Sleeping When Your Partner Is Away

United States
August 9, 2007 9:55am CST
I am so excited because my hubby gets home from a work conference today. He's only been gone a few days, but his absence has wreaked havoc on my sleeping habits. I am ready to drop from exhaustion. I think the main reason I haven't been sleeping is because I don't feel as "safe" when he isn't around. That in itself is kind of ridiculous because we have a pug mix that is a terrific watchdog and he barks whenever someone even starts to come up the steps, so I would have plenty of warning if someone were to break in. If your partner travels a lot, do you find it hard to sleep normally?
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@patgalca (15627)
• Orangeville, Ontario
9 Aug 07
My husband is away right now and I am just starting to feel miserable. I guess it's because he didn't call this morning like he said he would. Our daughter had a soccer playoff game last night so he said he would call this morning to see how she did. He hasn't called. It's bad enough that he went away during the playoffs, and slept through my other daughter's championship game during a tournament a couple of weeks ago. His family just doesn't seem to come first. I think I sleep better when he is away. He works shift work so when he works nights I think I sleep better because then he is not snoring or moving around. He doesn't always do that but when he does I notice it. Because I have fibromyalgia, whether he is away or not I stay up very late. I stay up until I know I will fall asleep the minute I hit the pillow. So I'm tired because I've been up late. My body hurts because the weather has been up and down and up and down. If I go to bed before I am exhausted I hear noises that aren't even there and feel a little insecure. My husband is on vacation visiting his family. He left on Monday and won't be back until next Thursday. He's done this before and it is always a stressful time. More stressful this year because my girls are playing outdoor soccer and he is missing those moments of pride a parent feels. Okay, ramble over.
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@patgalca (15627)
• Orangeville, Ontario
19 Nov 07
Thank you for the best response mark. :)
@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I have the same problem!! My husband is in the military so when he isn't home I sleep on the couch. I don't know why but I can't sleep in our bed, maybe because it is away from out kids rooms so I am afraid someone will break in and I won't hear anything. So I sleep on the couch in the living room so I can hear everything =)
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• United States
17 Aug 07
That is totally understandable. I find it funny that I get so nervous about someone breaking in sometimes, I guess that I consider my hubby the ultimate protector (even with his chicken legs-lol).
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@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I find it difficult to sleep when he decides to stay up later than I do. I guess I am just used to him being there that when he isn't in the bed I just can not get comfortable.
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• United States
15 Aug 07
He normally stays up later than I do on the weekend; it doesn't really affect my sleeping patterns though because I can faintly hear the tv on downstairs so I know he's around.
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
9 Aug 07
i sleep better sometimes but i know what you mean because i used to be like that, but now hubby tosses and turns alot, so when he is gone, i sleep a bit better....
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• United States
15 Aug 07
He normally gets up for work an hour and a half before I get up, so then I get to stretch out over the whole bed which is great. It was just so hard for me to slepp through the whole night when he was gone.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
13 Aug 07
Oh I so know what you mean. I usually stay up half the night until I'm ready to drop. I'm with you I think it's the safety thing as well as the loneliness of him not being there sleeping with me
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
13 Aug 07
Mine does not travel but when he does I cannot sleep either- Heck I don’t fall asleep soundly until he is in bed with his arm around me- or mine around him- Odd- but I feel safe there and that is how I fall asleep! So I know what you are talking about!
@pendragon (3352)
• United States
9 Aug 07
When my gf is away, the bed just feels wrong, like you keep waiting for their presence, and there is no way to concentrate that feeling away.
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• Canada
17 Aug 07
I don't think it's a matter of safety, I think it has to do with love. We al feel less "safe" or less "something....secure maybe?" when we are away from the people we really love. In a month I'll have to go home to Canada for a while, and my fiance and I won't be together for a some time. We will miss eachother like crazy until we are able to get back together.
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