Which is best, being right or being kind?

@Pose123 (21662)
Canada
August 7, 2007 12:46pm CST
I was listening to Dr Wayne Dyer speaking on PBS last night and I was struck by something he said. When you have a choice says Dr Dyer, between being right and being kind, always be kind. It got me thinking about how important we think it is to be right. How many arguments have we had usually over very minor issues, just because we felt that we had to be right? Next time I'm going to remember that I have a choice - what about you?
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@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
7 Aug 07
Thats a good one :) I say being kind.. even though yes, I am one to argue to try and prove that I AM RIGHT! LOL but, I need to be the person who is kind.. That is who I would like to be.. Great discussion you have created here :) +
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
7 Aug 07
Hi jennifer611,thanks for commenting.Of course we all like to be right but I'm going to work on changing that. I'm sure it's better to be kind. Blessings.
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@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
it seems a step closer to a better world is for people to be kind. It attracts kindness to propagate to even more and more people. It is interesting that being just right while being unkind seems to be repulsive. But being just kind delivers a profoundness seemingly hard to describe...
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
Hi ruperto, Thank you for your comment and we agree. Blessings.
@MikeMe (100)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Reminds me of a truism I heard. "Honesty without love is mean. Love without honesty is hypocrisy." Sometimes its in everyone's interests to be right. But, far more often than we care to admit, its not. In my mind, being kind far outweighs being right, except when being kind would actually be harmful to the other person.
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
9 Aug 07
Hi MikeMe and welcome. Thanks for your comment, I agree with you.
@flowerchilde (12534)
• United States
8 Aug 07
I think this is great advice. After all, if one is right, well truth always wins out in the end, so why argue anyway? I also think it's good to say yer piece once, and then forget it, instead of each person repeating their side of the argument to each other over and over.. (and over.. some folks get into a vicious circle of arguments for years and years.. what a waste!) :)
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@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
8 Aug 07
Hi flowerchilde, Thanks for commenting. I agree with you about it being a vicious circle.
@rosie_123 (6118)
7 Aug 07
Well I must admit I have no idea who Dr. Wayne Dyer is - but I certainly agree with him. I always get a little irritated by these people who "call a spade a spade", and always "speak as they find". Honesty is great of course, - but why upset someone unnecessarily when a little white lie could send them on their way feeling happier with their lot? I always try to be kind! Not sure whether I alwasy succeed - but I do always try!
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
7 Aug 07
Hi rosie, I agree it's always best to be kind. I try too,but not enought. I'm hoping to change that. Blessings.
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• Australia
8 Aug 07
I think being kind should always be a priority, but not at the expense of other priorities. If there is a difference over a matter of opinion, kindness, along with courtesy and respect, should always prevail. We should never argue just to prove a point, without regard for the other's opinion. I enjoy discussions with people with whom I disagree here on myLot, but our discussions remain respectful and there is no unkindness. If I am asked for an opinion, such as how a colour, a dress, or whatever, suits someone, I will also seek to be kind, but not at the expense of being honest. I will compliment the person on something. For instance, I might say with such a gorgeous colour hair, blue would look much better, rather than saying orange doesn't look very good on a redhead. Kindness is important, but I place honesty and integrity (always spoken with love and kindness) as even more important. I would prefer my friends to be honest first, and kind second.
@Pose123 (21662)
• Canada
8 Aug 07
Thank you cloudwatcher I think you make an excellent point. You also show that it is possible to be kind and honest.