Will you unwrap the gift after you receive it?

@youless (99532)
Guangzhou, China
August 9, 2007 9:09am CST
In my country it's not a suitable behavior to unwrap the gift right away, especially when you face to the person who gives this present to you. It will look like greedy. So most of the time I won't open the gift immediately. I will accept it and say thanks. Later I will open the gift alone. I know it's quite different from the western customs. They tend to open the gift right away. If not, it seems that you don't appreciate the gift. What a big difference! What's your behavior after you get a present?
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• India
10 Aug 07
Oh.. thank god in my country it's not like that. I feel very desperate to open up the gift. As soon as I receive it first things comes in my mind is to open it up and see what is there inside it for me. It's very natural. I think it is not a bad think. The person who gives you gift also wants to know how you feel after getting it. And when you show your happiness after revealing, that person also feels good. Isn't it?
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
That's right. I also think it's a good behavior to open it. But sometimes it depends on the different culture.
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
15 Aug 07
Hello youless!:-) In my country of origin too, it is considered a little disrespectful (or greedy, as you say), if someone opens a gift right away. However, with close friends and family members, people do unwrap the gift in front of others when it's a casual gift, just to enjoy the moments together. If, however, it's a formal function, where there are many guests, gifts are not supposed to be open in front of guests. People will see the guests off and then will open the gifts. You are right that it depends on the culture too. So many different customs and ways to do things and that's exactly what makes this world a beautiful place, isn't it?
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Aug 07
When we are in different countries, we have to respect their local customs. So it's good we learn the difference in advance:)
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
15 Aug 07
You are right, youless, it is always respectful to treat people in their own terms. One must know in advance to behave that way!:-)
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
10 Aug 07
I know the practice is different depending on where you are in the world. For me, I usually do not open the gift, and I just thank the giver, then open it only later in private. But if the giver says something like "I bought you something you will like...go ahead, open it and take a look", then I will likely oblige on the spot. I think if I were a child, the practice will be different. I often give presents to children on their birthdays or Christmas. Usually, they will be excited to see what they get, especially if they look forward to getting toys and games. They won't be shy to tear open the giftwrap, and then exclaim excitedly to the other children around them what they just received. You can usually see the excitement and smiles beaming on their faces after the gift opening, and that makes me feel good as the giver that they appreciate what they receive. I was once a child, so I know how the feeling is to want to unwrap a gift the moment I receive one.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
Children are alwasy true to their hearts. It's obvious to see whether they are happy or not, it's hard for them to hide the real emotions.
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
15 Aug 07
Thanks for the vote. My wife and I try and buy "thoughtful" gifts for children. It is gratifying when a nephew of niece comes up to me and says "Uncle Victor, thanks for buying that xx gift for me. I really like it so much". Or my sister-in-law telling us that her daughter keeps wearing the dress we bought for her two Christmases ago.
@mymytri (2032)
• India
9 Aug 07
We dont have any customs like that youless.It depends on the occassion and the person.If it is a marriage function or party we dont open that gift in the presense of that person.At home or when relatives gift anything personally on marraige day's or birthday's i am sure open that in their presense and appreciate for that gift and say thanks.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 07
Thanks for telling me, I learn something new from you:)
• China
10 Aug 07
I agree with mymytri. It's really depends on the occassions.if in the formal party i will just recieve it and say thanks and i will open it when i am alone;but if in the informal occassion or i get it from my close friends i will open it immediately. That's should be ok, and they'd like to see my surprise expression.
• United States
15 Aug 07
Amazing you know us so well Youless! In the US it's definitely considered rude not to open the gift right away. In fact we gather friends and family around us and make a really big deal about opening the gifts. And, at Christmas time everyone opens their gifts at the same time. I guess we are all hoping the other person likes their gifts and that's why we want to be there.
@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Aug 07
So now you can see the big difference between different locations:)
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
12 Aug 07
It really depends on why and who gave me the present. If its because its my birthday i tend to wait until after the celebrations are over then open them. If its just from my husband and son then I open it then and there.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 07
Thanks for your reply.
