I'm tired of listening!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
August 14, 2007 10:35pm CST
Sometimes when my spouse starts on a rant about something, I just want to bury my head under a pillow! And, I'm sure that he feels the same way when it's my turn to sound off. Lately, we've found very unique ways to drown each other out. For instance, today I noticed that he was staring off at the wall as I was trying to talk to him. And, then I realized he was trying to go to sleep. Well, I can't blame him too much. I was getting kind of bored with the argument myself. And, it's not like I've never done the same thing to him. My tactics are a little more subtle. Sometimes I like to drown out his comments with the vacuum. You can't argue with a woman who is cleaning. Or, at least you shouldn't.
So how do you drown out your signifigant other when you just don't want to hear what they have to say? Do you close your eyes and pretend to be elsewhere? Do you turn up the TV, so you can't hear the noise? Or, do you roll over in the bed and pretend to be asleep?
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@kelly60 (4546)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I am not currently in a relationship, but I remember when I was that there were many times when neither of us wanted to hear what the other one had to say. Often I would end up walking away, because if I didn't it would just end up being an argument. He always had to have everything his way and he would never listen to my side of any of it.
@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
That is what happen to me too, I always walked away but my husband would go where I go and start his talking again. He always don't like to listen to me and he always thinks he is correct. And if I go then sometimes he hurt me so I would listen to him. Too bad for us.
@kelly60 (4546)
• United States
17 Aug 07
One night when I had enough I ducked out the door and hid in the dark behind some trees. He had no idea where I had gone but was mad as heck because He thought I had left. I sat out there for an hour or so till we both had time to cool off before I went back in to talk. Then I told him that I hadn't left but had just needed him to leave me alone for a little while. It made him think, if only for a little while. I'm not saying that it would work for anyone else, but it did in this case.
Eventually I ended up leaving him anyway, and if he is hurting you, then you should seriously consider leaving him before he hurts you much worse that what he has so far. I should have left after the verbal abuse rather than sticking around for the physical abuse to start. Believe me, it won't get any better and no matter how much he promises to stop, he won't. I know it can be hard to leave, but trust me, you will be better off.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I switch off and pretend to be listening but really I am not. Most of the time I do listen and just nod along the way.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
16 Aug 07
All great options- I like the vacuuming trick- But I don’t do it- I usually just look at him- shake my head and nod- but my mind isn’t there- it’s going- blah blah blah- lol… or thinking about my to do list- or grocery list- But I try to look interested- thankfully he doesn’t complain too much!
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I actually listen to what my husband has to say when he's mad. He normally keeps in, so I know if he wants to talk about it, it is really bugging him! Plus I like to fight every once in a while. I think it keeps our relationship strong. I don't mean like really fighting, just small arguments. It allows us both to get our points out there, and then we can forget about whatever was bothering us.
The only time I ever ignore my husband, and watch TV or something while he is talking, is when he is talking about something he wants to do to his truck. Once he tells me how much it is going to cost, I figure the rest of it isn't really all that important to me. I could care less how he is going to go about fixing the air conditioner, as long as it doesn't end up costing us too much money!
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
15 Aug 07
Have you tried asking him to email you - or maybe taking of fyour clothes and sitting cross-legged in front of him. Or putting on a silly hat?
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
15 Aug 07
Have you tried asking him to email you - or maybe taking of fyour clothes and sitting cross-legged in front of him. Or putting on a silly hat?
