why is it so hard to get kids to take baths?

United States
August 9, 2007 12:33pm CST
I am just wondering why is it so hard to get kids to take baths.. My son hates taking them.. I have to actually run the water and tell him bath time.. I sometimes have to fight with him just to get him to take one.. Now when he was about 4 he used to get right in and play and just take one.. Now that he's 8 he say oh mom I'll take one later! lol that normally never works with me.. So do you have problems trying to get your children to take baths or is it hard for you too?
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@vinzen (1020)
• India
9 Aug 07
Hi, well you are right and i think kids either love theor bath time or then they just hate getting into the water, there are mostly two extreme cases, so were either of my daughters, one would love to bath and not get out of the tub, while the other had to pushed into it . I guess, allthis is a phase of growing up for the kids too. And i think those who dont like bathing , maybe the reason is not wanting to get out of their clothes and get into the bath and wear new clothes again or maybe the change in the wate temperature. !! Yes, they love to delay and ge out of bath time as much as they can, but part of our training, that they must bathe daily. :)
• United States
9 Aug 07
I think he thinks that the water might be to hot and he's afraid of wanting to get into it.. I've always checked the water to make sure that it wasn't hot it was warm.. I think it is a phase of child not wanting to take a bath because like I've said he used to love too.. Thanks for your reply!
@vinzen (1020)
• India
10 Aug 07
Hi yes you are right that kids either hate water if its not the right temperature but if you have already taken care of that, then its surely a passing phase and hed out grow of it too soon.
• United States
10 Aug 07
yes I agree, Sooner or later anyway.. Thank you again!
@fab315 (1231)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
My daughter is only 2 yrs old, so far we have no problem giving her a bath. She loves water and likes playing with it. Although, I admit, there are times that she's in this funny mood that she wants you to chase her before giving her a bath, but once she's in the water it's very hard to take her out. LOL! She loves having a bath. She's in Philippines w/ my parents and since the weather is not really cold there, they give her baths in the morning and before going to sleep at night everyday. Well, except for days when she's not feeling well. There are times that she's the one who will tell us that it's her bathtime. *smiles*. Why is it so hard to get kids to take baths? Well, children can be quite sensitive to changes in their environment, particularly their social environments, and particularly to changes in routine. Especially when their doing something or playing and you'll ask them to have a bath, it's just impossible. LOL!!Maintain a casual, supportive, patient stance, he'll likely revert to his former stance. Hope that helps! Enjoy your bathtime..*smiles* cheers! :D
• United States
11 Aug 07
Thank you and yes I do think your right.. Distrubing them in the middle of something isn't the way to go.. I know I've done that before.. He'd be playing a game or something and I'd say bath time and he doesn't like that idea. OF course I don't go running the water right away to make sure he takes it some of the time i wait until he's done with the game and than do it.. Thanks for your reply!!
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
10 Aug 07
Oh, i understand your problem but icant really suggest you the methods of making him to love bathing as my kid loves bathing and he is always excited to get bathe and he enjoys while bathing and for this i thank the God.
• United States
11 Aug 07
In a Matter of time he will get back into taking baths I'm sure... As I've been reading threw it it might he is in the middle of something or than i am not sure.. I guess I'll see.. Thanks for your reply!
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Most of the time, my 5 year old refuses to take a bath when she is busy playing or in the middle of something she's really engrossed with. We always end up fighting over it, but she still agrees in the end. I think it's a phase all children goes through. I remember when I was young, there was a time that I didn't like to take a bath too. I don't know but I just felt so lazy then, even to brush my teeth! Whenever I look back, it still makes me laugh. Don't worry, your son will also reach the stage when he'll be conscious about his hygiene, especially when he starts getting interested in girls. And when that time comes, he'll be taking frequent baths and that's for sure! :)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I totally agree.. Can't be going around smelly around the girls... I don't ever recall not wanting to take a bath I loved the water and washing and playing in them.. Or at least that's what my mom has told me... I know he will get wanting to take more and more baths pretty soon I will have a problem probley keeping in him out of the water!! Thanks for your reply!!
• India
10 Aug 07
I think kids hate parents' interference when they bath. They always think that they can do things right on their own. This is what I used to feel when I was kid. So, I think this could be the main reason behind it.
• United States
11 Aug 07
No he just don't want to get in the tub when it's bath time, Maybe wrong timing? That can be possible.. But am wondering when is the right time... Before bed maybe? Or sometime in the evening..Or even maybe in the middle of the day? Thanks for your reply!
