my daughter and her dad
By ladylily29
@ladylily29 (323)
United States
August 8, 2007 7:29am CST
My oldest which is soon to be 15 , saw her dad last night and he was drunk enough he didn't know her.That made her sooo mad, she told him she'll never speak to him again and she hated him and he was dead to her now,his girlfriend came to the car and told her she is gonna have to accept it that he is a drunk and that will never change.He always drinks and thats him.Her brother accepts that thier dad is a drunk ,and she can't.She told me last night she don't have anyone at all, she even screamed at me for not tellingher supper was done when she came in five minutes after it was done,And I told her I hollared at her and she said she don't beleive me.I am at a wall , what do I say to her.I have never hid the fact he is a drunk, and told them that from the day they was old enough to understand and ask me why did you and daddy divorce.My husband now don't want much to do with my kids,due to he don't think they respect him and his rules cause they break them everyone.So he wont even ground them or help me with them.So what is your take on this?
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3 responses
@zaichn (319)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
Well definitely its for you too handle.. alone.. I think its better if you really have a "heart-to-heart" talk with your kids. Even though they are not old enough to understand what you and your ex-husband is going through. They still have the right to know.
Whether its now, the next day, month or year.. Eventually, your kids will not be at peace not knowing what really is the cause of your break-up. Also, their dad is a drunk. They can't change it but only to accept it. If their dad will change, thats good for him and your kids.. If not, they still have a "mom".. a super mom.. and that's you. :)
@ladylily29 (323)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Thanks ,but I am far from a super mom, just a sorry excuse to be called a mom until one day my kids decide other wise I guess.I am like alot of moms out here in the world, just trying to live one day at a time and praying to God one day things will get better for all of us.But thanks for saying such a nice thing.God Bless.
@Hksmr2rbo (37)
• United States
9 Aug 07
you have to lay the smack down on your kids. let them know you are in charge. i always see parents going easy on kids when the kids are flat out yelling. if that were my kid. i would have smacked them. i dont have kids of my own. but i do have very young nephews and nieces, and when they act up around my parents (their grandparents) all i do it walk in the room and look at them, and they stop whatever tantrum that they were throwing. i started when they were young. but now that they are getting older they know better than to talk back to me.