@dimaks (786)
• Japan
11 Aug 07
it depends. there are friends of mine who would just insist me to open the gifts they just gave. and there who do not bother asking. so personally i personally unwrap the gifts at home.. i like surprises :)
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 07
Yeah, a surprise is better:)
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
11 Aug 07
Hey yl, when I give a gift I expect the recipient to open the gift immediately so I can see their reaction just the same I open my gifts on presentation to show appreciation. +'s |:)
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 07
I will keep it in my mind:)
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
10 Aug 07
Yes,I don't think it is good to unwrap the gift right away,but most of my friends want me unwrap the gifts as quickly as possible.Well,maybe they just want to see my happiness.
@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
Yeah, when we give others gift, we expect them to be happy.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
in my place, we open the gifts right after the party or celebration when all the visitors are gone.. when someone give gifts to us, we just say thank you and then put it on the table of gifts then open them later on..
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
Nice to learn your custom, thanks:)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I unwrap them when I can.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
Thanks for your reply.
@mistissa (1350)
• Netherlands
10 Aug 07
I would open the gift because otherwise it will indeed seem like I don't appreciate it. Except when it is at a wedding, and I was tought not to open envelopes if you know there is money inside, infront of the givers.
@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
Thanks for your response.
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
I used to unwrap then when i get home and my daughter will kept the gift wrapper for her collection. yes saying thank you's to them.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
It's very good behavior that your daughter will keep the gift wrapper.
@socorban (651)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I live in the usa and while i admit some kids are greedy about gifts, most are not. Usually the gift giver wants to see the joy the present they got you brings. ( i know i do) I would feel kind of insulted if i gave someone a gift and they didn't open it soon so i can see their reaction and hopeful joy..
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Aug 07
If you give an Asian friend a gift and if he/she doesn't open it, please don't mind it. It is only a cultural difference.
• Malaysia
10 Aug 07
most of the time i don't unwrap the gift after i receive it. i will usually bring it back home and then only open it. unless the person who gives the present keeps insisting for me to open the present, then i would, if not i'd prefer to open it at home.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
OK, we have the similar custom:)
@Calais (10899)
• Australia
10 Aug 07
At times I can be really shy, so I will not open it straight away just for that reason..But at other times, in different circumstances I will open the present as soon as I recieve it.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
Thanks for your response.
@FaidaATL (44)
• United States
10 Aug 07
That's very interesting. In the USA we open the gift right away, in front of the giver. Just like someone else said, it is good manners to open the gift so that the giver can see our reaction, and I might add that it is good manners to behave as if you really appreciate the gift, whether you do or not. This is why we should always know as much about another person's culture before we visit their country. I hear that businesses give executives sort of a crash course before they do business in another culture. They do not want to offend the other business person that might lead to their losing the deal.
@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
You are right, it's important to learn different culture custom.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
It would really depend, on kids birthdays, kids open the gifts after the party-it's the usual in our home,but for some adults like for me, when the giver says"hey,you can open it now" then I will open it right away.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
Thanks for your reply.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Hi youless! I really don't open or unwrap gifts right after it was given to me even though I am so excited to unravel the mystery inside the wrapper, I would really wait to get home or when I am alone. However if the person who gave me the gift wanted me to unwrap it in his or her presence, I would gladly oblige. Have a nice day and take care!
@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
Thanks for your response.
@Galena (9120)
9 Aug 07
in the UK, presents tend to be opened right away. at Christmas, I love to give people presents, and see their faces when they open them. it makes me really happy to see someone I love being excited or pleased by something I've chosen for them. I still remember the exact look on my partners face when he opened a bracelet I bought for him about 4 years ago. he looked so surprised and touched, and it still makes me happy thinking about his face at that time today. it would be a great shame for the giver to miss out on the pleasure of seeing the recipient open and enjoy the present.
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@youless (99532)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
The culture custom is different between your and mine. If one day I receive a present from a western friend, I will remember to open the gift right away:)