10 Aug 07
Try some innovative methods. Make him realize that having bath is fun. let him play in water say 10 min prior bath. u can give him small pieces of unwanted used soap. he can make bubbles and enjoy for sometime. This is from my experience. I have a daughter who is 5. I let her be herself for sometime before bath. And finally after she is done, i give her a bath.
• United States
10 Aug 07
It's not the fact of him playing in the water it's trying to get him to take one.. That's the problem I have with him.. When he's in he don't want out of it.. When he is in the water I do let him play and do that sort of thing..Thanks for your reply!
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
well, my kid loves taking a bath.. he's the one who reminds me that's it's time for him to take a bath especially when i'm busy with my chores and busy taking care of my baby.. he take a bath twice, one in the morning and another one before he go to bed..
• United States
10 Aug 07
Aww how sweet.. He loves his baths that I can see.. As we all know some do and some don't... One bath a day is good for a child but two just means they love it and want to be clean.. Thanks for your reply!!
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Children's age has something to do with it. That's exactly what is happening to my child now. When he was younger, he even wants to take a bath two or three times a day. Now I needed to persuade him, and worst, scold him just to get himself to the bathroom. And he even takes a lot longer in there because he doesn't want to get wet at once.
• United States
10 Aug 07
It kind of seems like kids are afraid of water in the tub but why? Even I don't understand this one.. They will go to the beach and swim and swim and it don't even faze them.. Is it because they are wearing a swim suit and know they don't have to take it off and at home they need to in order to get into the tub? Could be a reason why Also.. Thanks for your reply!!
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
With my eldest kid I have no problem but with the youngest yes... Well I just make bathing a fun activity for them. I have to allow them play with water so that they wont get bored taking a bath. ALso with my youngest I have to shampoo her head while lying on my lap so not to let the water on her face... she hates it so much.
• United States
10 Aug 07
My son is the same way he don't like water on his face.. He thinks it will get into his eyes and burn them and i don't know he thinks that.. He has no tears shampoo so I don't believe that will burn his eyes.. I really don't know cause i don't use it.. That could be a reason why also.. I know he don't like washing his hair when he is in the tub.. I have to remind him to do so.. Thanks for your reply!
@youless (112113)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Aug 07
I think most children like water and especially likes to play in water. My son is 3 years old and he has no problem to have a bath. I will give him something to play in the bath tub, so he likes it and think taking a bath is a fun thing.
• United States
10 Aug 07
The age of 3 they love it, it's just when they get old is when they don't want to take them... However they like the pool and things like that.. Just not the tubs.. Makes me wonder is all.. Thanks for your reply!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I have a daughter that absolutely hated baths and showers as she got older. When she was younger she liked the bath but did always put up a fight when I shampooed her and soaped up her little body. As she grew older and began taking baths and showers on her own, I just assumed she had outgrown that little phase. She had not. What I found out was that she was going into the bathroom and just running the water alot so I would think she was taking a shower. It was a real problem until she hit about 13 and suddenly she did a complete turn around. I think what your child is going thru is common for many kids from what I gather from talking to other parents. My daughter was just so lazy when it came to hygene that it just made me wild. Now she is just the opposite. I think this is just a phase and he will outgrow it. lets hope.
• United States
10 Aug 07
I hope so too.. It's not that he's lazy cause when it comes to bathing he just don't want too.. But once he's in he loves it.. He will play and just have all sorts of fun.. When it's time to come out he sometimes don't want to do that either...lol I am just though hoping it is some sort of phase.. My husband thinks it is also like you said.. Well have to see...Thanks for your reply!
@BinKsBaBy (505)
• United States
10 Aug 07
my duaghter hated taking a bath until she was 3, we had many times that the neibors called the cops because of her screaming, it didnt help that she would scream help me somebody help me! LOL but now she loves the tub and i have to figh ther to get out of the bath! i think its something kids go thru boys enjoy being dirty up until the age they want to attract girls! LOL so maybe try hosing him off outside he he kidding
• United States
10 Aug 07
LOL I've thought of that.. just kidding... He loves the water sprinkler we have that's cold cold water too.. Your right boys loving being dirty that's for sure...At least I know mine does.. One day he might get in the habit of wanting to get into the tub with out a fuss.. Thanks for your reply!
• India
10 Aug 07
My kid love to bath.He wants himself to be wet throughout the day.He is 4 years old one.He likes to keep himself clean and tidy.If he feels he is uncomfortable then he starts crying until he bath.Sometime i feel sad becoz too much of bath may cause harm to one's body know.So,i approached doctor,he said to keep him fresh everyday just cleaning his body with a piece of cloth,in which ever part he feels uncomfortable and try to avoid baths so many times by divert his intention to do it by giving some toys or etc.... things.I think ur kids are other way. Its really hard for me to keep my kid away from bath all the time. No problem wisconsin,these problems occur in each and every family.Its matter of seconds to resolve,till then we have to wait and try our best to resolve them. What do u say.......
