I keep doing it to myself
August 9, 2007 9:21am CST
I thought I had perfected saying "no" to projects. But this one must have snuck up on me. I offered to make a choir robe for a friend. That was a week ago and it has taken over my diningroom and my life! First there wasn't enough fabric and he had to get more. Then my pain got so bad I couldn't work on it for more than half an hour at a time, finally had to take a whole day off from it. Then the sewing machine needle broke and I had to go buy new ones. Then I had to buy yet another yard of material. Now I have to buy a zipper foot for my sewing machine because I can't find mine - haven't used it in years - have carefully avoided having to put in zippers! And throughout the whole week we have been dealing with our pastor's spouse's illness and death. She died yesterday morning. We are coordinating information to and from the family. This is Thursday and he wants to use the choir robe Sunday. Arghhh. What was the last time you volunteered yourself into an overwhelming project?
10 Aug 07
I overcommit, but I get additional hands to help me so that I can complete the task. Such extra work will not come throughout the year and hence I take up as and when it comes and take the assistance of others in the field, complete it, charge accordingly.
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9 Aug 07
I'm the same way. Just when I thought I had perfected the art of saying "No" or "I'll get back to you", I got sucked into a project based on guilt. A few years ago I won a scholarship from an organization. I was new to the area and didn't really know anyone so I went to a few of their meetings and didn't really like it and didn't really fit in but then they asked me to run the used book sale and I felt so guilty that they had given me thousands of dollars in scholarship money that I found myself saying yes when I should have said no. It was a huge job in addition to working full time and going to college full time and after it was over I never went back to the organization again. In retrospect I thought it was rude of them to ask so much of me when they knew my work and school schedule. That's the reason I won the scholarship to begin with. But ultimately it was my own fault. I should have said I'm sorry I don't have time to run it but I will volunteer to work at the sale for a few hours one day. It was horrible but I totally learned my lesson and have not been sucked into anything like that since. That was in 1999 so I think I'm doing OK. :)