agreeing with him to get him to stop yelling! He's not really a confrontational person, though. He lets things build until he can't take it anymore, so when we fight, it usually lasts for a while. I would say we've had less than a dozen fights the whole time we've been married, though. So it's not too bad. I just wish he would handle the arguments more like an adult!
• United States
6 Aug 07
Frequently I'm the one to leave in an argument. In the last couple of years I have gotten better though. I will tell him I'm leaving because I think we both need time and space to think things through and then later we finish the discussion when we are both more level headed.
@Calais (10899)
• Australia
6 Aug 07
LOL...Yes, definantly...What a laugh, because this happens to me also..I really dont know why it happens, its so annoying