• United States
10 Aug 07
I am not understand one part of your reply... "To much bath might cause harm to ones body?" How is that possible? I don't believe that is true water is suppose to be good for it, even if it is a bath it just means they are that much cleaner.. I do agree we can resolve the problem its just something might be wrong meaning he might be afraid of the water or something in that sort or he just don't want to take his cloths off to get into the tub to be washed.. Either or that's what I think... Thanks for your reply!!
• United States
10 Aug 07
why is it so hard to get kids to take baths? Because they too young they're not realize that take baths is a good thing,but they will get use to it.
• United States
10 Aug 07
Maybe so, but by the age of 8 they should know to take a bathe right? lol I don't know ever child is different though some love them some don't... Thanks for you reply!
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
you're not alone my dear ha!ha!ha! my son aged 11 is so lazy to take a bath. He is just obligated to take a bath on weekdays before going to school. But during weekends and on days without classes, i have to pull him to go to the bathroom. well, maybe it would pass anyway..
• United States
10 Aug 07
Age 11 oh no I think I am in for it for awhile eh'.. I sure hope not.. I just don't know why he's like this though.. I never did ask him either..Maybe if I talk to him i might get a better understanding why..But what I don't get is when he's in he won't get out...lol...Thanks for your reply!
@archer1811 (1098)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
In my son's case I dont have the hard time taking him a bath, once I ask him that its time to take a bath he will come to me rushing, he loves swimming too, but most of the parents have the same comment with you in taking their child a bath, maybe because the child thinks that taking a bath disturb them in playing and of course the cold water which they are afraid of, that's why even my son is on his 6th bday on dec. I still use to take a bath him with warm water...Why not try to fool your child that after taking a bath you will rewarded him of a toy or get him into the play pen or anything that child will fond of..
• United States
10 Aug 07
My son doesn't need a play pen he's 8 years old.. I think you mis read something, but it's all good hee hee... I don't put him in cold water either it's warm... I do let him though take toys in the tub with him.. It's just the fact of getting him the tub once he's in he don't want to get out is all..Thanks for your reply!
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
9 Aug 07
My grandsons would live in the tub if I let them...lol.. They are only 5 and 3. Does he like to take a shower? Maybe he would like that better..The boys love taking showers too!
• United States
10 Aug 07
Nope I've tried that with him and he screams, So that idea is out.. I am not sure why though.. I mean he'll go to the beach and jump in no problems but that it's not going to happen.. I've told him showers can be fun..lol But of course he can't play with toys doing that.. Thanks for your reply!
• Australia
9 Aug 07
i give my children showers, but i do believe people leave bathing to the end of the day when the child is tired, or they have been at school all day and want some of there own time, like we all do. you could try and sit down with your son and ask him when would be a good time for him to take a bath, if this dosen't work then i would take something away from him and he can earn it back by willingly taking baths.
• United States
10 Aug 07
I'm not that mean...lol It's just the fact he doesn't want to get in it's almost like one time he was burn by water or something but I know he hasn't unless he tried to do it himself one time or something else.. Not sure that could be though.. I know when he washes his hands he turns on the hot instead of the cold and he does burn himself so he pulls away fast.. I've told him to turn on both so it's warm.. Not sure! Thanks for your reply!!
• Philippines
9 Aug 07
my daughter is 21 months old, and I have no problem with giving her a bath... the only problem is she take a bath 2to 3 times a day... I give a bath early in the morning, then after all that needs to be done, I will take mine, and my daughter will insist that she also take a bath with me,... so what I do,... is we take a bath together,,, i'm afraid she get sick if she take so many bath a day... she loves playing in the water.. I dont know if she grows older... i hope her loves for bathing never changes...lol
• United States
10 Aug 07
Kids at that age love bathes, No matter what.. Actually my nephew loved them too until his dad put him in water and never checked the temp and he got his bum burned poor little kid.. Sense than all he does is scream when it comes to bathe time.. My son just doesn't want to get in once he does he doesn't want to get out.. Makes no sense to me... Thanks for your reply!
9 Aug 07
I don't have any problems with my kids. I had a friend who did however and with her child, He was also 8, as soon as she let him shower the fight was over. He felt too old to be taking a bath. You might want to try that.
• United States
10 Aug 07
I just made a reply to that, he won't he screams for some reason.. I'm thinking cause the water comes down on him and he can't see very well.. Kind of my thought! Thanks for you reply!