Birthday .... being neglected .... Do you experience that before?

@maehan (1439)
United States
August 7, 2007 11:39am CST
My birthday was last Sunday, I have recieved birthday wish from one of my friend, email wishes from jobstreet internet and one with balloon from the management of the apartment. That's about it. My family including my husband had forgotten my birthday. I do not have a birthday cake from them. Kind of sad initially. But, come to think about it. I have a birthday balloon and wishes from my friend. Should be contented ... much better than last year, none remember :o( Do you have such encounter? And, how you feel?
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9 responses
• Portugal
8 Aug 07
Yeah Meahan, I had encountered it many times....but that were becasue i like it to be like that..coz i dont have any extra money to have fun. Everybody at home is just quite too...they don't like me to smirk during my birthday hahahahha....I came from a poor family so I am immuned to that celebrations. I feel sad too, but there is no choice :) Until such times i realized that I can still live in a happy life without it. heheh..what did I do? well, i just always bear in mind that still life is nice and great with your loved ones and not those birthdays celebrations. I started to be contented what i have. :)
@maehan (1439)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Ya, u r right, as long as we can spend time together is good enough. Cheers!
@MGjhaud (23069)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
never experienced that actually because my mother would talk every birthday of our family days before it and she would plan what to buy or cook then. she's really my mother..=) my last birthday was so unexpected 'cause i thought she would prepare less than like that. i was working the whole day and it made me busy and when i went home very late for dinner, i was surprise 'cause there were people invited which im out of noticed. and my family where gathering in the dining table singing me a happy birthday song. my birthdays was almost all been like that. when we told our mother not to cook for an occasion like that she would say "ok not too much food" but when the day of celebration comes, there more than "not-too-much-food".. she really don't like a birthday would be neglected.
@maehan (1439)
• United States
9 Aug 07
She is so lovable and sweet. Lucky you!
• Canada
7 Aug 07
Happy Belated Birthday !! Yes I have had this happen before as well and find that each year it gets even worse . I know longer expect much on my birthday anymore . Last year all I wanted was for my children and my husband to stay home with me for the day just to say they remembered and they all made plans to go out . My husband wasn't around until after midnight that night . There was nothing to make the day special or exciting and even when I told my mother that she had to have my daughter for that day because my daughter had went up to stay with them for a week which turned out to be weeks because once they had her up there they didn't want to send her back home and I didn't have the gas money to go up and get her . My mother tried to tell me I was being greedy expecting my daughter to come home just for my birthday as she said birthdays were for children and I wasn't a child anymore . I was hurt but just try not to make it seem like any other day and even though my birthday is coming up next week I am trying not to even think about it as it is depressing because I make such a big deal out of it for everyone else that I know and care about . Sorry your day wasn't anything special but hopefully next year will be better for you and you are not alone in this as I know just what you mean . Take Care !!
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
8 Aug 07
Sad to hear that. And, you are not greedy, this is normal, I think majority of the parent or close one will remember their birthday. I remember my family members and close friends birthday. I will call them to wish them. When I am back in my hometown, I will definitely hold a birthday gathering for my parent. I love to see their happy face. Oh yes, thanks for the greeting, I appreciate that.
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
8 Aug 07
Very sad experience. I remember all my classmates' birthday but my 19th birthday was neglected by my dormmates.They totally forgot my birthday and I just reveiced birthday messages from my former classmates :O My birthday is in winter but on the day of my 19th birthday,I felt that it was the coldest day in that winter.
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
8 Aug 07
Ya, feeling sad and cold at the same time. Thanks for sharing.
@archer1811 (1098)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
Being married and having my husband for how many years so far i havent experienced that, but asking about my life when i was still single and have to celebrate my 16th b-day well i have, i dont have boyfriend that time but i have so many friends, they did greet me and so as my other relatives specially my grandfather who never forgot to greet me, but my parents maybe so busy that time forgot to call me or greet me in that day they remember my b-day the day after my celebration, i know how you feel coz i have feel that too... but why did you not ask your husband on that day if he remember something special for you? Maybe he's so busy... but for me its not the reason, im not tellin you to get mad with your partner but its really hurt... my husband never forget my b-day's and any other celebrations in our life... But cheer up maehan... maybe next year your husband will never do that again... well when your husband celebrate his birthday too never do the same as what he did to you.. beside try to prepare a dinner for both of you, and make it speciall at least maybe that way you can help him realize that birthday is important to you...
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
8 Aug 07
I did ask him the following day, but he said he received an alert from his computer but he was too exhausted so he just slept his whole day on my birthday. Birthday to him is a earning money gimmick.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
8 Aug 07
I don't like attention and also don't like holidays that put people out thinking they HAVE to do SOMETHING for me. Birthdays...moms day...valentines day...they are all just days. If someone treats me fine all year,I would not give a thought if they forgot my birthday. Likewise I am very insulted when anyone goes all out on a special day when they don't oherwise.
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
8 Aug 07
Very Cool!
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
7 Aug 07
The only person that forgets my birthday is my father. My husband and I are 8 days appart so it is hard to forget each others birthday. I have to admit it really hurts every year that my father doesnt even say happy birthday and I even make it apoint to drop hints to him. I am gratefull that my mom does something special for me every year. One year my mom and my only son took me to a restaurant I have been wanting to go to. Another year she gave me a pearl necklace. Since my son lives with her she even lets my son get me something special that he picks out himself. For me that makes up for my dad forgeting to even say happy birthday.
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
7 Aug 07
Oh, your mom is so sweet and thoughtful. Really make up everything. Sweet!
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
7 Aug 07
My ex was going to take me to a hockey game a few days before my birthday as a birthday present. We ended up not being able to find a babysitter and he ended up going with one of his friends instead. Then he woke up the morning of my birthday this year, said an "off hand" happy birthday then said he was going to work. Instead, he spent the day with the woman he was cheating on me with. She's also the person who got to go to my hockey game instead of me.
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
7 Aug 07
That's very sad. :o(
• United States
7 Aug 07
I know it can be a little tough if no one recognizes your special day. But what I do is treat myself and pamper myself. Try to get yourself in a good mood. Unfortunately we have all these important people in our lives but we forget we must please ourselves before anyone else can. Im sure your husband just really forgot, he's human forgive him and live life to see your next birthday. Don't feel neglected because your not some people dont' have anyone to wish them a happy birthday. But anyway Happy Belated ;)
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@maehan (1439)
• United States
7 Aug 07
Initially I am sad, but come to think of it, it just the day that I am born. Thus no big deal. Well, I am still happy that you wish me. ha ha ha . Thank you so much!