Is it dangerous to meet with people you originally met online?

@mjasmin (178)
Micronesia
August 11, 2007 4:06pm CST
Have you done it before? How did it turn out? I've done it a few times and I always tend to be overcautious at each meetings. Most of them turned out well, actually all of them turned out well but one of the people I met turned out to be an idiot after our second meeting.
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@arcidy (5005)
• United States
11 Aug 07
Of course its dangerous to meet with people youve already met online because just because you met them online you still dont really know that much about them and you dont know if there lying to you the whole time your talking like someone could be impersonating a lady and might seem like one to you and if you meet then they might hurt you or kill you you just can never know what people might do over the internet.
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• United States
11 Aug 07
Sure, it can be dangerous. But really, it's just a matter of exercising some caution and a little common sense. You know, meet in a public place, maybe bring friends along with you, things like that. I tend to be kind of overcautious about this stuff too, but usually my method is just having a quick way out of the meeting if it goes sour. Many people that are online, as you've probably found out, can have great personalities and not be considered the weird-offs that you hear about on the news or in made-for-TV movies. I think meeting people online is just as effective as meeting people in real life...we're all the same people, just sitting behind a computer. I've had the opportunity to meet a few people from online, which has resulted in some amazing discussions and great friendships. Overall, just about as much hit-and-miss as meeting people in real life! (At least in my experience.)
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@mjasmin (178)
• Micronesia
13 Aug 07
Very optimistic perspective yet while advising caution and common sense. Indeed, as you say, there are many people with great personalities that you can meet from the internet. Nice picture by the way.
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
11 Aug 07
I've met a guy online from a particular website.The outcome was very nice.I was very nervous but everything went smoothly.I suppose to meet another friend online very soon.I am looking forward to meeting her.We have talked on the phone on everything.
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• United States
11 Aug 07
I think there's a possibility of danger, the same as meeting any other stranger. But mine has a happy ending. I met my sweety online. We lived 500 miles apart but we met and it was love at first sight. We've been together 8 yrs now and are very happy.
@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
11 Aug 07
I met female friends I had known online for a long time at a public event and that worked out great. I met another female friend and her husband at an event and again, it was fine. However, when I was younger, I stupidly met a guy I had talked to for months and trusted and I was nearly sexually molested. I managed to get away before anything awful happened but I will never meet a guy alone no matter who he is and I will only meet people at public events or in public places. I haven't met anyone from online in ages and probably won't again. People are crazy! But I definitely urge you to meet people in public because you just never know for sure if the person behind the screen is really the same in real life.
@mjasmin (178)
• Micronesia
13 Aug 07
I like the fact that your response has both sides, meeting people you know only online can work out great but it can also turn out to be a nightmare. I think you're lucky to be able to find female friends online, I've found that quite difficult.
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@jainaewen (170)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
hi mjasmin i think it depends.my fiance an i met online and when we met in person its more sweeter.
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
12 Aug 07
Yes I am going to have to say it is dangerous.. But sometime to the come of meeting people can be good sometimes bad.. It all depends on the person... I have found that people are totally different though than they are on the computer.. They would shy I'm shy yeah right they aren't shy or they shy I not yeah right they are.. I've met a person a few years back and well it didn't turn out so great he ended up being a stalker.. Talk about scary! sense than I haven't met anyone from online..
@kage2k3 (1443)
• India
12 Aug 07
i think its not much dangerous. Because most of the people turn out to be nice. Ya there are some idiots also. So you have to be cautious from them.
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@globell45 (142)
• United States
12 Aug 07
I think it is.
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• United States
12 Aug 07
I have done this. 4 years ago I agreed to meet with someone and we have been together ever since. We are getting married later this year. We have a beautiful little girl. I think you are smart to be overcautious, you never know what will happen.
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@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
12 Aug 07
Before being married I had several dates with people that I met online. I guess I probably met about 10 men. My husband is one of the men that I met and ended up marrying :) I also have a great friend that I've know for over 5 years and we just officially met in March and have been visiting with each other since then. We also talk on the phone just about everyday. He lives about 700 miles away from me, so we don't get to see each other that often. :(
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@kc4144 (34)
• Mexico
11 Aug 07
Well, I`ve done it before and always had been cool, even I had a girlfriend I meet on line, but I must accept that you always be in danger when you go out with somebody who anybody knows
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@jofielc (204)
• United States
12 Aug 07
I think its dangerous. Too bad people try to hurts some people.
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• Pakistan
12 Aug 07
i met 3 or 4 persons originally wid whom i met online but mostly all were fake so frm that day i stopped meeting my net friends because what they told me on net they are not that kindda person
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@jazgottt (1180)
• Poland
11 Aug 07
I thought it is not for me, meeting boys online. Now I'm in love, and I met him... online:) I'm absolutly not shy, but he is, so I think it would be hard to find such a treasure in real. I was dating many boys, all of them I met in real. It's quite funny that I met him online. I think you should be careful when it comes to first meeting, but if you're smart and take care about your safety, you'll find a place where your meeting can be safe.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
1 Jan 08
Hello dear mjasmin. I have never met anyone online in real life. But I have not exact idea about whether it is safe or dangerous to meet one in real life. I would be happy to meet someone online in real life instead of just online. Of course, like the question you raised here, I wish that it were safe to meet the person without getting any dangerous factors. Thanks very much for your old discussion.
@mjasmin (178)
• Micronesia
3 Jan 08
Hi William. Thanks for the new reply:) If you make a good friend online I think meeting that person in real like also should be a great experience. I also think that there are ways to be safe while having those meetings but if there is any doubt about safety then you should not meet.